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Rewards for results?

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TaggieCampbellBlack · 19/08/2012 12:05

Are you giving your DCs presents or rewards for good results?

I'm not sure what is expected. DD says she doesnt want anything but that seems a bit mean. In my day (400 years ago) it was £10 per pass.

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iyatoda · 19/08/2012 16:50

Agree with yellowraincoat. The reward is the result. How do you even differentiate between hardwork and result? hardwork will always bring about result whether its an A*, A, B, C or what ever score.

BringBack1996 · 19/08/2012 13:09

DS is getting some books for next year (e.g. some that relate to the topics he'll be doing in history) as well as a lump sum for all of the hard work he's put in. IMO it's important to congratulate the DC on the work they've put in, and not the results they get.

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TaggieCampbellBlack · 19/08/2012 12:20

She is (mostly) lovely. Harworking, motivated etc. I've never had to nag her to do homework or revise (dd2 is a whole different story). She wants to di well and has to for her to do IB next year.
Maybe a token congratulations present.

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WilfSell · 19/08/2012 12:16

Nope. And never will. They will never learn the intrinsic value of learning if it becomes too instrumental. Good results get a nice meal out somewhere with the whole family to celebrate.

I have however just started rewarding my 13yo for effort grades on his school report. 2.50 for a B and a fiver for an A. I've told him I don't care what results he gets (do really Grin) as long as I know he is putting the effort in...

MyCatHasStaff · 19/08/2012 12:14

I have friends who have offered all kinds of complicated rewards - I've told DS that if he gets what he needs to take up the college place he's been offered for all the courses he's signed up for, he'll get a lump sum. He was happy with that, but I did offer it before he took his GCSE's.

yellowraincoat · 19/08/2012 12:12

I don't see the point. The reward is the good result.

Whatever you do, don't do what my parents did and give the lazy child (my brother) a reward and the hard-working(ish) (me) child nothing because the hard-working child "will work anyway".

Still bitter.

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TaggieCampbellBlack · 19/08/2012 12:06

And i didn't even think sbout offering before the exams as an incentive/bribe.

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