I know that it might be a bit early as my eldest DS has only just started year four, but I'm already starting to get nervous about it.
He's been diagnosed with ASD, but his IQ has also been put on the 99.6th centile. He's doing much better at school since they realised he was bright - up until then he was bottom for everything since his writing was unreadable and his problems with social communication were much more obvious. He's now one of the better students in his year but his behavior still marks him out as different as he spends a lot of his time alone (although he has some casual friends, mainly to do with his chess club) and doesn't really do what the other kids do.
I would really like to send him to a school that focuses on his talents while being supportive of his other issues as I can see it all going horribly wrong if he gets bullied.
Does anyone know of a school which would cater for all of him? He doesn't have a statement but we may be able to scrape up enough for an independent school if need be (although tbh we'd prefer state). We're looking preferably around London and the South East.
DS2 (also ASD) is kind of in the same vein 
so we're in for a few years of worry about this stuff!