Special request for a day off refused

Triplets I would also echo everyone else, but please read this and perhaps check somehow that you aren't going to end up with a massive fine before you go. I have heard of fines being £1000 in some cases.

yes GO and do NOT feel guilty!!

i never understand how these things work tbh i have a friend who takes her kids out every year in early january (missing 5 days of school each time) to go skiiing! they apply and seem to get it allowed.

i took ds2 off school for a day last week to go and visit my sister and new baby nephew, his teacher agreed with me that it was a nice opportunity for him to have some one on one time with me and ds2 thoroughly enjoyed going by train/tube/tram etc. i checked what work he had missed but he didnt need to do anything to catch up.

we have taken ours out of school to go the cornburry music fesitval, we wrote, explained what it was and why we were going and they were fine.

my dps job means it is very hard for him to get time off in the school holidays and sometimes the only time we get to go away is by going in term time, we often do a few long weekends instead of one big holiday and the schools (primary and high school) have so far been fine with this. they are allowed to allow it for exceptional circumstances or because of a parents work commitments.

go have a lovely time and i hope your triplets have a fabulous birthday :)

triplets - under those circumstances you should go and for goodness sake don't feel guilty. The head is being unreasonable, he does have discretion in exceptional circumstances to allow absence and IMO he should have said yes. No action will be taken against you or the DCs for unauthorised absence of less than 5 days.
Your DH and your children need this and the benefits hugely outweigh a short term time absence.
I would not take mine out for a holiday just for cost or convenience but I did take them out for 2 days for a family trip when my father was ill. He died a few months later and we have happy memories of that weekend.

Go. No need to feel guilty about jobsworth bureaucracy. Don't give it a second thought Mr Triplets.

Have a wonderful time.

The headteacher has to cover his/her arse by saying no. They will secretly hoping that you go anyway. If you don't go, the HT will feel like shit.

our Headteacher once said to me "I am afraid I cannot give you permission to take the children out of school!" ...family wedding down south, overlapping the easter holidays

I said, "I wasn't asking you for your permission, merely informing you they would not be in" ..her face was a picture :D and not a word more was ever mentioned.

Always remember they are your children, you are IN CHARGE!

and have a lovely time. x

Go and enjoy......

Even the teacher who did not authorise the absence would tell you to go (off the record , of course ).

Have fun.

Go. Enjoy! Do not feel guilty. I think the replies here have been unanimous in support and you know how rarely that happens on mn .

That's ridiculous. Families by us take weeks off to visit family abroad. Go anyway and take absolutely no notice.

Go regardless. Call in sick. Have a lovely time together as a family and don't give school a second thought.

It is a shame the Headteacher is an idiot but that's his problem not yours.

Have a fantastic break!

Trips, inform the school that you're taking them out anyway, you were just being courteous asking permission. 1 day will not harm their eduction in any way, shape or form and your DH shouldn't feel at all guilty.

I am so glad that you have decided to go. Good luck with the scan results.

Just go!
Don't call in sick just don't call at all, it will be unauthorised but there will be no sanctions.

Sorry you are going thru this Triplets. I remember you on MN from way back.
Agree with everyone else, blow off the school. They should be more sympathetic, but their loss. You mustn't let them bother you.
Your children's education will not suffer for this absence, and that's all that should possibly matter from the school pov.

Agree with others, just go. School being very unreasonable in my opinion.

Which CP are you going to? We went to Elvedon last week and it was fabulous. Hope you have a lovely time x

Another Governor - in our school the 'unique and exceptional circumstances' would prevail and a day's absence approved. I too would say go and have some family time together. If you feel able I would also write to the HT and ask them to discuss the approach taken with the Governors to confirm that there is no flexibility should a similar request occur in future for another family.

They couldn't make an exception for you! Why on earth not? Yes, I would be tempted to reply in the way suggested by OneLieIn.

Please go and enjoy your break for the full time that you have booked it. And don't waste a single second of it in feeling guilty.

Go, don't worry about it.

Write to the head too telling them you understand their policy but absolutely cannot believe the total lack of flexibility, lack of kindness and heartlessness they are showing. They are absolute twats for treating you like that

Don't feel guilty. It's school. 2 days is hardly going to damage their education. It's much more important for all of you to have a good break.

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Seriously, they will have had to send that letter, but will probably actually FEEL more understanding. In any case, so what? They should feel more understanding. Go, with no qualms, and enjoy yourselves.

I am not one for taking Ds out of school, do not advocate people taking hols in term time, but 2 days, in your situation? Don't think twice!

Definitely go, and don't give it another thought.

The school probably have no choice but to say no, regardless of what they might actually feel about the situation.

I agree with everyone else - you must absolutely go and there is no need to feel guilty as you all need some fun by the sound of it. I'm a school governor and I agree with another poster, it sounds as if the HT has been told to forbid all in term absence probably because as a whole the school is close to missing whatever their target is. This is just NOT your problem. I would even respond to the letter saying you regret their insensitive attitude but in the circumstances cannot agree with their request.

I hope you all have a lovely time and all the best for the scan!