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DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

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UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:52

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

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fetchacloth · 07/06/2025 18:08

This made me laugh out loud 🤣 😂
This is totally normal cat behaviour and no amount of treats and fuss will change it.

SinnerBoy · 07/06/2025 16:41

I have another 16 pages to read, so sorry if it's already been said:

Does DH stand for Dozy Husband? Defective Husband?

VickyEadieofThigh · 07/06/2025 14:31

IvorBiggen · 06/06/2025 08:55

The fact that your DH is still alive means that the cat loves him. It is your DH who is being ungrateful.

Indeed. The cat could have eaten him whilst DH was asleep.

A colleague once told me she heard her DH saying to their cat "You're all take and no give."

Witknit · 07/06/2025 14:15

Its your cat here.

DH who?

Londonmummy66 · 07/06/2025 11:52

NeverDropYourMooncup · 07/06/2025 09:43

To be fair to the small Velociraptors, they have to make those fluffy, clucky noises and pay protection eggs to the human because they know the threat of a packet of Paxo and half an onion shoved up the jacksie.

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Absolutely need the laughing emoji back...

Snakebite61 · 07/06/2025 11:38

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:52

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

Your husband sounds like a right idiot.

Bluedabadeeba · 07/06/2025 11:23

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:54

Until we married, he had only ever had dogs and chickens.

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Do chickens show gratitude??

Thanks for cheering me right up!!

DisabledDemon · 07/06/2025 11:09

This joke may help your DH to understand his place in the hierarchy ...

A cat and a dog both die and having made it through the Pearly Gates, have to present themselves to God to be vetted. When they do, God asks the dog, 'So, tell me, have you been able good dog?'

'Oh yes!' answers the dog, eagerly. 'I fetched, sat and rolled over whenever commanded. I was a good companion and loyal servant to my owners.'

'Very good,' booms God, approvingly. 'You're in. Now, what about you, cat? Have you been a good cat?'

The cat looks at him and says, 'You're in my seat.'

Laura95167 · 07/06/2025 10:43

Tell him he tried too hard and the car misinterpreted this and felt nervous and defensive. Some cats aren't as food motivated as dogs. If he sits in a room with cat and ignores him that cat will come round.

He might train the dog but the cat needs to train him

grumpygrape · 07/06/2025 10:25

NeverDropYourMooncup · 07/06/2025 09:43

To be fair to the small Velociraptors, they have to make those fluffy, clucky noises and pay protection eggs to the human because they know the threat of a packet of Paxo and half an onion shoved up the jacksie.

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Now we can't just let a poster know we appreciate their post with a laugh we have to quote and 🤣
Just because nasty people were missusing the React 🤣

sashh · 07/06/2025 10:04

NeverDropYourMooncup · 07/06/2025 09:43

To be fair to the small Velociraptors, they have to make those fluffy, clucky noises and pay protection eggs to the human because they know the threat of a packet of Paxo and half an onion shoved up the jacksie.

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LOL

Nowayyousure · 07/06/2025 10:01

Agapornis · 06/06/2025 14:34

Reported for hate speech

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😂

Hate speech 🤣

NeverDropYourMooncup · 07/06/2025 09:43

Autumn38 · 07/06/2025 08:52

That explains it. He’s probably used to the chickens showing real deep felt thanks when he takes care of them. They are notorious for their ostentatious displays of humble gratitude

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To be fair to the small Velociraptors, they have to make those fluffy, clucky noises and pay protection eggs to the human because they know the threat of a packet of Paxo and half an onion shoved up the jacksie.

Mothership4two · 07/06/2025 09:26

Autumn38 · 07/06/2025 08:52

That explains it. He’s probably used to the chickens showing real deep felt thanks when he takes care of them. They are notorious for their ostentatious displays of humble gratitude

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😂

WestwardHo1 · 07/06/2025 09:19

But cats are arseholes! Didn't your DH realise? They are grateful for nothing. We should be grateful to them for allowing us to serve them and occasionally stroke them.

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 07/06/2025 09:12

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 09:56

More photos so you can decide if it is your cat. They are of the same cat- the lighting changes his fur colour.

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Your cat has the typical 'twat' facial expressions 🤣 Love it.

FieldInWhichFucksAreGrownIsBarren · 07/06/2025 09:08

bombastix · 06/06/2025 08:54

Reckon your DH doesn’t like the cat. Cat knows it

See now this is completely wrong.
When a cat knows a person doesn't like them they will make a beeline for said person and be super affectionate, they do this as they know the person hates it and it brings the cat enormous pleasure.

caringcarer · 07/06/2025 08:59

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:57

He regularly tries to call the cat over to him and has whistled in the past. He has coped with this failure but I really think he had visions of the cat and him becoming BFFs while I was away.

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Whistling at a cat just shows he's a bit thick OP. It's a cat not a dog.

MyOtherProfile · 07/06/2025 08:54

Your poor deluded husband! And the poor deluded 3 per cent who think you're unreasonable 😂

Autumn38 · 07/06/2025 08:52

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:54

Until we married, he had only ever had dogs and chickens.

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That explains it. He’s probably used to the chickens showing real deep felt thanks when he takes care of them. They are notorious for their ostentatious displays of humble gratitude

Toddlerteaplease · 07/06/2025 08:46

@CustardySergeanti have one of those boards and Penelope did the same!

Gettingbysomehow · 07/06/2025 08:43

I expect the cat spent the whole time trying to work out how he could kill and eat the spare human.

Toddlerteaplease · 07/06/2025 08:43

The advantage of living on my own is that the cats have no choice but to be my friend.

Goodadvice1980 · 07/06/2025 08:40

Your dh does realise it’s the cat letting him live in the cats house 😂🐾🐾

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 07/06/2025 08:38

tripleginandtonic · 07/06/2025 04:32

No, cats always go round the feet of people they know don't like them to wind them up.

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That's where I'm going wrong , I try to endear myself to the cats but they know

MaleCat drapes himself round DD like a cheap suit .
If I even put my hand near him he glares at me "Don't touch me . I did not give you permission" and arches his body away

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