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Au secours! Ideas for entertaining French exchange student?

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gramercy · 06/03/2012 13:18

A French boy is coming to stay with us for a week shortly. He is 14.

We live in a very boring place - not unpleasant as such, but far from exciting. Not near London or any other decent metropolis. The French party will be doing heavy duty tourist trips all week (the schedule sounds exhausting, frankly) but we have to entertain the boy for a weekend.

Anyone any ideas or any recommendations of things that went down well with an exchange person your dcs had? I am really scratching my head to think what there is to do in a suburb in March.

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gramercy · 09/03/2012 15:05

Crapaud dans le trou?! Sounds just charming in French!

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Idratherbemuckingout · 09/03/2012 14:21

We live in France and have had several french kids come and stay with us to better their english over here, instead of going to the UK. We take them out a few times (as unlike an exchange trip they are with just us all week) we cook very English food for them, we play lots of board games as these encourage speech and understanding - Old Maid, Happy Families, Snap, being typically English, plus Uno, Monopoly, Countdown, Piratology.

We watch a few dvds in English with subtitles, and let our son and the child chill out and get to know one another. Our DS loves it (particularly likes having girls to stay, even though he is only eleven) and is very helpful at speaking lots of english to them. However, if they both get tired, they revert back to French!
English breakfast
Toad in the Hole (Crapaud dans le trou makes them laugh)
Shepherd's Pie (torte de berger?)
Roast dinner with yorkshire pud, roast potatoes etc
Custard!
Marmite on toast
Dog walking in the country
Visit a local stately home, or park
supermarket trip as theirs are so different to ours
bowling (we always do that and everyone has a good time and gets cheered on or commiserated with in both languages!)
look at photos - his or yours as this can stimulate conversation
Have a nice time

Needmoresleep · 09/03/2012 10:33

A bit left field, but the Imperial War Museum is genuinely interesting to more serious European kids. The WW1 and WW2 sections describe the misery of war very well and I assume it is one of the best museums of its kind in Europe.

Borough market for lunch afterwards and a walk along or trip on the river. Or take the Jubilee line from Waterloo (walking distance from the IWM) or from London Bridge (eg Borough Market) takes you to Westfield East at Stratford. Superdry recommended. Or then take one stop on the DLR to Pudding Mill Lane and have lunch at the Container Cafe overlooking the Olympic Park.

On a Sunday Colombia Road, Brick Lane and Spitalfields markets make for a good day out, with lots of places to stop and eat: beigals, curry, etc, and the sense of the different waves of immigration which make London the cosmopolitan city it is now.

I would agree with encouraging them to do some things in a group. It gives the English kids some responsibility as well.

Why oh why did I let DC drop Latin in favour of two MFL. Roman centurians would not expect to come and stay. And how do schools select partners? On paper at least, our exchange appears to have nothing in common with DD.

gramercy · 09/03/2012 10:02

We've just had a parents' meeting at the school about the Exchange. The teacher said that one family last year took their French student to Butlins for the weekend. She said it was a nice, thoughtful idea, but had rather traumatised the French child - not because it was Butlins (?!?) but they had been alarmed at being whisked off and separated from the other French pupils. I suppose it depends on the student.

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summer111 · 08/03/2012 22:13

Our French student just arrived (13 yr old girl)!! dd spent a week in France over half term - she had a fabulous time and basically the weekend there was spent with her french partner, her friends and their English partners..they went bowling as a group, cooked pizzas (very authentically French Wink) and at friends houses hanging out playing board games etc. dd loved it and her French did improve!
As someone else said, the child will have been busy doing the touristy stuff during the week, so chilling out at the weekend doing normal teenage activities will be best.

penguin73 · 07/03/2012 19:39

Unless the school have specifically banned it (I know some do!) it might be worth getting your son to speak to some of the other English hosts and arranging to do something as a group for some of the time. The exchange student will enjoy meeting other people as well as getting to spend some time with some of his friends. If you are happy with leaving them alone for a short time the chance to do some souvenir shopping/eat lunch out without being closely chaperoned will probably go down well also. Bonne chance!

gramercy · 07/03/2012 17:58

Thanks for the suggestions; le rosbif is definitely on the menu!

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spendthrift · 07/03/2012 17:27

A film? And making their own pizza afterwards?

mockingjay · 07/03/2012 16:39

The supermarket is a good one, and then cook whatever weird concoction he fancied from there. I always loved going to the supermarkets and looking at what was different.

Is there time for your DS to write (I guess it's email these days!) and ask if there's anything your guest would like to do/try?

janek · 07/03/2012 16:33

isn't the touristy stuff covered during the week? so what you need to do at the weekend is 'entertain'. the point of an exchange is to improve language skills i think, so anything that gets them doing something so they can talk if they like/need to, but not if they don't is ideal.

my dds are still young, but i remember as a child i and my brother both did exchanges, can't remember what i did with mine at all, but my brother and his partner definitely went bowling (with the whole family), played le ping pong at the local sport centre, going to the cinema is good.

ah one thing that was a real hit with my (very homesick) exchange partner was a day at some friends of my parents house, they had 3 young daughters who just loved my partner and made such a fuss of her that she completely forgot she was miserable. not much use for OP, but a suggestion nonetheless - small girls for big girls!

Bonsoir · 07/03/2012 15:49

Do you live on an island in the middle of spaghetti junction, gramercy Hmm?

grovel · 07/03/2012 15:47

And you need to give him le rosbif.

A carvery perhaps? He would not see many Yorkshire puddings, over cooked vegetables etc at home.

grovel · 07/03/2012 15:45

The Artist is a good idea (and respectful to the French). Take him to a Norman church too. Avoid Cafe Rouge.

Play Boggle. French boy has to use English words. Your DS uses French words.

gramercy · 07/03/2012 15:06

15th century gastro pub. Hmmmm. How about a 21st-century chain serving pizza and pasta? Or for something really quaint, the redoubtable charms of the Early Bird Special and salad cart hostelry, sited most picturesquely alongside the ring road?

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wordfactory · 07/03/2012 13:00

Our exchange is coming froma fairly rural part of France. We intend to spend a lot of time in London with her. Poor thing might be terrified.

Bonsoir · 07/03/2012 12:57

Don't you have a 15th century gastro-pub serving local lamb chops and sausages?

gramercy · 07/03/2012 12:08

Ah, but Bonsoir, you are in Paris. We are not. We do not even have a Cafe Rouge (!). The French boy comes from a gorgeous part of France, too. I doubt whether he'll be impressed with the lower-middle class monoculture that is - .

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Bonsoir · 07/03/2012 12:03

The seaside etc is always a bit dodgy in England for French exchange students, who are (let's be honest) used to an entirely different quality of seaside experience, in particular the weather and the temperature of the water.

England is above all a destination for heritage and cultural tourism, but if he has been hiked around cultural sites all week, he won't want that. Shopping and family time sounds OK to me.

We have a Canadian exchange student in ten days time.

gramercy · 07/03/2012 12:01

That's the trouble.. in the summer we could do a picnic, seaside, bbq etc etc, but in March ... Perhaps we could see The Artist at the cinema (j'adore Jean du Jardin...)

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dottygamekeeper · 06/03/2012 21:13

We had a French boy for a week last May and have a French girl coming this May.

Take them for fish and chips (at the seaside if you live near the sea) eaten out of the paper.

We live near enough to London that we were able to go for the day, and I made sure we went on a double decker bus, on the Tube, a boat down the river and in a black cab, plus the normal sights.

Do some cooking with them - we did a big fried breakfast, a roast dinner followed by trifle, toad in the hole etc. Take them to the supermarket to do the weekly shop.

Visit any local National Trust/English Heritage type places. Maybe a funfair if there are any local to you, will it be too early in the year for any local fetes?

Leeds2 · 06/03/2012 16:15

Maybe a BBQ at home for a group of them.

Is your son going to France first? Just so you could see hoe the French family entertain your son.

Moominmammacat · 06/03/2012 16:14

We've had nine exchanges and all jolly good ... costs an arm and a leg but just do what you'd be doing with your own anyway plus a few treats. If they've been well-paired it will be a doddle. And give them access to computer so they can Facebook if they get lonely. School always told my DSs to do their language homework with exchanges too.

wordfactory · 06/03/2012 15:56

Oh mon dieu. Have an exchanger coming for almost two week in September!!!

gramercy · 06/03/2012 15:03

Sadly sport is out. The French boy was particularly paired with ds as they both said in their mini personal statements that they detest le sport. Apparently French boy is from a family of eco intellectuals (!!! eeeek !!!) Probably the lad is dying to get on an X Box/eat a McDonalds.

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Leeds2 · 06/03/2012 14:48

Friend took her DS's French exchange to Go Ape! Pricy, but they had a great time apparently. There are plenty of them up and down the country.

A professional football match, if you have a local team and he likes football! With a cup of bovril and a pie at half time! Or cricket if he is coming in summer. You don't have to stay all day.

Pub lunch.

Get together with your DS's friends and their exchanges and take them to a laser quest type place.

I am interested in this, as we have a Spanish girl coming to stay in the summer!