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Is it possible to drop a so-called "compulsory" subject for GCSE?

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NigellasGuest · 27/01/2012 11:42

DD hates languages, is not good at French or Spanish and already feels she's not going to do well in her chosen language for GCSE (currently in year 9 and in the process of choosing options for September).

She has mentoring / counselling privately, and also in school (so school are aware of issues) to deal with anxiety. My feeling is that things will be made worse by being forced to do a language. And that may have an adverse affect on her other GCSE's.

Does anyone know where I stand? Can they MAKE her do either French or Spanish? TIA

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NigellasGuest · 06/02/2012 20:05

Far be it from me to ressurrect an old thread but i had no idea I had had so much response! just looked at it again today. I have read most of the replies so thank you every one very much.

I think I need to clarify a couple of things : I said in my OP that DD hates languages and may have given the impression to some of you that that is the overriding reason for my trying to get her out of languages - that is not actually the case. She hates science and maths but I'm going to support her all the way in those! She is borderline dyslexic - has never had an official diagnosis though - but I am convinced that this is the reason why she finds languages incredibly hard. I have sat down and tried to help (I speak French and Spanish) but I can just tell that she's on a different planet, even when she's trying really hard. (older DD on the other hand is taking 3 MFLs at GCSE and is a completely different kettle of fish).

When i say DD suffers from anxiety, specifically this is OCD, manifesting itself in an urge to tidy her room when she gets really anxious - it is spotless though! and getting out of bed to rearrange ornaments etc. Then she finds she has got out of bed an odd number of times, and needs to get out again to make it an even number. And so it goes on. When it's bad like this, she needs me sleeping in the same room on the blow up bed on the floor next to her - that's the only things that makes her feel safe apart from sleeping with me in my bed (but DH is fed up with that, understandably).

DD in question is a talented dancer, specifically ballet, and dances most nights and all weekend. She loves it. She is carrying an injury ATM so can't dance and it drives her up the wall. She wants to go to vocational school at 16 but has auditioned at the Royal Ballet school last month for the experience.

I will stop now but hope that gives a bit more context and THANK YOU everyone. perhaps I should visit the SEN thread..

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IndigoBell · 29/01/2012 18:21

There is a huge difference between 'struggling with something you're not very good at' and 'being set up to fail'.

There are kids who could never ever learn another language. Until recently my DD was definitely one of them (and she was excused from French). She couldn't learn new vocab in English, (or how to read or write) so there was no way it was reasonable to expect her to learn words in a different language.

(Obviously this is a very different problem from anxiety)

I totally agree with Dust. Pick your battles. There are enough hard things you have to do in life - and learning French isn't one of them.

The most successful people in life 'play to their strengths'. ie they spend most of their time doing the things they're good at, and they get other people to help them with the things they're not good at.

My DS does suffer from anxiety (although he has been dismissed from CAMHS). My approach has been to reduce his anxiety for a few years. It's been very successful so far, in that now, finally, he's doing very well at school (and in life).

amicissima · 29/01/2012 18:17

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mosschops30 · 29/01/2012 14:49

Im sorry but my overwhelming opinion is 'just get on with it'!
Anxious or not, this whole idea that you dont have to do stuff because you dont like it/arent very good at it is just ridiculous and is producing a whole generation of kids who dont want to go to school/do exams etc because it makes them anxious or depressed.
Sometimes mostly i dont want to go to work but i have to because it pays the friggin bills, or i could go on the sick with mt PTSD but i wasnt brought up that way.

In my house the answer would be 'tough, get on with it'. Dd is no brain box and had SEN input at primary school but with some seious pushing at high school is turning out to be n excellent student. Lots of subjects she doesnt like but had to take at GCSE hey thats life, there are gonna be lots of things youre not good at in life.

Dustinthewind · 29/01/2012 14:24

Picking your battles is one useful strategy I often use.
DS is now doing A levels at college, has a good friendship group and several hobbies that involve a level of social interaction. That required huge effort and pushing beyond his comfort zone, and it was worth the effort.
But to do all that effort in order to learn French? His strengths were better employed enabling him to learn how to function in an NT world.
He does not suffer from anxiety or depression, but I have seen those factors cripple others to the point where they go into survival mode and are incapable of functioning other than at a basic level whilst the stress continues.
Sometimes a strong coffee and a website or two, and a pep talk aren't enough. What's the alternative?
In one case I know, complete fugue, in two others, suicide.

Abra1d · 29/01/2012 13:53

My son has received counselling from CAHMS, yes. At no point did the counsellor suggest that his problem (and there is one, a big one) should mean that he avoided the situation that causes the stress. She gave him strategies to use and sent him out there.

My husband this morning sat a test for a job. He was up during the night being sick he was so nervous. He has been out of work since April. if we don't get a job for him soon we are in deep trouble.

Perhaps I should have told him not to bother because he was so anxious. But you know what? We had some strong coffee and I told him I knew he could do it and that other people would also be struggling. He has finished the test now and it was bloody awful. But what was the alternative?

Life is tough.

Dustinthewind · 29/01/2012 10:58

My response was to Abra1d, seeker, who I think has missed that point and is struggling with understanding the diversity of SEN that should be catered for within MS education as much as possible.
Which is why she doesn't understand how anxiety can be considered a SEN.

seeker · 29/01/2012 10:53

When I derailed this thread to say that kids should not be encouraged to drop subjects because they find them hard I did specifically say that I was referring to NT children only.

Dustinthewind · 29/01/2012 10:40

We speak and read a number of languages in this house, OH is a linguist and DD is following in his footsteps. We have numerous friends and relations who are native speakers and would be delighted to assist.
I'm a teacher with an interest in SN and SEN. I reckon I'm the only NT in the house.
DS finds learning other languages so close to impossible that it was a sensible and reasonable accommodation to allow him to drop both of his.

'Sorry, but there are many, many revision guides and free websites for MFLs.'
You really don't know much about sn, based on the twaddle you are writing.
Please feel free to give further evidence to counter the first impression.

IndigoBell · 29/01/2012 10:39

And are your children recieving counselling regarding their anxiety?

This is nothing to do with how easy or hard languages at GCSE are.

And it is certainly nothing to do with how intelligent the OPs child is.

Abra1d · 29/01/2012 10:10

'you don't know enough about anxiety or SEN to know this.'

You know that how?

Sorry, but there are many, many revision guides and free websites for MFLs. My daughter was struggling with German. She found a solution to an issue with the pronunciation of 'difficult' words by listening to a native speaker speak them on a free access website. Then she recorded herself saying them and puts them on her iPod. She listens to the words on the way to school when she has a test. That's the way she learns. She developed the system herself and it has revolutionised the results she gets. My son, by contrast, not a natural linguist, writes words and phrases out again and again and again to learn them. Then we test him. I have devoted hours of time each week to helping him in the evenings.

There is so much material available to help children with languages. And getting a grade C is not difficult if you are moderately intelligent. I think instead of encouraging the OP's daughter to ease out of tackling something challenging we should be finding ways to help her face the challenge.

IndigoBell · 29/01/2012 08:10

Abra1d No. Not a wind-up. I'm assuming her anxiety is seriously bad.

It may not be, but given that she is receiving counselling for it, that is what I have assumed.

A SEN is any kind of Special educational need, not to be confused with SN (Special Needs)

So if, for example, you had a phobia of exams, and were unable to sit exams in the hall with everyone else, this would constitute a special educational need which had to be accommodated.

If she needs school to do something different for her in order for her to learn, then she has SEN.

Count yourself lucky you don't know enough about anxiety or SEN to know this.

Abra1d · 29/01/2012 08:03

'Her special need is her anxiety.'

I hope this is a wind-up. Seriously?

bruffin · 29/01/2012 07:59

DS yr11 has a spld as well and I think that mfl exams nowadays which concentrate on learning passages of script make things twice as hard for children with dyslexic problems.

My DD (yr9) came home and told me proudly how she had learnt all her italian for a written test last week and only forgot the last sentence, but DS just can't learn things that way.

startail · 28/01/2012 23:32

thenightskyGrin
It's lovely to hear stories of other people's dyslexic DCs succeeding at something they enjoy.
DD wants to do something scientific and needs to work hard next year to do well enough in maths and science to be allowed to do separate sciences next year.
The only way she'd stand a chance at French would be to get a tutor and not take music.
She's done singing lessons for years and various choirs and loves it, so this just wouldn't have made sense.

NonnoMum · 28/01/2012 23:08

BTW - what may be compulsory in one school may not be in another. It's how they sort out their timetable and pander to the league tables.

NonnoMum · 28/01/2012 23:07

Write to Mr Gove.
He introduced the Ebac (which includes a language) in order to try to return to a 1950s curriculum where children such as yours would be written off.

Fair? No. True? Yes.

(PS - I'm sure your DC is a fabulous, sweet, clever and wonderful child but Mr Gove has written her off already)

bruffin · 28/01/2012 23:03

My Ds,s results will be blotted by his German gcse. Predicated all A/A* except German C/D
He took a Mfl because he knew that universities wanted a language, but they also want A/a*s, so it may have stopped him getting what he wants. Thankfully he has had a change of mind over career and the course he wants is not interested in his gcse although still RG university.

Quattrocento · 28/01/2012 21:56

I agree with Seeker about not having to do to much work to get a B or a C at GCSE, but a B or a C at GCSE may in certain circumstances be viewed as a blot, no?

TheHumancatapult · 28/01/2012 21:41

ds2 did options in year 8 and the first thing he did was huge sigh of relief and droped language /art and music and drama .

which gave him room for triple science .georgraphy and History as well as Engish lang and lit .maths and aploed maths and he took RS as a full gcse

RandomMess · 28/01/2012 21:34

Seeker that is really funny, often people don't like languages because they find them so difficult! Yes I got an A at GCSE - I had tuition to get me through, I rote learnt virtually everything.

I have realised that I probably have mild Auditory processing Disorder hence making it hard work etc I would never want anyone to be forced to do a MFL when they have no aptitude for it - you sit there not understanding what is being said and knowing your pronounciation is absolutely appalling - it is utterly utterly humiliating and not to do with not working for it.

Quattrocento · 28/01/2012 21:33

Get her some supplementary french teaching, maybe? As others have said, 'tis probably better to face the unpleasant things and dealing with it successfully may give her a boost

Am in the same situation here. DD's worst subject is Spanish. Her second worst subject is French. She has to do a MFL, and the MFL is likely to be a blot on her GCSE grades. I'm doing the teaching myself rather than find a good language teacher because they seem to be hard to find.

thenightsky · 28/01/2012 21:26

Same as startail... my DD is dyslexic and pleaded at a choices meeting... 'Sir, I'm totally shit at English, please don't make me do French'.

It would have been a waste of her time and theirs.

She did textiles instead and is now sitting in a lovely job where she designs work uniforms (she went on to do a degree in textiles).

nagynolonger · 28/01/2012 21:22

But is a MFL compulsary at 14+ now? My youngest did it but I know of others that dropped french. My 15 yearold is doing french but he is also doing music which he loves. For him that ment no space for history or geography. I know he won't get Mr Gove's English Bac but he is on course for A*/A in all gcses so I'm sure he'll be OK.

OrmIrian · 28/01/2012 21:12

You have a limited no of options and only 2 of them contain Mfls. The child has only studied one and that clashes with another subject important to that child. And if mfl is compulsory it should be ringfenced same as maths, science and engl- it isn't as yet.