drug dependant baby, advice needed

Best of luck OP. What a wonderful thing you are doing for this wee one and her DM.

💐RIP you amazing lady

I remember when our DD was in ICU, the nurses kept playing Enya over and over again and there was a baby, no bigger than a newborn who had been a patient since birth and (from memory) was 3 or so months old. The music calmed her, sadly she wasn't expected to live due to whatever the Mother took while pregnant and would never be discharged.

You mentioned upthread about wanting to slap the mother and I have to say it took all of our strength not to do the same to the father of this bub. He was the dealer partner who supplied Mum with the drug, had her convinced it wasn't the drug that caused their daughter to be born without whatever function her brain needed. If ever there was a reason to put a human down, he was the example of it. I often wonder what has happened to Mum since, she was only young, 24 1/2 years ago.

My heart aches for the little one who will one day grow into a woman, learn of Emin, and her desire to meet this wonderful woman will be met with such tragedy 😥

This post is from 2010 baby was adopted so will be about 12 now. The OP sadly passed away in 2013 of secondary breast cancer. But this post keeps getting revived every so often.

So sad I've just looked up her daughter's post of when she passed away. 😪😪😪

What a rare privilege to read of such a wonderful woman and family. @EarthMotherImNot may you be resting in the eternal piece you so richly deserve. I hope you are in embraced in the love and selflessness you showed to so many.

“But the effect of her being on those around her was incalculably diffusive: for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs." George Elliot

Read this thread earlier today for the first time - what a precious legacy to leave, RIP EMIN ❤️

Oh my goodness-
I remember @@EarthMotherImNot
Bless her.
She was an absolute star.
What a hero.
I think Earth Mother died.
She really was one on a million.
Bless you, Earth Mother, Wherever you are.
Probably in Heaven looking after babies and children til their own parents join them.
💖💕😘

a beautiful woman💜

Beautiful soul

It seems to me EMIN lived her life less as a candle in the wind and more of a volcano in a hurricane. How relentless and powerful she was. It seems so fitting that her reach continues to find people through this post.

Little ladybird, the 5lb scrap, whose cry was like a terrified piglet, will be starting secondary school. Hers is just one of the lives whose course has been altered for the better by this amazing woman.

What a privilege to read this.

What a beautiful lady. RIP EMIN. You were one of life’s rarities and I only pray that your little ‘ladybird’ finds this and reads all about her difficult but much loved start in life once she’s an adult. What an inspiration! If it wasn’t for my health I would be wanting to look into fostering because EMIN was such an inspiration in the way she worked through the pain of her ladybirds difficult start

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Reading this thread for the second time and crying again. It truly restores your faith in humanity but breaks your heart at the same time.

What an amazing human being she was... Rest in peace beautiful lady. You'll never be forgotten xxxx

RIP Emin, you were amazing..

What a woman. RIP EMIN ❤️

Just happened upon this thread again and I'm quietly crying, curled up next to my 9 month old daughter. What a wonderful woman she was.

I never knew you Emin, I have only just read your story. What a beautiful person you were. I don't even have the words. I know you passed some years back but I find myself in floods of tears. Your baby will be around 11 now. I hope because of you she's having the best life. All the special people leave too soon but I can only believe it is because angels need to go back home. I don't think you'll ever be forgotten and one day the babies you've cared for may read here. Rest in peace lovely lady x

Such a beautiful story. What a legacy EMIN has left. I hope her little Ladybird has continued to thrive. She will learn one day of the amazing start she had in life thanks to the incredible, loving, courageous EMIN and her family. RIP

~Amazing EMIN. Still inspiring people 11 years on. And then of course there's all her babies. She has touched and still touches so many hearts.❤️❤️❤️

I read this again (and posted again) on this day in 2020. And here it today and I'm crying as hard as for each time I read this amazing story of this incredible woman. What a life. What a gift to so many.

RIP EMIN.

In awe of what a wonderful woman EMIN was

@ImsorryWilson

Am i the only one who nearly replied saying "ooh, if you are doing that you must see this thread in classics...."I'm not am I?

When I saw the title I thought oh I remember reading about this years ago and thinking at the time what a lovely lady it was fostering the little baby . Opened up and realised it was the same one and so started reading again because I remembered how touching it was , to follow the little ones progress , so sad to then learn that Emin has now passed away .

What a brave and beautiful lady . Rest in peace Emin