drug dependant baby, advice needed

I was lurking here when EMIN first posted it, and revisit it occasionally as, despite losing EMIN by the end of it, it is very life-affirming and even though it always makes me cry, it makes me happy to know that there were and are people like EMIN in the world. Thank you to all of you, you are the ones who make the world a better place.

It’s lovely people are still finding the thread and realising there are some really amazing people out there.

I try and be more EMIN xx

Cried way too much when I read this thread for the first time. Cried even more when I'd realised Emin had died.

She'll be 16 years old next month. I hope it will indeed be a sweet 16th birthday.

I am so incredibly sad.

ive just taken my first dip in MN classics and read the is thread.

made it 90% through until the time came to give her back and I bawled.

and then bawled again when I see she has sadly passed away really not long after caring for this baby.

what an absolute angel. RIP EMIN. 😭💜

Just read this thread - wow, what an amazing lady EMIN was x

Amazing lady.
RIP🌷

Thank you @80smonster, despite the fact that it will be 11 years this September since she passed, mum still very much remains an inspiration to us and we always gather in her memory to celebrate the good times. Sometimes that will be at her favourite restaurant, other times we will just get a meal from her favourite take out.

Mum would have been very humbled by the amount of messages on her old thread and more so if she was able to help anyone as a result of her experiences. All she ever wanted was to be a mother and even after having me and my two siblings, she had more love to give and fostering, despite the challenges it brings, was something she absolutely cherished.

Although my dad still receives correspondence and photographs from the adoptive parents of a few of the children they fostered, there haven’t been any updates for this particular child. I did check in with my dad before replying just in case.

Thanks again for your kind words, and those of everyone else who has commented over the years ❤️

Yes, Emin {Earth Mother I'm Not} was a truly heroic woman.
A gift to traumatised babies.

When I'd read that Emin had died, I cried.

If anyone is in Heaven , it will be people like her - A wonderful woman. 🌟 🙏 👶

Always read this when it pops again! RIP Emin what an amazing lady.

The little baby will be 14 now

I’m very late to this thread, but just in case @DaughterOfEmin is reading, your mother was an inspiration to all of us, the love and humanity she showed to tiny babies who emerged from terrible circumstances, who she so lovingly nurtured back to good health. We are forever in her debt. RIP EMIN. ❤

Have followed Emin’s posts with interest and love. Was in a similar place as our adopted son’s life was ruined by maternal drugs, his mother took so much heroine she did not realise he was virtually dead with pneumococcal meningitis leaving him deafblind and cerebral palsy . Her posts gave me courage. Sadly my beautiful son died but I still read her posts such a fantastic lady. Hope her beautiful boy is ok

I can remember reading this post back in December 2010 when I was terribly I’ll. what an inspiration this foster mum was. The child will hopefully be with a loving family & around secondary school age now.

I am posting because I want her family to know that even so long after her sad death, she is still inspiring hope and clarity in people.

I have had quite a bad week, and have spent thee morning uselessly crying. Then I read this thread - oh must be at leas the third time - and cried more! But now I know that I can effect change in our situation and achieve some semblance of normality. It is Emin's love and generosity that has inspired me to KNOW I can find a way to make things right for us.

Thank you Emin. Years and years after your sad death, you are still inspiring people!

Thank you Emin, You have helped me find my strength again.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Just read this for the first time and very sad to hear the OP passed away. RIP Emin.

The LO will now be 12 and I’m assuming in a few years will have the “goodbye letter” to read.

Wow; rarely have I seen a more extreme case of misguided and unnecessary unpleasantness, even accounting for Friday not having read the whole thread.

<waves cleansing wand around>

And @FridayTheThirteeth wins the “read the bloody thread” award or at least the “check the thread start date” award.

This thread is from mumsnet classics And the OP is very sadly long dead. The baby featured will be at secondary school.

Fucking hell, at least read the updates FFS

I read this thread every few years when it pops up. Heart wrenching 😔

EMIN was an amazing lady ❤️

Absolutely heartbroken to get to the end of the thread and realise @EarthMotherImNot had passed away so young. Will be holding my loved ones very close to me today, what an inspiring women.

❤🌹

Me too!

I got to page 4 I think it was and it just clicked memories of the little baby we saw in ICU ..

💔💔💔

You need to read through the whole thread. This post is from 2010. The OP passed away in 2013. Here is the link her daughter posted when she passed and said what an amazing lady she was.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/mumsnet_classics/1843270-Earthmotherimnot-passed-away-peacefully-in-her-sleep-today

Oh no - that's a lesson to me, check the date on the thread!!! RIP lovely lady and I hope the child is going well now.