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DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

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UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:52

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

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PurplebeadedFendi · 06/06/2025 11:48

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 06/06/2025 11:36

I did hear its because they don't photo well but black cat hatred goes back to the time of witchcraft , probably longer .
They are a thing of beauty , when our boy goes off down the path, domain surveying , he is a magnificent panther on the territory prowl .
The girl curls up like a teeny dragon. Grin

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Your cats sound gorgeous! A panther and a wee dragon 😍I appreciate the ancient witchcraft association, but just don't understand it in this day and age. It's equally sad that people don't want them because of social media, how shallow! 😢 My next master will be a black cat for sure!

alcoholnightmare · 06/06/2025 11:47

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DH says cat needs to show more gratitude
lifeonmars100 · 06/06/2025 11:47

Just seen the photos, oh what a gorgeous cat, wouldn't mess with him though, that face!

lifeonmars100 · 06/06/2025 11:44

So funny, best laugh I have had in ages. Cats are just the best, so capricious, eccentric and often just bloody daft. I would like to be a cat if I could live in a household that loved me, think of it, sleep whenever and wherever I wanted, be adored just because I exist, have my beauty and brains (even if lacking!) praised on a daily basis, fed treats and take legal drugs in the form of catnip.

Summer24isRubbish · 06/06/2025 11:42

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 08:52

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

I have a cat and I feel exactly the same as your DH …

I also know that I shouldn’t expect anything back in return …. But it still bloody annoys me.

Tigergirl80 · 06/06/2025 11:40

He spent 1 weekend paying attention to the cat and he’s expecting gratitude. 😂😂😂

Crunchymum · 06/06/2025 11:38

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 09:06

Um photo which I seem to have failed to upload before.

I can't see him 😂

Beautiful boy you have there. Your DH is a lunatic though.

Caledoniadreaming · 06/06/2025 11:37

Between the toddler meltdown in 'Murica and this post I'm having the best Friday morning I've had in a long time.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 06/06/2025 11:36

PurplebeadedFendi · 06/06/2025 11:17

I just don't understand the unpopularity of black cats. They are so, so beautiful! MIL has a stunning, panther-like boy who has everyone vying for his (rarely bestowed) attention. Actually, he was a rescued/fostered stray (MIL works with Cats Protection) and at the beginning very affectionate with all the family - until everyone was under his spell and his paws were firmly under the table, at which point he reverted to normal, feline aloofness. My DH would give anything to bring him home, but our twin Bengal crosses would likely kill him (DH) and piss all over everything in protest. They guard us jealously.

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I did hear its because they don't photo well but black cat hatred goes back to the time of witchcraft , probably longer .
They are a thing of beauty , when our boy goes off down the path, domain surveying , he is a magnificent panther on the territory prowl .
The girl curls up like a teeny dragon. Grin

Americano75 · 06/06/2025 11:36

UngratefulFeline · 06/06/2025 09:06

Um photo which I seem to have failed to upload before.

He looks a bit like my girl cat, beautiful.

As for your husband, has he never met a cat before?

Caerulea · 06/06/2025 11:32

AnonymousBleep · 06/06/2025 11:29

My cat does understand human commands and has better recall than my JRT. However, she also likes to wee on towels.

What in the Fuck is it with towels?! Why do they hate them so much?

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 06/06/2025 11:31

RedRoss86 · 06/06/2025 11:19

I want to know what the cat has to say about this.

You really really don't Grin

DD chats to the Feline OverLords and says "Dex , that isn;t a nice thing to say about Mum" He has beautiful pistachio coloured eyes with really narrow pupils
His sister has huge pupils green eyes .

Huge pupils / pinprick pupils .......hmm sign of something here ...

TimeForATerf · 06/06/2025 11:31

The best way for a cat to give you attention is to ignore it. Your DH's mistake was treating the cat like a dog which makes the cat see him as a threat.

He will learn to be owned by the cat in time, and respond in the way the cat wants.

AnonymousBleep · 06/06/2025 11:29

My cat does understand human commands and has better recall than my JRT. However, she also likes to wee on towels.

gingercat02 · 06/06/2025 11:27

Muffinmam · 06/06/2025 10:12

I just can’t even ….is your husband always like this?

I’ve just been away on holidays and the pet sitter reported that my cat did not like having her tummy rubbed. This made me laugh ….she’s a cat & it would be unusual if a cat liked having their tummy rubbed.

How can your husband live with a cat and not know it’s personality?

Get your husband to watch this:

m.youtube.com/watch?v=PKffm2uI4dk&pp=ygUJQ2F0IGRpYXJ5

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Ours loves a tummy rub. She lies on her back legs akimbo for a stroke every morning.
She would die in the wild, totally pathetic

TwistedKeys · 06/06/2025 11:25

Gosh. Best start preparing him now for life with teenagers.

Kevinbaconsrealwife · 06/06/2025 11:25

Oh I love it 😂😂😂

ChuckleDaughter · 06/06/2025 11:24

Saw a post online once where someone mused that people who don't like cats have issues with respecting consent. Because cats won't do anything unless on their own terms and can't be controlled. Food for thought.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 06/06/2025 11:24

MmeChoufleur · 06/06/2025 11:19

Cats are the Tories of the pet world. They care for nobody and nothing but their own interests. Our cat sucks round me, but I’m under no illusion that she holds any warm feelings towards me. She would stab me in the back for a handful of Dreamies as soon as look at me.

Nooooooooo.
I see mine as dodgy Communist dictators with five year plans to conquer the world.

bombastix · 06/06/2025 11:23

MmeChoufleur · 06/06/2025 11:19

Cats are the Tories of the pet world. They care for nobody and nothing but their own interests. Our cat sucks round me, but I’m under no illusion that she holds any warm feelings towards me. She would stab me in the back for a handful of Dreamies as soon as look at me.

Cats as furry Tories! As a leftie, I accept that the cat is not “property” and I do not own it. The cat chooses to live with me, and may leave at any time

LurkyMcLurkinson · 06/06/2025 11:21

You win funniest title of a thread I’ve ever seen. The final death glare picture was the icing on the cake. Maybe tell your dh to play it cool and be less of a try hard if he wants the cat to like him 😂

housethatbuiltme · 06/06/2025 11:21

Is your DH also the kind of guy that use to buy a random girl a drink in a pub without her permission and then thinks that entitles him to her time/attention/affection?

You cannot buy love... not from random women or equally pets.

In most cases (with indoor cats on the rise) we have captured an imprisoned a semi-wild animal, of course they don't thank us for not letting them starve during their entrapment or providing basics like a bed etc... lol.

It took about 10 years for our girl cat to adapt to my DH and he has never been anything but sweet to her.

Its not just cats either my dog never adapted to my dad and he utterly doted on her and would do anything for her (hes a proper dog lover but she just only liked/responded to women).

MmeChoufleur · 06/06/2025 11:19

Cats are the Tories of the pet world. They care for nobody and nothing but their own interests. Our cat sucks round me, but I’m under no illusion that she holds any warm feelings towards me. She would stab me in the back for a handful of Dreamies as soon as look at me.

RedRoss86 · 06/06/2025 11:19

I want to know what the cat has to say about this.

Miyagi99 · 06/06/2025 11:18

StScholastica · 06/06/2025 09:25

Our cat acts like she's Margaret Thatcher.

😂

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