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I don't think private schools breed confidence ...

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CheesyWellingtons · 29/02/2012 12:49

I keep reading on here, and hearing in life, that public schools breed confidence. I don't think it is anywhere near as simple as that.

Isn't what is happening at home so much more important? Isn't it that confident people who tend to do well with their careers and can therefore afford private education also have confident children due to the confident parents? Or that those with inherited money feel confident in life due to that, and then send their children privately? Surely so much of how our children feel about themselves is due to how we as their parents feel about ourselves.

I can think of so many people at my private school who were not confident.

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kensingtonia · 29/02/2012 19:51

I noticed when my kids went to private school all the kids I met had very good social skills and came across very well. Some were on bursaries so I don't think it was just socio-economic; some parents also were completely lacking in social skills or bloody mean and miserable. My Dad and other relations went to a very well known public school (boarding) and despite having very dysfunctional home lives always gave/give the impression they are very confident, articulate and in control. Maybe because they were away from home for extended periods, I don't know.