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help - DD in middle of GCSE s - Yr 10 and school just found she has dyslexia

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ThatVikRinA22 · 11/06/2012 12:03

for a while all has not been quite right with DD who is almost 15, and i have had countless meetings with school who kept reassuring me that she was not the brightest pupil but expected to get quite respectable grades yadda yadda yadda....

She has gone from being in the top set for everything to the bottom or second from bottom and its absolutely knocked her confidence for six.

anyway, she came home a few weeks ago saying she had discovered she could read much better from blue paper.....cue massive alarm bells as my son went through the same school without them picking up he had dyslexia - he was dx 6 weeks into college....

anyway - i phoned up and told them what she had said

so they tested her last day of term and she showed a positive result for dyslexia - ive phone school back today and asked to speak with the person who tested her and also enquired who the SENCO is.

given that she is in yr 10 now, in the midst already of GCSE, i am thinking a meeting is not out of order to ask for....??

yesterday she told me that she felt that because she started in Yr 8 in the top sets for everything, and now, in Yr 10 she has fallen through set after set, she said she has felt "thick" for a long time and has just about given up of any hope of getting to college....

im so sad that this has happened and i want to make sure that she is adequately supported - one to the things ive noticed during her GCSE revision is that she has all the information in her head but she cant get it out and on paper in any logical order.....

what should i do now? please help! i am anxious to start getting her adequately supported given that i am sure this is the reason for her grades falling so dramatically year on year....plus there is the confidence issue to deal with - she has just about written herself off.

help!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 11/06/2012 12:34

they have stressed that it is not a diagnosis as they cannot diagnose - i should probably ask to see ed psyche possibly....but i doubt they will go for that. i had to fight tooth and nail for DS to see one and he has AS and Dyspraxia....

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PostBellumBugsy · 11/06/2012 12:32

Vicar, i'm not sure it is the school's responsibility to diagnose dyslexia.
If I were you, I would get your DD assessed properly (as soon as possible) to find out exctly what cognitive impairments she has that are leading to the use of the umbrella term "dyslexia". Depending on what impairments she has will depend on what type of teaching techniques will be most appropriate to help her.

ThatVikRinA22 · 11/06/2012 12:32

thanks lil - im at work until late tonight and wont get back onto MN until late - might try new thread. worth a shot. thanks.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 11/06/2012 12:30

should point out they can "predict" what they want to but she isnt getting their predicted grades....she will miss out on getting to college if she continues like this.

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lilolilmanchester · 11/06/2012 12:29

Well depends who did the test. If it is someone who specialises in dyslexia, then maybe, but unless they are also responsible for working out what your DD needs then you probably need to see the SENCO too. I don't know much about dyslexia but know the impact varies from person to person, so I would have thought someone at the school should be working with your DD to understand her specific needs & to help rebuild her confidence. If they can start that this half term and help her come back in Yr 11 feeling more confident that would be great.

I don't know if there are any SENCOs on MN -"bound to be" I would have thought... maybe bump this thread tonight; alternatively start another thread with "any SENCOs/teachers specialising in Dyslexia" or similar??

ThatVikRinA22 · 11/06/2012 12:29

i was quite gobsmacked that they missed it in DS but he had other SN so he got 1 to 1 anway quite a lot of the time - so in the end it probably made no difference to his grades and he did really well....he is at uni now.

but i do feel that my persistent questioning of why her grades had taken such a year on year drop was ignored because she was doing ok ish in their eyes, and her predicted grades now are mostly Cs and Bs, though i have to say she is not getting those predicted grades in some areas.

im cheesed off but i need to remain calm and focus on what they can now do to help her - so far they have given her a blue overlay to read with....i suspect that isnt going to turn her around at this stage.

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veritythebrave · 11/06/2012 12:25

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ThatVikRinA22 · 11/06/2012 12:21

yes, thats what i thought - the school secretary appeared to think i should just speak to the person who did the test...thats fine in the first instance, but i am anxious to ensure that we do whatever we can now to help her, though i am concerned that the damage to her confidence has been done.

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lilolilmanchester · 11/06/2012 12:16

I would ask for a meeting with the SENCO in the first instance - I'm surprised the school didn't offer you that when she got her result (although I am not a teacher, might not be the way they do things) - but that is definitely what I would be asking for in your position, to ensure she has all the adjustments she needs in place to help her next year.