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Being sent to pupil referral unit

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messybedhead · 28/09/2010 21:01

My friend's daughter's school has requested a meeting about putting her into the local pupil referral unit.

Nothing is in writing, and her parents are not happy about this decision.

We do not know how to fight this; does she have to go there if that is what the school suggests?

Are there any procedures that need to be followed or any school policies we can request that will explain this further?

Thanks.

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messybedhead · 28/09/2010 21:34

For some people exclusion isn't seen as "that bad".

I agree with you but a lot of parents don't.

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messybedhead · 28/09/2010 21:32

Really that's good.

I think sometimes schools can try their hardest but if at home the child is hearing from their parents that they are right and the school is wrong- then it's not really going to work.

Her parents are telling her that the school are picking on her and so I don't really know what's going to happen with her. It's sad.

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c0rns1lk · 28/09/2010 21:30

Surely the label of exclusion is worse?

BelligerentGhoul · 28/09/2010 21:30

It really does depend if it's a long-term alternative education thing, or a short term 'shock' thing. Your friend needs to find out which is being proposed because they are very different.

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messybedhead · 28/09/2010 21:29

I think that's what they are worried about... the stereotypical idea of children from a PRU.

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c0rns1lk · 28/09/2010 21:27

referral units are usually temporary - could be a breathing space for her

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messybedhead · 28/09/2010 21:26

Her parents are not really sure what the school are suggesting, and don't really know anything about PRUs.

I think they want to move her to a closer school, but are worried that she'll be forced to go the referral unit.

They have been supportive and have always attended meetings with the school, but they don't necessarily agree with how bad their daughter's behaviour is... and its not my place to judge really.

Thanks for your advice.

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mnistooaddictive · 28/09/2010 21:22

I think that some students end up being really grateful they went to the pru as it is more supportive and tailed to their needs. It doesn't have to be a bad thing. If she has already been excluded twice then the school is not meeting her needs, why fight to keep her there?

c0rns1lk · 28/09/2010 21:20

you need tethersend - she works in a PRU.

BelligerentGhoul · 28/09/2010 21:16

If she's already been excluded twice, your friend would do well to support the school and agree to a short period in the referral unit. That way, she's more likely to get another chance. If your friend refuses and the girl commits another excludable 'offence' the school may be more likely to escalate a permanent exclusion, if they feel parents have not been supportive in the past.

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messybedhead · 28/09/2010 21:14

ANyone?

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messybedhead · 28/09/2010 21:04

Sorry just to add,

she has already been excluded twice.

Does this mean that realistically no other school will accept her?

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