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DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

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UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:52

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

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FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 07/06/2025 08:19

@CustardySergeant

Current orange cat situation. She had just tried to come and sit on me, because even a bath doesn’t deter her.

DH says cat needs to show more gratitude
JungAtHeart · 07/06/2025 08:18

Our cat has just turned six months old. She came to live with us at twelve weeks - the only girl in a litter of seven! We were told she’d be very shy and very quiet initially…probably hide. Ha 😂 If she could have spoken she would have said ‘you ALL work for ME now!’. The idea that she will ever show us gratitude is laughable. But that’s why we’re obsessed with her! A photo of Lady Mary … I have hundreds to choose from 😂

DH says cat needs to show more gratitude
WeirdyBeardyMarrowBabyLady · 07/06/2025 06:52

That photo was like a magic eye puzzle!

Kleya25 · 07/06/2025 06:25

When our remaining house panther is in one of his strops I've found catnip and valerian work wonders, with Dreamies thrown in on several occasions.

I was also about to ask if this was the first time your husband had encountered a cat but someone beat me to it 😆

EmpressaurusKitty · 07/06/2025 06:17

Teach your DH to slow blink. If he’s really lucky the cat might blink back.

JuneJustRains · 07/06/2025 06:16

Modestandatinybitsexy · 06/06/2025 10:10

When DH and I first moved in together I walked in on their first cuddle just as DH said “he likes me, he’s wagging his tail!” Cue cat attack

To be fair, my dog makes that mistake daily.

feelingbleh · 07/06/2025 06:15

🤣🤣🤣 cats don't like people and think their above us. It's just being a cat 🐈

planetfall · 07/06/2025 06:11

Has he perhaps been watching that video of JD Vance berating Volodomyr Zelenskyy for not saying "thank you" a sufficient number of times?

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UngratefulFeline · 07/06/2025 06:01

Mothership4two · 07/06/2025 04:24

He'll have to educate himself with the zillions of memes, gifs and videos about the famously entitled and ungrateful common pet cat

Actually looks like my ungrateful cat.

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TatteredAndTorn · 07/06/2025 05:32

lol. That’s the joy of cats and why they are so brilliant.

Mothership4two · 07/06/2025 04:44

bombastix · 06/06/2025 08:54

Reckon your DH doesn’t like the cat. Cat knows it

Cat is probably barely aware of DH's existence!

Selttan · 07/06/2025 04:34

It’s my birthday and my cats couldn’t even be bothered to give me a kiss - instead I got a bite and a smack. The reason - I exist!

tripleginandtonic · 07/06/2025 04:32

bombastix · 06/06/2025 08:54

Reckon your DH doesn’t like the cat. Cat knows it

No, cats always go round the feet of people they know don't like them to wind them up.

TheRoundTable1983 · 07/06/2025 04:31

Your response was completely correct. It’s a cat and they live on their terms - no one else’s! I read something the other day about a study around why some people are more ‘dog people’ and some ‘cat people’. Apparently, there’s some logic to the fact that dogs will love you unconditionally, all the time and regardless of how you treat them, whereas cats show affection only on their own terms. It was suggested that needy people sway towards being dog lovers, whereas more independent and less needy people can appreciate the appeal of cats. It made for interesting reading, and I’d say has proved to be true in your husband’s case if he’s looking for thanks from a feline! 🤣

MannyTeddy · 07/06/2025 04:24

Love this. 😂😂

Really missing the laughter button for this thread as loads of others have said.

Your photos are all beautiful.

I'm a dog person with 2 rescue cats who I love so much.

Mothership4two · 07/06/2025 04:24

He'll have to educate himself with the zillions of memes, gifs and videos about the famously entitled and ungrateful common pet cat

Relaxed Cat GIF by sheepfilms
Mothership4two · 07/06/2025 04:19

Fizbosshoes · 06/06/2025 09:29

I'm discombobulated that 3% of people who responded think YABU! 🤣🤣🤣

Dog people 🤨

BlueFlowers5 · 07/06/2025 04:02

Cats don't communicate easily, you have to work at it. Mine show me gratitude by head bumping my lower legs and giving me nose kisses.
But it is given in their case on their terms.
Talk to your cat - from the other side of the room..build up trust with your voice.

scorpiogirly · 07/06/2025 03:23

What a knob.

Ladyzfactor · 07/06/2025 02:37

My ungrateful little bastard farted right in my face today. I was laying in bed and he was on the other pillow leaning against me when I heard a tiny little squeak. He wandered off looking satisfied as I was hit with wet cat food farts

SaveAndEarnMoreMoney · 07/06/2025 01:44

Witknit · 06/06/2025 23:15

This gave me a proper laugh - thank you!
I have 9 cats and would say that there is a reason that cat rhymes with tw*t

I’m a cat owner too and couldn’t agree more! 🤣🤣

Miaminmoo · 07/06/2025 01:25

This has literally made my day - imagining a world where a cat showed any kind of gratitude 🤣

ErinBell01 · 07/06/2025 00:06

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:54

Until we married, he had only ever had dogs and chickens.

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I've had chickens and they didn't show any gratitude either so he should be used to it!

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 06/06/2025 23:40

Cats are contrary little bastards luvkins.
They treat you like a servant but when you're least expecting it you'll get a head bump or a cat kiss.
They won't do this if you're expecting it.

I think your DH needs to read the book 'The Most Illustrious Imperial Serene Highness Aka Known As The Furry God/Godess Cat Rules'

He'll soon get it!

bellocchild · 06/06/2025 23:36

Cats don't DO gratitude!

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