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Moving up to high school, do they take themselves to school and back ?

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crikeybill · 04/05/2012 12:37

My DD1 will be moving up to high school ( year 7 ) in September. She will be 11 and 6 months. The school is a bus ride away.
At present I walk her and her sister to primary school every morning on my way to work and DH does pick up.

Its going to be impossible for me to take her to school as I need to take dd2 to primary school, I dont drive and the school is a bus journey in the other direction.

Does she go by herself ? Is it normal at this age ? She has never gone anywhere by herself, let alone on the bus ?
What do I do ? Should I start letting her take small bus journeys as practice ? is she too young ? Aggghhhhhhh Shes my baby !!!

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hackneyLass · 04/05/2012 14:34

Start with little steps at a time: when you are walking to & from primary school let her walk in front of you; then let her set off a few minutes before you. You'll want her to get used to her front door keys so make sure she gets home before you. And on the buses let her sit some rows in front of you and decide when to get off.

As a secondary school kid she'll be mortified if you were to tag along with her. You've got about 9 weeks of term and 6 weeks of holiday to practice. She'll be fine and love the independence.

crikeybill · 04/05/2012 13:44

Oh I know backforgood it sounds terrible doesnt it. She has gone to friends houses and to parties etc but I take her there and drop her off. No she has never gone to the park by herself .....whispers......even though you can see it from the kitchen wondow Blush ......and she hasnt gone to the local shop either. To be fair though there isnt one around here within a 15/20 minute walk.

I totally see your point about letting her learn to judge traffic etc. I thought the exact same thing the other day actually when we were going to school. I am hindering her by not letting her do these things I know. The thing is, as with a PP's child I know she will LOVE doing these things alone as she very much wants to grow up at the moment..
I think I will start with the suggesiton of letting her walk by herself while Dd2 and I follow 5 mind later.
Then perhaps a trip to town on the bus with me behind in stealth mode lol.
When are they old enough to have an Oyster bus pass then ?

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LapsedPacifist · 04/05/2012 13:42

Yes, she should be getting herself too and from school if it's only a bus ride away.

You'll need to do the journey a few times with her so she knows the ropes, and make sure she has a mobile phone that's charged up and in credit in case of emergencies. Find out if any of her friends who live nearby will be making the same journey. DS used to meet up with a couple of mates at the tube station and they all travelled together.

BackforGood · 04/05/2012 13:25

Part of your problem is, the bit where you say she has never gone anywhere by herself. Shock
You mean she's already 11, and never gone round to a friends, or to the library, or the park, or to post a letter, or go to the local shop ?????
I think you need to start letting her practice all these things NOW. she needs to be able to judge traffic, etc.
The actual bus journey, you'll find quite a lot of parents going on with them in the holidays, to show them the route and where to get off, and then on again to come home.
Why not let her walk to and from school now, on her own (you can set out a few minutes later with her sister), to at least get used to that journey which she already knows well.

minesawine · 04/05/2012 13:11

My DS is in year 6 and I have exactly the same issue as you. I currently take him and his sister in the car, but will not be able to in September. Over the last month, I have started letting him get the bus home by himself three days a week. He was nervous at first but now thinks it is fantastic. I then got him a childrens oyster card and he is so proud to be using it and feeling like a big boy. Last week I let him take his mobile phone to school for the first time, just so he learns about only taking it out when he needs to and not advertising it to older kids, this was fine as useful because I could call him when he was 0.00001 second late home!! Yesterday I let him collect his sister and bring her home on the bus (she is Year 4) and whilst I felt sick with anxiety, they though it was brilliant.

I am no longer worried. He will be fine and I have cover if I need my DD to be collected. I hope it does not change when he travels with his friends in September and wants to 'hang out' rather than coming straight home.

GrungeBlobPrimpants · 04/05/2012 12:43

Yes! At secondary they don't want to be seen dead with parents!Grin

I 'trained' my two (who both walk to school though bus is option) by walking with them so they knew the route, then behind them at a distance. Also let them do errands on their own to build up confidence. So you could do the same thing but by bus - so she knows how to buy a ticket, how to get off and exactly where etc.

By the end of her first fortnight it will be as though she's never done anything else Smile

ExitPursuedByABear · 04/05/2012 12:40

Is it a dedicated School Bus? My DD started getting the bus to school towards the end of Y5, but it is a school bus, they were seen across the road after school, and the bus stops right outside our house Grin.

Are there other pupils doing the same journey from the same stop? I think it is the norm, so definitely get her used to the travails of journey by bus.

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