Why are some girls so nasty?

Yes, Yes to Y7-Y8 being the worse for petty unthinking nastiness.

DD1 says she got loads of stupidity in Y7-Y8 and far less in Y9 and less still in Y10.

This is exactly what I found, 30 years ago, too.

I think in the Y7&8 DCs are petrified of not making friends and not appearing cool. They use any excuse to put other DCs down to get up the ladder and bolster their confidence. Just as at primary certain DCs find themselves at the very bottom of this heap with lots of catty comments coming their way. The difference is the nastiness is all underhand and much harder for the teachers to do anything about).

As children get older, and are firmly set into groups that do several subjects together, they begin to see each other more as people. DD1 and I may be quirky and a bit different, but we are good scientists and passable mathematicians. DD1 is no fool at IT and music softwesr too. We can be useful!

Also children come to realise that being friendly with those of us who can't be arsed with the point scoring can be quite restful. Two of my BFs knew they could have chatter to me and I was not going to repeat everything they said to anyone else.

Year 7 and 8 are the worst! I know that everyone says 13+ teenage years are dreadful, but honestly, 11 and 12 are worse. And I have a DD who just ended Year 8, so I'm not biased.

My 3 eldest DDs (just finished Years 8, 10 and 12) all found the first couple of years of secondary the worst, most bitchy years. Try to ride it out, it does get easier and people start seeing the bitchy girls for what they are.

Hugs to your DD.

Horrible. What can you say..I just don't know what goes through their minds some of them?

I'm seeing a side to some of dd's 'friends' - old friends who I thought I knew well and were lovely - that has disappointed me really regarding this sort of thing.

Dd was off sick the other day. It happened to be her bf's birthday. She'd already given her nice presents and spent time with her. But on the actual birthday dd happened to be unwell and I kept her home from school. It's only about the second day off sick she's ever had I think.

The bf was so peeved about this she really made dd feel like complete shit for daring not to be at school that day to help her feel special.

She sulked and moaned about it and generally went on and on at dd because she'd had the nerve to be ill. Not a word of hope you're feeling better. This is aged 14 too. Little madam