Do you pay/reward your children for their results/reports?

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I think for this occasion, just look at her and tell her you are really proud of her, this is enough.

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I bought my DD an iPhone she wanted when she got all 1s in her effort grades in Yr 7. We spoke about her Christmas report when she got three 2s and I did say I would love her to get all 1s if possible, but I didn't think to reward her until after the event. I did the same in Yr 9 when she got all 1s again (upgrade from 6 to 8iphone). Now she is in Yr 10 I won't be rewarding her as phone still under contract and I feel she is old enough to do it all for her own rewards. She wants to do well in her GCSEs next year so wants to do well in Yr10. If however she had been lazy or not bothered and I felt she would do better with a bribe I would do it.

For Y6 SATS DD got pizza from her favourite shop after the last exam. I prefer to praise effort not result.

The only time she got a reward was after finally passing the bloody pencil licence which made all our life a misery for months and she worked really hard and improved significantly.

Nothing for sport badges hen it is normal progress. For her riding exam we took her for lunch and ice cream afterwards,

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You should really have started your own thread rather than bumping one that's 13 years old.

We do random meals/days out etc as treats. We don't tie monetary value to results. We reward hard work/effort - eg DD1 got little treats during GCSEs and then an 'extra' thing for prom, rather than waiting for results day. DD2, y9, is currently on a star chart for doing revision without fussing. The reward will be before the actual exams as it's for the effort/no-fuss not the results.

So my advice is

• keep things random
• praise hard work
• if they ask for reward then they (generally) don't get

Hi, This is slightly related so I hope someone can help. My 9-year-old daughter was walking with our adult friends through a field. The conversation turned to Earthquakes; before one of the adults started explaining how they come about, my daughter burst in and went into full-on detail about Tiptonic plates and failure system etc etc (far beyond my knowledge anyway!). What struck me most was the enthusiasm and successful way of explaining her knowledge. When we got home I was so proud and wanted to show her how proud, I gave her £10 of my own birthday money, and said. "I'm not giving you this as money as such, I'm giving you this as a sign of a reward. You work hard, learn all you can and find something that you are passionate about then rewards will come your way. Now, I'm stuck and slightly ashamed that I used money. I'm worried I really did the wrong thing and got lost in how proud I was and wanted to express and encourage it. Now I'm worried about the long game and the next time she does well, I want to steer away from money. Any advice welcome.

I had no intention of ever offering such financial rewards - we never had them as children (and Dh's parents don't give a fig about any form of education), but Ds1 was coasting so much, and so reluctant to work that we joined with the herd and offered fiscal rewards based on % results. I'm still unhappy about it on the grounds mentioned above, I'd far rather he worked because he enjoys doing well, but he doesn't, and he won't - he'd rather be Mr funny and cool at school :-(
the fiscal rewards did work this summer, his results, and work ethic were considerably better {resigned emoticon}

I didn't promise anything to DD for GCSE's but she did really well & we have just come back from a major shopping trip - and she said at the end "It would have been a good day even if you hadn't bought me anything", which was really sweet!

No - never have. Surely the reward is getting the good grade. If I took an exam I'd be chuffed to bits to have achieved the best I can. I wouldn't expect someone to buy me something for it. We try to get across to the kids that learning is for their benefit. If they don't feel that it's worth it then either it's not for them at this point or we haven't explained well enough how good grades would benefit them. We also don't make a big deal of it if they don't get the top grades as long as they have done their best. Seems to have worked up to now. That's not to say that we are not all pleased and excited with them when they do well.

DS1 (just finished year 8) got a great report this year that shows he's worked hard so I took my three kids out for lunch to celebrate. In the past I've given smallish things that he has wanted (CD etc.) just to say well done. I think it's nice if hard work is recognised; DS1 is dyslexic and finds school difficult but is really encouraged by praise.

I have a 14 year old son who will be going into year 10 in Septmber. We have decided that he will get £20 for every A-C grade GCSE,£35 for every A grade and £50 for every A*. It's difficult to get him to work hard at school even though according to his school he's really bright, as it's not the done thing to be a swot (as he sees it) if your a boy - he'd much prefer to be seen as "cool" by his peers and mess around in school or just play sport, so I'm happy to offer a financial incentice, whatever it takes to get him to put some effort in!

yes indeedy most certificates this term = £3

gcses grade c or above are worth £20 - an A* is worth £50.

there is no pressure - they can work for it or not - up to them.

it works out evenly - becuase ds1 didn't pas any - we think- but spent £200 on toold for his job

will do the same for ds2 who prolly wont pass any either

so the loser will be dd becuase she will have to get an awful lot of gcses to get the equiv.

For A levels and GCSEs. I've drawn the line at degrees, though. It's a controvesial subject. I think for public exams that will be on their job and university applications if it's not against your principles do it.
I got some money on my A levels or O levels.

I dont think there is anything wrong in rewarding for reports / exam results and so on.

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Mine aren't that age yet, but I won't be doing it. I think they should achieve good results or do their best for themselves and not for me. I have worked with too many people who even in adult life only work for money or bonuses and not for themselves so I think paying them for school work can foster the wrong attitude.

We usually buy big treats for exceptionally good reports - passing entrance exams, but only ever after the fact IYSWIM.

I like linking reward to effort - it is in fact the basis on which of us are rewarded during all of our lives, and I think it's good to get the message in early.

I wouldn't pay bribe money though, as I firmly believe that self motivation is far more important than bribery in life. However, if they decide to put in the effort, then I will reward it!

DS has overcome a lot of speech and language problems and early reading was troublesome for him. His report card was fantastic for this year, and his teacher has praised him to the hills and back - so he was handsomely rewarded this year.

I suppose I could always threaten a major piercing, if they didn't work hard enough!!

It was from me too!

Sorry Rusty - it would be a big fat 'no' from me!!

DD:"Can I have a major piercing for each A* I get?" trouble is , she's predicted to get at least 5....

I would be happy to give a treat for doing well in exams, like a family outing. Not talking about cars or money.

But I find it abhorrent in principle to dangle material rewards as a pre-exam incentive for doing well. All through sec school and beyond, I was truly proud to do well in exams and crushed if I didn't. Would be really disappointed if my children did not have similar personal pride in their own academic (or other) achievements.

Ive promised dd £10 for each target she exceeds, nothing for achieving it, and loses £5 for each one she doesnt achieve. Unfortunately, the school report doesnt tell me the grades she should ahve achieved and now I have to wait until September to find these out. I do know of 2 subjects she definitely over achieved in but of course these could be cancelled out by under achieving in other areas

We reward our children for effort and results - both of which are given marks on their reports. They only get something for A's though.

In life you are (should be ) rewarded for your efforts and achievements, so I can't see what's so awful about it really.