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Changing schools Year 8?

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Sparklingbrook · 20/03/2012 21:12

DS1 started High School last September (Year 8 in these parts).

6 months in and he is still very unsettled. Having problems with friends (the ones he came up from previous school have abandoned him) he says he isn't one of the 'populars' so nobody bothers with him.

He is quite a sensitive 12 year old, he doesn't like asking the teachers when he's unsure etc and he has always wanted to do things correctly IYKWIM.

Academically he is doing well but in every other area it's like 2 steps forward and one back. HOY is aware of the situation, but only so much they can do.

DS says he doesn't fit in at the school. Sad I am at a loss, tears again from him tonight.

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Sparklingbrook · 20/03/2012 21:21

Don't worry Hooker, I have thought all the same things.

The 'populars' don't seem overly keen on academic stuff and DS1 desperately wants to do well. He says he doesn't fit in because he doesn't want to mess about or do silly things at breaktime.

Today some of them were doing impressions of him. Sad He described it as feeling older than them which sounds awful especially as he's a summer birthday. It is the only school in the town. Confused

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Hooker · 20/03/2012 21:17

This is a really tricky one! Why have his friends he moved up with abandoned him? Does he struggle with friendships outside of school? Moving school could just move the problem iyswim, rather than helping it. If it is a case as he says that he doesn't fit in, why does he feel that way? Is there another local school with an ethos where he feels he would fit in?

That's just a lot of questions and very little help. Sorry!