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Do your y7 DC go straight home after school?

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ThreeDaughtersLoveSandwiches · 21/10/2013 16:36

My DD is 11 and just started in year 7. She is supposed to come straight home from school but far too often I have to go out looking for her as she has gone to a friends and has broken her phone.

Is this normal? Nothing I saw seems to be stopping her from doing it and it is causing me more stress than I need!

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bigTillyMint · 21/10/2013 17:36

When mine were in Y7, they had to ring/text to check if it was OK for them to do something other than come straight home (unless previously arranged and agreed with me)

I virtually always said yes, and they had a time to be home by. If there was a delay, they had again to ring/text. They did not abuse this trust. I now do not have a set time to expect them home by - if I am concerned that they are late, I ring/text them and they explain.

I agree with Ruprekt, she needs to earn trust and you need to get tougher with other stuff till she keeps in contact with you properly.

Ruprekt · 21/10/2013 16:57

If ds did this, he would lose his ipad, computer, tv time.

What could you take away from her so that she would be bothered?

Money?
Make up?
Screen time?

You need to get tougher or she will continue to walk over you.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 21/10/2013 16:50

I don't know what the school could do tbh.

It's going to up to you to make sure she follows the rules or sufferes the consequences.

NettoSuperstar · 21/10/2013 16:49

DD comes more or less straight home, 15 minutes later than she should be and it's fine, anything after that and she'd get a bollocking.

TantrumsAndBalloons · 21/10/2013 16:48

Yes straight home unless we agreed otherwise in advance.

No going off to a friend without saying anything.

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ThreeDaughtersLoveSandwiches · 21/10/2013 16:48

I'm not sure if I should speak to the school. I have grounded her, explained to her about how worrying it is, got angry with her and she is still doing it.

Oh and even when her phone was working I used to try and phone her but it would go straight to answer phone.

Thank you for your replies.

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usualsuspect · 21/10/2013 16:45

Mine always had to come straight home from school.

Longtallsally · 21/10/2013 16:42

We had a simple rule in Y7. If ds texted me to let me know where he was and who he was with, I usually wouldn't object. If he didn't text, he couldn't go, and was expected home within 30 mins . . .

newgirl · 21/10/2013 16:40

Mine comes straight home if not doing sports club

Ruprekt · 21/10/2013 16:39

Ds has just started in Y7.

Rules are he has to have his phone with him all the time. He must txt to say where he is going ie friends or into town.

I usually find him in his onesie doing homework when I get in.

No phone....tough! Grounded if he disappeared anywhere. Angry

Get tough OP. She is only 11. And fgs.....get her phone fixed! Shock

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