'SMA, but surely if the loopholes were tightened up, and everyone was strongly encouraged to take more personal and social responsibility for their own families, and taking work that's available, even if it isn't very inspiring, then mad old men like that would have less to get frustrated/abusive about about!
See I hear that a lot
and I agree somewhat
But it still doesn't mean I am a valid target does it?
I used to work with famillies where many were genrationally claiming: it wasn't purely through laziness or choice, they were complex and the situations that got them tehre needed taking apart brick by brick- you could thrust them into work but most would be unemployable tbh. in fact many did work, a week here, 3 days there- always their cards and a back door ASAP.
I am beyond sick of taking flack for other people's messes; of people saying 'then claiming wouldn't be acceptable...' I am acceptable. My sons are acceptable. They are not to be shoved into a corner with a label saying 'financially invalid'.
I've workd two jobs at once and loved it; so has DH. We paid into this thing called NI for 40 yaers between us. We are not fecking unacceptable, we are normal decent human beings with as much of a need for dignity and peace as anyone else.
We lost our home and didn't complain. We moved to Wales in search of progression and lost all family help (which is important with disabled kids) adn did not wince. We've taken hit after hit, given everything we can and now we are increasingly seen as - what? Less, I guess is the word.