DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

This is my rescued cat.

She was dumped pregnant at a shelter at 6 months old because her owners didn't want a cat anymore. She was stick thin and scratching herself raw with open sores on her feet. She is also a tiny cat.

As far as she is concerned, she is the most excellent, magnificent and important creature that has ever set paw upon on earth. Her presence is the present. She has done me the honour of not only existing in my home, but permitting me to spend a small fortune figuring out exactly what she is allergic to (its a few common cat food ingredients plus grass pollen) and buying her toys, blankets, and hypoallergenic collars, because clearly I needed something to spend my entire salary on.

She is actually affectionate, but its not gratitude. Its the beneficence of royalty waving and parading past their loyal subjects.

Great thread 😀 can you possibly have a word with the cat OP and maybe get the cat to purchase a small gift for you DH in order to build the relationship between them.

YANBU

Your DH should be eternally grateful the cat has deigned to allow him to be in the vicinity of its mighty presence.

That's how it works.

I think it's tongue in cheek.

Op , as a terrible people pleaser I like that about them. I have never had a cat, husband absolutely hates them (which actually means he is scared of them) but there's a beautiful one near us and it will come up for a tickle but as soon as it's had enough it's off. I admire that in them. I also though admire a dog that's not needy!

Your DH clearly doesn't speak cat yet... you may still be able to teach him though.

Dogs are social animals, they thrive in groups, evolved to hunt in packs, and have a natural pecking order. Dogs show behaviours that we might read as gratitude/ affection because that's how they bond with their strongest pack members (humans). Knowing their place in the pack makes them feel secure.

Cat's hunt alone, they aren't relying on good relationships/ communication, they don't have the same need for reassurance of their place in the 'pack'. They know are the centre of the universe and aren't going to stoop to sucking up to us and seeking approval like a dog does 😆

He really does not get cats does he?The cat has condescended to live with you, which is as much in the way of gratitude you are going to get from a cat.

Get him to read "Old Possums Book of Practical Cats" because he really does not have a clue.

Op,
We have a cat, we had her since she was 6months old, she's 10years now.
only the last 2-3years she started to be more responsive to my partner. He gives her treats.
if she want treat she will sit next to him and look pretty, cute, even give a headbutt, but as soon as she has her treat she goes away.

he need to educate himself about cats behaviour. lots of videos on YouTube.

I had such a giggle reading this. Has your dh ever met a cat before?

Does he not realise that he lives in the cats house now and it's only fitting he shows his gratitude by fluffing the cats bedding and providing plenty of food and affection like any good servant?

Personally I think it's quite nice he really wants to be the cats BFF.

This thread is brilliant, thanks for the laugh OP and everyone else.

Cat: oh poor woman, so big but cannot even hunt. I will teach how to kill her and feed her like she is my own kitten 💖
Human: 🤮😭 bad cat!
Cat: oh... human is retarded

😆

Thanks for the laugh 😂🤣😂😂🤣🤣

Again - am missing the laughing emoji 😹😹😹

I look after my neighbours cat when they are away. He is all sweetness and light while they are still around. Purring and rubbing around my ankles. As soon as they leave he is a furry monster. I have to go into feed him wearing long boots (bites and scratches my legs) gloves and a thick coat.
I feed him, change his water and cat litter. I have learnt to throw treats through the door on entering, run past him and close kitchen door behind me to prepare his food etc.
My other neighbours think I am totally insane after I was heard yelling "you ungrateful little bastard" while running out the front door during heat wave wearing coat, boots and gloves.

get him to ferret-sit

A cat will appear so appreciative and loving after that, even a cat that understands that your husband is a twat.

i laughed at the title before I even opened the thread.

That DCat knows who’s boss and it’s not the DH. If he were to demonstrate a dislike of the cat there’s a small chance it will want to become BFFs. But cats sense fakery so this is a risky strategy that could backfire with the loss of your DH’s bed/sofa space or a claw-filled ambush at any moment!

I wish they brought back the laugh emoji! 🤣

Cats just please themselves. If they sit on your lap, it's because it's a nice warm place to sit - not because they think you'll like it. Your DH is being silly. Send him a sarcastic 'Thank You' card signed with the cat's paw print.

Our cat was a rescue. She showed her gratitude by eating an entire live rabbit in front of me and bringing a heavily pregnant rat into my bedroom, ripping the mother's stomach open and killing mother and babies whilst I was still half asleep. Amongst many other things (I was a child and not really capable of dealing with it)

Cats are generally wankers tbh 🤣

Both times they took her back in less than 24 hrs didn't even give her a chance to settle in 😢😢

Its been scientifically proven that cats do understand human commands including their own name they just choose not to respond.

He sounds extremely insecure! Imagine being anything other than amused by a cat being a cat. Please tell me DH was being funny!

Has anyone said 'Leave your DH yet'?

This thread has given me a real laugh!

Our now deceased high level cat was an absolute bastard - we loved him despite his personality, not because of it. He did, however, show us enormous gratitude in cat terms, by bringing us a seemingly endless supply of dead mice in his younger days, and one live one, of which we were unaware until it expired under the TV unit and started to smell. Is that what OP's DH is hoping for? 😂

OP, I think I love you. Your posts have made me laugh so much. Definitely NBU. My cat is lovely, but when I tell her I love her (as I do every single day) the best I’ll get is a hard stare. At worst she’ll cough up a hairball / lick her bottom in response. I know my place.