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drug dependant baby, advice needed

734 replies

EarthMotherImNot · 03/03/2010 15:20

I've been asked to foster a baby expected to be suffering drug withdrawal when it is born next week.

It is years since I've cared for one of these and any advice would be most gratefully received.

OP posts:
ivykaty44 · 22/01/2021 19:55

I remember reading this thread in January 2011 as I was off work due to illness. I hadn't realised that the OP had herself passed away....
What a wonderful legacy she left

ItsAllComingBackToMeNow · 22/01/2021 19:50

@ImsorryWilson Yes I nearly did too. I even read the first couple of replies and thought, yes that thread said swaddling was useful.

Was going to prepare the poster for the terribly sad ending though. Emin was amazing.

Inastatus · 22/01/2021 19:45

What an amazing selfless woman. I’m in awe.

ImsorryWilson · 22/01/2021 19:32

Am i the only one who nearly replied saying "ooh, if you are doing that you must see this thread in classics...."
I'm not am I?

MrsNWT · 22/01/2021 19:24
Flowers
oakleaffy · 22/01/2021 19:13

@Sarapq2

Hi. Ex NICU nurse here . I used to swaddle them , a lot of cuddles , they will feed and feed and be sick and carry on. It's very hard work , depending on serveriry bsby will stay in NICU till ready for discharge It could be a lengthy process and baby may need a medical detox .
Emin, the OP got through the Foster baby's agonising withdrawal. It is worth reading the thread :)

Emin herself died, tragically of cancer, but the little 'baby' will be about 11 yrs old now.

This thread is very old, but is one of the ''Classics'', due to the OP {Emin} being very special..A rare mix of Humility, Humour, Humanity and Patience. These qualities shine through her posts..And hopefully her little ''Ladybird'' will discover them when she is 18...

Thank goodness for the Fosterers in this World...And of course NICU Nurses :)

Sarapq2 · 22/01/2021 19:10

I didn't have time

So sorry xx

Nomorepies · 22/01/2021 19:06

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ on the poster's request

BoreOfWhabylon · 22/01/2021 19:05

@Sarapq2 I think you need to read the full thread.

covilha · 22/01/2021 19:04

Beautiful, inspirational lady. RIP

BoreOfWhabylon · 22/01/2021 19:03

@FabbyMagic

What an inspirational and loving woman. I know it’s unlikely but I so hope her DH could read all these lovely comments. Wonder if he knows about this thread. RIP Flowers
As I recall, there was another thread announcing Emin's death. I think it was started by her daughter - her daughter certainly posted on it. It turned into a long tribute thread.

The Tribute thread is long gone - in those days threads in Chat were removed after 3 months - but her family certainly knew about them.

Sarapq2 · 22/01/2021 19:01

Hi.
Ex NICU nurse here .
I used to swaddle them , a lot of cuddles , they will feed and feed and be sick and carry on.
It's very hard work , depending on serveriry bsby will stay in NICU till ready for discharge

It could be a lengthy process and baby may need a medical detox .

covilha · 22/01/2021 18:58

Sorry humanity NOT vanity. Really sorry about that mistake

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 22/01/2021 18:36

Just have to add my RIP to an utterly marvellous and amazing woman who left such a brilliant legacy of love. Flowers

CherryBlossomTree7 · 22/01/2021 18:27

RIP amazing lady.

I have only just read your thread now but truly, you have inspired me to seriously consider fostering and adoption. Thank you for all you've done.

FabbyMagic · 22/01/2021 18:18

What an inspirational and loving woman. I know it’s unlikely but I so hope her DH could read all these lovely comments. Wonder if he knows about this thread. RIP Flowers

oakleaffy · 22/01/2021 18:04

@HermioneWeasley

I remember this thread - can’t believe it’s 11 years old. I still think EMIN from time to time. What an incredible woman.
I do too...Isn't it strange that one person's innate humility and love shines through the years in our memories.

Emin is a loving Soul. 👼

A lovely child I knew years ago with a severely addicted mother {Now RIP} and a father ditto is now a Professional person working with vulnerable people like they once were.

These children with guidance, their own fortitude ands a lot of luck can heal from less than ideal childhoods, and break the cycle of desperation.

All power to them. 💕

Tyranttoddler · 22/01/2021 17:45

Just reread this thread. Emin was a marvel.

Pearl97 · 22/01/2021 17:36

What an incredible woman xxx

HermioneWeasley · 22/01/2021 17:23

I remember this thread - can’t believe it’s 11 years old. I still think EMIN from time to time. What an incredible woman.

Lorieandrews · 22/01/2021 17:23

Oh gosh

I remember this thread. I often think about fostering due to this woman

RIP Emin. I hope she knows how many people she touched with her kind words. Gosh. What a thread.

covilha · 22/01/2021 17:22

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

pistachionuts · 22/01/2021 17:11

Wow what an emotional thread, so heartbreaking what an amazing woman ❤️

To think the baby will be around 11 now

OakSun · 22/01/2021 16:31

Oh EMIN, so sorry I missed reading about your passing. I remember this thread from when you had the baby, I didn’t see the updates. I hope your family take comfort in how much your love showed to everyone and how much you have that little girl a head start in life. You are a wonderful person, I can’t write “were”. I can’t believe this thread popped up today.
EMIN you are wonderful and I hope your lovely DH and family are doing ok. Somewhere on MN are parents who are parents today because of you x

VinterKvinna · 22/01/2021 16:10

The world was lucky to have EMIN
RIP

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