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So that the school holidays don't become one endless long lie-in...

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Joshpoodlehamster · 16/07/2012 11:23

what 'structure' do you suggest? I have managed to enrol one for a 'Gym Zone' that takes youngsters 14 -16 in the afternoon but other ideas welcome.

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Fluffy1234 · 17/07/2012 15:32

I have managed to find a drama workshop thing for my 12 and 13 year old for the first week. Then we have 2 and a half weeks of slobbing, watching Olympics at home and the odd day out/trip to cinema and going to two Olympic events. Then on a cruise for 11 days with lots of activities and excursions and then 1 and a half week of a mixture of slobbing and days out.
Can't wait actually and am quite hoping my boys will lay in bed all morning so I can watch the gymnastics in peace.

wordfactory · 17/07/2012 15:27

13 weeks...faints...

Maryz · 17/07/2012 15:21

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racingheart · 17/07/2012 14:50

13 weeks Maryz? The one thing I dread about DC going to indie schools for secondary is the very long holidays.

I understand wanting to let them slob around for a few days in pjs but not for the whole summer. They'll have much better memories if they get out of bed and go and do something challenging and worth their while, imho. Volunteering or part time work, or summer camps. Or just physical challenges. One summer a friend and I set each other a challenge to swim a mile a day and we did. It was monotonous but it turned me from a really weak swimmer into a strong, confident one and I lost weight too.

When I were a lass I spent most summers at endless youth theatres - away from home from age 14 for most of the summer. My niece goes off and looks after horses at a stables 100s of miles away from home, and my nephew did a work placement at a sound engineering firm. DCs in their teenage years need a bit of adventure. Much more fun than lying in all afternoon.

Maryz · 17/07/2012 13:45

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wordfactory · 17/07/2012 11:54

eacing you sound busy Grin.

Mine are 13, so maybe a little older?

Also they get 8 weeks off, DD almost 9. She's already been off more than a week!!!! Fortunately she went straight off onto a language course that she sorted out at Easter Wink.

racingheart · 17/07/2012 11:22

That's 20 small boys not 320 mall boys. I think I'd play dead if 320 mall rats came stomping up the hill.

racingheart · 17/07/2012 11:20

Maybe I've gone too far the other way but nearly every day of our summer is booked up.

Swimming lessons first week, which means they get up early but have rest of the day to mill around with friends or go to cinema.
Olympic cycling - free to watch.
Second week up North visiting rellies.
Olympic games tickets booked.
3rd week - a couple of day-long workshops they begged to do in their favourite subjects. Plus a mega water-fight capture the flag game with about 320 mall boys on a nearby hill. Free days to see friends, go into London, watch whatever cr*p the Odeon is foisting on us this summer, etc.
4th week in Scotland visiting rellies for some high octane Glaswegian all day and all night festival where kids go feral with laser light guns and live on neat sugar for three days.
5th week - multi-sport camp so I can get some work done.
6th week on holiday in Europe.
Back to school.

I'm shattered just looking at the diary!

Sounds like yours are older than mine Wordfactory, so they can probably sort themselves out. But if not, you could try bunging them a project such as: whatever you earn this summer, I'll match it.

wordfactory · 17/07/2012 10:42

webwiz same here.

Let DD lie in til 10am and she won't got bed that night til 10pm. And onwards...

I let it happen after a sleep over or aparty etc, but ohter than that I don't let it become a pattern. This morning I roused the troops and sent them out to walk the dog while I wait in for a package delivery.

If they want to play tennis, swim, go to the ice rink etc, I make it clear that lifts will be available before lunch.

And they also book themselves on courses...so that means getting up.

grovel · 17/07/2012 10:01

Or do I mean Newquay? Or Rock?

grovel · 17/07/2012 10:01

Send them to Torquay with a case of vodka.

webwiz · 17/07/2012 09:48

The problem with lie ins is that they tend to get longer and longer as the holiday progresses and bedtime ends up moving to ridiculous hours of the morning. DD2 can become completely nocturnal in about 3 days.

It also means that any sort of impromptu outing is completely impossible because someone will still be their pyjamas and need a shower even if it 3 o'clock in the afternoon and anything that involves getting up at a vaguely normal time becomes incredibly stressful and half the time not even worth the hassle. DD1 and I have been invited out for lunch today - you'd think it was a 6am due to the fuss about alarm clocks and wake up calls.

To save my sanity we have a midday rule and anyone who is still in bed after that will have the sound of the hoover outside their bedroom door.

KatyMac · 17/07/2012 09:20

Excluding weekends (& she is working some of those) DD only has 9 days off all summer

I'll let her lie in a bit

Coconutty · 17/07/2012 09:15

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schoolchauffeur · 17/07/2012 09:13

Bit of a mix here. DD(17) has been decorating her bedroom so I have pointed out that I have a lot on at the moment and if she wants my help ( which she does) then she has to get up and get on with it, so usually working on that by 10.00 ish.

Both have a few jobs to do- DD is being paid to do the ironing ( turns out she is way better at it than me) and DS (14) does all the recycling ( we live rurally and no recycling collection so he has to sort it all out, bag it, put it in car and then go with me to recycle point) and keeps the cars tidy.

Oh and dog walking every day. Other days when its been tipping with rain, not much else on, I let them sleep in. Both usually up by 11.00 though so not too bad.

Cynner · 17/07/2012 01:55

I am with the lie inners..although I currently hate my family so should wake them up now just because..

HeathRobinson · 17/07/2012 01:49

Let them have their lie-ins, teenagers need their sleep.
And I have horrible memories of my dad waking me up in the holidays, just because he thought I ought to be up. Why?

Viperidae · 17/07/2012 00:40

NO NO NO! Enjoy the lie-ins and the time to relax with your children. Mine have now grown up and I no longer have a term time contract and really resent having to work all year round and losing that wonderful time.

Make the time to enjoy it!

Themumsnot · 17/07/2012 00:34

DD1 plays her guitar all day and teaches herself songs off the internet. At night she roams around the house playing them to anyone who will sit still for long enough. This is fine except some of the lyrics are only suitable for the fairly broad of mind.

bruffin · 17/07/2012 00:20

Ds just git home from work , and took a shift for tomorrow at 6am. I think he will need a nap tomorrow afternoon.

Maryz · 17/07/2012 00:16

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BackforGood · 17/07/2012 00:07

I don't really have a horror of endless lie-ins, more a jealousy I think Grin
tbh, once you take out the time they are on various camps, and the time we are looking after small relative, and the time we are away and the time we are at a wedding,k and the day of collecting the GCSE results, and the odd day where we have to go and get new school shoes, etc at the end of holiday, there's not that many lie ins anyway.

TalkinPeace2 · 16/07/2012 21:43

our gym has supervised sessions 2 mornings a week at 10 am. that will do.

RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie · 16/07/2012 20:19

Must admit we tend to leave our two to it, though we do insist on at least one family outing a week to a restaurant, cinema or something - and if they want spending money to do things with their friends, they have a few jobs around the house to do.

dexter73 · 16/07/2012 20:16

I don't arrange anything for my dd(15). If she wants to lie in bed all morning that is up to her!