well seeker I think you know this is not about my kids, because we failed to get into the catchment comp we wanted, and they had reasonable fall backs [albeit with some inconvenience] if they hadn't made their grammar. But we're all old enough to know [even with my mental age of 5] that people tend to hear what they want unless they try harder.
You started the thread about the "quality" of grammar school kids. Which did not chime with the kids I see. But I see that in those residual grammar school counties, you'd get boundary issues at a lower level, hence the comments about children, who cannot be blamed for being lucky on the day.
What is it you don't understand about my community helping each other out, with what we discover about schools? It's not really that different from MN, except there is the bonus of a RL person and kids with RL needs. Makes up for our overcrowding, more than occasional missed meals [thank heavens for FSMs], swimming lessons, what are they?, but there is time to talk despite the grind, because there is no TV, no games, no heating, only hot water from kettles, so we do a lot together as a family to get ready for the world every day. The medical schools love it when you've spent every holiday for several years looking after a dying relative, because you know at 17 what dying is truly like and what the grind really is, but I guess some would see that as an outrageous advantage.
"fuck everyone else"? They're doing it very well already without our help. Just don't even fool us into thinking abolishing academic selection is helping. You have problems understanding what we value and the choices we face daily.