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drug dependant baby, advice needed

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EarthMotherImNot · 03/03/2010 15:20

I've been asked to foster a baby expected to be suffering drug withdrawal when it is born next week.

It is years since I've cared for one of these and any advice would be most gratefully received.

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p99gmb · 27/01/2011 11:53

Dear Emin & DH.

I went to bed thinking of you all. I awoke this morning and my thoughts were with you.

You have touched many lives - not just LO's and her new family. You have touched mine too. I can't think of what you've done and your pain without welling up.

I gave extra hugs & kisses to my 2 LO's today with the thought that they may move back home sooner rather than later. I cannot imagine how it will feel - they are my first FC but I know no matter how many I have it will always hurt. People already say they worry for me.

So - I'm banking on you all to help me when the time comes!! lol (ish) - can you have a col (cry out loud?)

I sincerely hope the family do keep in touch with you and continue the love you started.

wannaBe · 27/01/2011 11:33

aww. Smile

Are there any new placements looming that will help take your mind off her going?

She will be fine, and you know you have done your very best for her.

EsioTrot · 27/01/2011 11:23

EMIN, I have read this entire thread in floods of tears. You and your DH are truly remarkable.

I can't even begin to imagine how you must feel, but I am in awe of you. You've made such a difference to that little girls life and that of her adoptive parents too.

A huge well done. The world is a better place because of people like you.

I'll be thinking of you and the baby girl who will always be a little bit 'yours' Wink

Very best wishes and good luck for the future.

Minnerva · 27/01/2011 11:14

She is happy and secure because of the love and care that you have shown her.

She will settle into her new home with her new mummy and daddy and go on to grow up in a loving and nurturing environment-and it's all thanks to you.You have made several lives all the richer for being a part of them.

M xx

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EarthMotherImNot · 27/01/2011 10:48

I put her little jacket on and she got all wiggly with excitement because she knew that meant she was going out, then new mum and dad arrived.

She beamed her smile at them and new dad shook Dh's hand in a manly wayGrin

New mum spotted my red, damp, hastily wiped eyes and said "oh bless you" and she stroked my cheekSad

She has texted to say "please don't be sad, we'll visit soon" so fingers crossedSmile

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Cadmum · 27/01/2011 10:29

Blubbing here too not that it does your broken heart any good.

How ever do you mange to stay cheerful. Were the new mum and dad over the moon?

You are truly amazing. I hope ladybird's parents stay in touch with you Nd that your heart is not too broken without her.

LadyOfTheFlowers · 27/01/2011 10:23

:(

Flippin' eck - I'm blubbing.

What a lovely person you are.

Well done - you gave the little madam the best start. :)

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EarthMotherImNot · 27/01/2011 10:14

Thank you GOML. Bereft is exactly how we feelSad

I had, without the aid of whisky I might add, pulled myself together somewhat when I had a text from one of our previous adopters saying she was thinking of me today.

Pass the damn tissues again!

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GetOrfMoiLand · 27/01/2011 10:05

Oh EMIN.

What a wonderful woman you are.

This thread is an inspiration.

I would have that whiskey if I were you. You must feel so bereft. But what a wonderful thing you and DH have done.

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EarthMotherImNot · 27/01/2011 09:40

She's goneSad

Poor Dh never usually sees this part, the goodbye, he came in after seeing them off and saw the floods of tears again, "would you like a whisky" he's just askedShock

Sadly we've just discovered we've forgotten to pack her cot blanket, I always make "my" babies one, so Dh is busy packing it up to post on to them.

It's been so difficult trying to stay cheerful for her this morning but I hope we got away with it.

Goodbye Ladybird xxx

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HaveToWearHeels · 27/01/2011 09:30

thinking of you :(

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EarthMotherImNot · 27/01/2011 07:37

Good morning all, well it's not really but I suppose it's the sentiment that counts.

After an awful sleepless night, the duvet was upside down when I gave in and got up at 5.30am. I knew it was because it has a frill thing along the bottom and that was at the topShock

So I'm sat here watching the baby monitor for the first signs of her stirring and wondering if I should, perhaps, wake her up.

The new family will wait for me to text them to say she is ready but I know they are probably pacing up and down already.

I'll give her another 15 minutes then it's cuddle time awake or not!!!

We can do this, we can do thisSad

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InnocentRedhead · 27/01/2011 04:48

I just cannot find the words. You are fantastic, an inspiration.

I really can't think of anything else except how wonderful you are. Be kind to yourself x

Cadmum · 27/01/2011 02:21

Thinking of you and your dh.

You have been a big part in creating a new family. I hope that your heart recovers and that lo is much loved by her proud new parents.

I really don't know where you find the strength.

Minnerva · 26/01/2011 22:10

Oh Emin,just wanted to say my heart goes out to you-I have been there and really feel your pain.I know that you will be trying to look on the bright side but...........it will still hurt-and hurt a bloody lot.Sad

Virtual hugs to you and yours

xx

LowLevelWailing · 26/01/2011 21:08

Just read the whole thread, and I can't imagine how hard this part must be. Thinking of you all tonight and tomorrow x

iwastooearlytobeayummymummy · 26/01/2011 20:06

Do you think we could organise a collection for Emin, I'll bring the hugest bouquet of flowers!

HaveToWearHeels · 26/01/2011 20:00

Feeling very sad for you EMIN, the end of a wonderful chapter :(

bottersnike · 26/01/2011 18:56

thinking of you all this evening.
x

Aitch · 26/01/2011 17:38

they must be so excited, it's such a dream, being a new parent. how wonderful.

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EarthMotherImNot · 26/01/2011 16:45

Thank you all, I really appreciate you taking the time to post. As I've said many times, the support I get from mners is magnificentSmile

The family have texted to say they are on their way back to ours now so I'll sign off for tonight, I have cuddles to give and lots of them.

I'll be back tomorrow when lo has left xxx

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Aitch · 26/01/2011 15:55

what a magnificent woman you are, earthmother, and all of you who foster children. this little girl was immensely lucky to be in your house and your hearts. i am in bits for you, tbh, that she is leaving, and that you are being so brave. well done.

twinmam · 26/01/2011 15:53

Another one sitting here in tears EMIN. I am in awe of the selflessness and total human decency you and DH have shown.

I can't imagine how much your heart is breaking right now but what you have given to this little girl and to her new parents is just incredible.

She has the chance of such a happy future and the love and security you gave her in her first ten months will be a big part of that.

Enormous hugs (don't care if they are un-mumsnetty) and lots of hand holding to both of you. And thank you for making the world a nicer place.

mrsrobinredbreast · 26/01/2011 15:50

EMIN, I've just read the thread and I am in bits. You are an amazing lady. This little girl has all the opportunities that a little girl should have in life now, and that is all down to you and your dh and that's just amazing.

I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling now. I am thinking of you.

Casserole · 26/01/2011 15:41

EMIN I've read the whole thread and am in tears. You are, quite simply, incredible. Every chance that little girl has now, she has because you and your DH fought for her. Please remember that, when you wave her off, and beyond.

I can't imagine how hard this must be for you.

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