Feeling depressed (first trimester)

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esgill · 01/03/2023 16:29

I am at 9 + 5. I've had a private scan and seen the heartbeat. I have a loving husband who's super supportive. But I have felt unwell now for 5 weeks. I've lost aerial dance and yoga -- the two things that helped my mental health a lot before. I am extremely tired and nauseated and just spend most of the day in bed. I go out on walks when I force myself but then end up feeling car sick/terrible and have to come home. I am not sleeping well (leg cramps, hip pain) and I have hot flushes. I am now feeling incredibly thirsty all the time and like no amount of water satisfies me. I don't have any energy to do my work or creative projects. When will this end/any tips for getting through this?

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log51 · 01/03/2023 17:42

Hi! I am one day ahead of you at 9 + 6 and have been feeling really similar - zero energy, nausea and not been able to exercise. I am getting through by reminding myself that it WILL end - it's really helped me to tell 2 close friends at around 6 weeks, who are both further on with pregnancies - both for reassurance that things will get better (for my best friend started being much better at 11 weeks) and also to have someone to moan at who isn't my husband.

I've just cancelled all my social plans for the next couple of weeks and basically all I can do now is work the bare minimum and sleep (and eat!) and just going to hibernate for another few weeks. I just have to keep reminding myself that am lucky to be pregnant as for some friends it's taken a really long time and I had an early mmc in December. I really underestimated the first trimester I think and thought I would just feel overjoyed all the time and not quite low - but if we had these physical symptoms because of something else, of course we would feel low all the time! It's basically been like a month long hangover for me. Not sure if this is overly helpful but at least hopefully you know you're not alone! I've also booked another scan at 10w for tomorrow so that hopefully seeing the heartbeat again and seeing how much it's grown (since first one at 8w) will make it seem worth it.

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esgill · 01/03/2023 21:20

Thanks for sharing! I do feel quite alone with it, so it's good to hear it's normal. I don't have any pregnant friends but I've spoken with some other women on the Peanut app, and they all seemed to get away with 2 weeks of sickness in early pregnancy. Now they're back at work and feeling fine. I just can't achieve anything at the moment. Eating has helped but I feel I'm at a dip where I am really fussy about food and some food makes me feel worse. I really have to follow the cravings and eat whatever they lead me to.

To be honest, I knew very little about pregnancy before being pregnant. I just assumed symptoms would start mild and get more and more severe as the bump grows. I never realised the first trimester was the worst time until I was here in it.

You're right, we're lucky, but it's so hard to imagine the baby at the end of this when right now I feel like I've had a hangover and carsickness for over am month :/ Not sure how to cope and I just feel really useless and depressed with it all.

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