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Omg what do I do now?

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chocolatemuffin75 · 19/02/2026 22:04

I’ve been chatting to someone online for the past week, we have arranged to meet tomorrow, he’s just informed me he’s uploaded another photo of himself, as his others were not very clear and quite far away, my god he’s awful, I know looks aren’t everything but I just can’t meet him, Why couldn’t he have posted this one in the first place! He just looks so scruffy with a stubbly beard which I hate, his other photos are obviously older. How do I tell him I don’t wish to meet now? I feel a right cow but I just can’t meet him.

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chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 16:01

Right here’s the one I saw he’s meant to be smiling 😂

Omg what do I do now?
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MonsteraDeliciosa · 20/02/2026 15:51

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The irony of you calling someone else a "delight"... 🙄

Dontlletmedownbruce · 20/02/2026 15:51

Maybe get back to mummy’s basement?

@KatsPJs what does this mean?

bafta16 · 20/02/2026 15:50

Blimey! The sketch.

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chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:47

RampantIvy · 20/02/2026 15:41

Maybe I am shallow or maybe I just have preferences.

If he isn't attractive to you, he isn't attractive. And that is a good enough reason not to meet.

Does he have a parrot on his shoulder?

No but he might have one 🤣

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chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:46

KatsPJs · 20/02/2026 15:44

You seem to be under the impression that women are a single homogeneous group that all look and act the same. I hate to break it to you but we don’t. I don’t wear makeup, fake tan, lashes, spanx or push up bras. And I don’t dye my hair. And when I was OLD I used accurate photos. And I certainly would not meet with that man in OP’s case. Maybe get back to mummy’s basement?

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so true infact I never reply to men who have filtered photos, they look ridiculous.

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Or maybe she’s just not desperate?

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chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:44

JH20000 · 20/02/2026 15:44

Agree that some of the replies are batshit. Also agree a man wouldn’t be worrying over how to cancel, they’d just ghost or block..! OP it’s totally fine to not want to meet him, it’s obvious he’s shit himself because he’s been using old photos so has had to upload a recent one so you at least recognise him if you did meet. If I were you I’d just send a short message saying circumstances have changed and you can’t meet. No need for any further explanation.

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That’s exactly what I’ve done

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KatsPJs · 20/02/2026 15:44

Dontlletmedownbruce · 20/02/2026 15:33

I'll bet if most men saw you no make up they'd run a mile too OP. Women are very good at portraying themselves as different to what they are. Fake tan, eye lashes, spanx, push up bras, hair dye. Not to mention filters. It's quite deceptive. Maybe he is the kind of man that isn't so superficial and wants you to see him as he is? You could send him a picture of you as you really are to test this, if he cancels then you'll know he is also just into looks. That said, if you don't want to meet him then don't but at least admit that you are shallow and value looks above other traits and maybe narrow your searches next time.

You seem to be under the impression that women are a single homogeneous group that all look and act the same. I hate to break it to you but we don’t. I don’t wear makeup, fake tan, lashes, spanx or push up bras. And I don’t dye my hair. And when I was OLD I used accurate photos. And I certainly would not meet with that man in OP’s case. Maybe get back to mummy’s basement?

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chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:44

dapsnotplimsolls · 20/02/2026 15:41

I can stop banging my head against the wall now 😂

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🤣

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JH20000 · 20/02/2026 15:44

Agree that some of the replies are batshit. Also agree a man wouldn’t be worrying over how to cancel, they’d just ghost or block..! OP it’s totally fine to not want to meet him, it’s obvious he’s shit himself because he’s been using old photos so has had to upload a recent one so you at least recognise him if you did meet. If I were you I’d just send a short message saying circumstances have changed and you can’t meet. No need for any further explanation.

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chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:43

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Oh well so I’m not allowed preferences? Funny as most posters on here are agreeing with me, are they all superficial cows too??

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RampantIvy · 20/02/2026 15:41

Maybe I am shallow or maybe I just have preferences.

If he isn't attractive to you, he isn't attractive. And that is a good enough reason not to meet.

Does he have a parrot on his shoulder?

dapsnotplimsolls · 20/02/2026 15:41

chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:41

Oh god I get it now 😂 hang on

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I can stop banging my head against the wall now 😂

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chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:41

lesleyfife2908 · 20/02/2026 15:36

Tell him that you’ve also grown some whiskers - he’ll then cancel. Sorted!!🧔‍♀️😂

🤣🤣

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chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:41

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 20/02/2026 15:38

She means a sketch of original photo, the blurry one. Your sketch is the recent photo he sent isn’t it?

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Oh god I get it now 😂 hang on

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chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:40

Dontlletmedownbruce · 20/02/2026 15:33

I'll bet if most men saw you no make up they'd run a mile too OP. Women are very good at portraying themselves as different to what they are. Fake tan, eye lashes, spanx, push up bras, hair dye. Not to mention filters. It's quite deceptive. Maybe he is the kind of man that isn't so superficial and wants you to see him as he is? You could send him a picture of you as you really are to test this, if he cancels then you'll know he is also just into looks. That said, if you don't want to meet him then don't but at least admit that you are shallow and value looks above other traits and maybe narrow your searches next time.

I’m me hardly wear makeup, my photos are a true representation of me.
Can’t stand fake tan eyelashes etc, don’t even know how to use filters and don’t see the point in them anyway. So actually he’s already saw photos of how I look truthfully. Maybe I am shallow or maybe I just have preferences.

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cooksbrandedclock · 20/02/2026 15:39

chocolatemuffin75 · 19/02/2026 22:10

And he wears an earring! I have nothing against earrings but not a hoop on a bloke.

Noooo! A man wearing a hooped earring is reason enough to avoid.

MessyNDepressy · 20/02/2026 15:39

This thread is mental 🤣. OP you’ve done nothing wrong in not meeting someone you’re not attracted to! The bitterness from some on here is insane.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 20/02/2026 15:38

chocolatemuffin75 · 20/02/2026 15:18

I already have

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She means a sketch of original photo, the blurry one. Your sketch is the recent photo he sent isn’t it?

lesleyfife2908 · 20/02/2026 15:36

Tell him that you’ve also grown some whiskers - he’ll then cancel. Sorted!!🧔‍♀️😂

RampantIvy · 20/02/2026 15:35

NooNakedJacuzziness · 20/02/2026 15:32

is his name Michael Finnigan? If so it’s quite windy today, those whiskers might get blown in again.

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CurvedPoint · 20/02/2026 15:34

Women are very good at portraying themselves as different to what they are.

I'm bloody well not. I'm crap at it. Guess I'm not a woman then!

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Dontlletmedownbruce · 20/02/2026 15:33

I'll bet if most men saw you no make up they'd run a mile too OP. Women are very good at portraying themselves as different to what they are. Fake tan, eye lashes, spanx, push up bras, hair dye. Not to mention filters. It's quite deceptive. Maybe he is the kind of man that isn't so superficial and wants you to see him as he is? You could send him a picture of you as you really are to test this, if he cancels then you'll know he is also just into looks. That said, if you don't want to meet him then don't but at least admit that you are shallow and value looks above other traits and maybe narrow your searches next time.