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DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

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UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:52

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

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Megifer · 06/06/2025 10:03

I love the idea of someone wanting a cat to show gratitude 😂😂😂😂

Foostit · 06/06/2025 10:02

This has cheered me up! How did you keep a straight face? 😂

ChocolateCinderToffee · 06/06/2025 10:00

Tell him that unless it bit his hand off at the wrist, it IS showing gratitude.

Mine literally attacks me if I am slow to meet his demands.

Wreckinball · 06/06/2025 10:00

Is your cat a narcissist? Your DH may need to grey rock the cat to be able to cope with it’s behaviour a bit more

spoonbillstretford · 06/06/2025 10:00

Hahahaha.

Good luck with that. Also here is a stick for catching the moon on the end of.

Mitchyp · 06/06/2025 10:00

Dh needs to grow up cats down have a owner they have servants for a reason they give love and cates on their time not tour dh times

alcoholnightmare · 06/06/2025 09:59

This should go in classics!

Ilovemyshed · 06/06/2025 09:58

Your DH needs a crash course in how to talk to a cat and what body language they respond to! Then he needs to understand that once he has learned that, and practiced it for several years, the cat will still choose to ignore him if it wants. Cats will cat.

By god though when they do choose you, what a treat it is !

alcoholnightmare · 06/06/2025 09:57

This really made me laugh! I’m not a cat fan at all, but I’m totally team cat over man baby husband on this one!

Toddlerteaplease · 06/06/2025 09:57

🤣🤣

CountryMumof4 · 06/06/2025 09:57

One of my cats shows gratitude by curling up on my knee, smiling happily (or so it looks) and then emitting the most noxious aromas known to man (or cat) kind. I think I'd rather be ignored by him during these moments.

Mansionscoldandgrey · 06/06/2025 09:57

HTH

DH says cat needs to show more gratitude
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UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 09:56

viques · 06/06/2025 09:46

Ps. I have just seen the photo, and would like to know why my cat is making itself comfortable in your house?

More photos so you can decide if it is your cat. They are of the same cat- the lighting changes his fur colour.

DH says cat needs to show more gratitude
DH says cat needs to show more gratitude
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Chemenger · 06/06/2025 09:54

MiracleCures · 06/06/2025 08:57

I agree with your Dh.

Any cat that doesn't send beautifully hand written thank you note after being cared for just didn't pay enough attention at finishing school.

If your cat sends a beautifully hand written note you’d better sleep with your eyes open because you’re about to be murdered in the night.

Barnbrack · 06/06/2025 09:54

Is your cat male? Have you tried to explain to him that the cat is both a cat and a man and therefore someone taking care of his basic domestic needs is just something he expects? Try that, it may help...

IsThisLifeNow · 06/06/2025 09:51

I've been having a crappy time f it lately, but this had given me a giggle, thanks OP!

DolefullySingingMotherfucka · 06/06/2025 09:51

Is he on a pusstake? Deplorable catitude.

ShouldIEvenBother · 06/06/2025 09:51

Your DH is the spare human as far as the cat is concerned. You may have to break this news to him very, very gently, OP. Once he grasps this fact, the process of acceptance can begin!

Secretsquirels · 06/06/2025 09:51

Tell your DH that the cat responds to all human commands which you give it; provides letters of gratitude for your looking after; and caters to your every whim.

If he can't make it do that clearly he needs more practice at being in change of the household so it gets up to cat standard and you'll be booking yourself a monthly weekend away alone ................. ;-)

Klozza · 06/06/2025 09:50

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 09:06

Um photo which I seem to have failed to upload before.

I’ve never met this cat, but I love him

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UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 09:49

The problem is when we first got married our cat at that time was what I would refer to as a low-level cat-kind of like a ragdoll in personality but she wasn’t a ragdoll. You could pick her up and put her on your lap and she would stay quite happily purring. So DH thinks this is the gold standard of cats but of course he is wrong.

He now has a mid-level cat who won’t put up with any of this bullshit. I however grew up with a high-level cat as my first cat so can deal with mid-level cat shenanigans quite easily. DH thinks I let the cat walk all over me but little does he appreciate that my childhood cat was a high-level cat who hated everyone and once left home for six months and moved into the neighbours shed because my parents held a barbecue. She would deign to sit on your lap about twice a year during which time you had to remain perfectly still and not talk or else she would clamp your arm with claws and teeth. Good times.

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PhilomenaPunk · 06/06/2025 09:49

Hmm I saw something online recently that said something along the lines of people who struggle to understand the importance of personal boundaries tend to struggle more with cats. Cats are very clear in their boundaries, have no problem rejecting advances and have the confidence to essentially say no. And that seems to rub a certain type of person the wrong way.

Giving any other being treats and (what you perceive to be) affection does not and should not guarantee you affection and attention in return. It’s a good lesson to us all. But then I am a cat person.

Boredlass · 06/06/2025 09:49

It’s a cat. They don’t give a shit about anyone. No loyalty whatsoever

IhateSPSS · 06/06/2025 09:48

Your DH needs to show more gratitude to your cat IMO because my cat makes me her door butler, mood predictor and food guesser on the daily. One day she will accept the go cat biscuits, the next day absolutely not. One hour she is my best mate and curling up on my lap is good, then she decides that actually reaching for the remote control deserves my hand being bitten. If I don't open the back door to let he in within 30 seconds she looks at me like I am cats protection league material. Your DH is lucky he's not in an abusive relationship with the cat like I am with my little Annie. She's cute and that's all she has going for her.

Moonlightdust · 06/06/2025 09:48

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 09:06

Um photo which I seem to have failed to upload before.

Awww 🥰 “If I camouflage myself hopefully my owners will leave me alone” 😂

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