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Extended Mumsnetting

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BEAUTlFUL · 22/05/2008 01:48

It is the accepted norm for most Mothers to stop Mumsnetting at around the same time, 6-7pm. Many others like to carry on until slightly later, 10 or 11pm.

But, there is a group of Extended Mumsnetters who don't conform to society's normal guidelines for internet usage and go far beyond the recommended 12am shut-off, Mumsnetting up to the time of 3, 4, even 8am.

Whilst most mothers would balk at such extended internet use, claiming their computer was primarily designed for their husband, these Extended Mumsnetters say it carries benefits.

"After 1am, you get the drunks coming back from the pub," says one EM, who admits she has Mumsnetted well past dawn. "They type a bit dodgily, but often you can get them to admit embarrassing stuff without name-changing."

Then there are the Tandem Mumsnetters, who have two screens open simultaneously so they can refresh threads faster.

The World Health Organisation recommends every mother Mumsnets if at all possible, and supports the local Internet Cafes that help new Mumsnetters overcome problems logging on. But there are some groups of people who believe Extended Mumsnetters are weird. "I tried to Mumsnet when I had a baby, but it was so tricky at first," says one vehement opposer. "In the end I gave up and read the Daily Mail. My kids are thriving."

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MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo · 22/05/2008 22:06

Don't you think that you can DM anywhere? I find that there is a limited amount of places where MN'ing is acceptable. Actually I heard in Scotland it's illegal to prevent someone from MN'ing in public places

S1ur · 22/05/2008 22:02

Yes Cod. It would be wrong for people to call you a fraek.

Boco, it is your right to MN for as long as your are comfortable that needs defending. I certainly don't think there should be laws against it. I hear in Scotland there is a law protecting MNing but only until 9pm. I think this just does not go far enough. What kind of message does that send to EMNers????

susiecutiebananas · 22/05/2008 22:00

in this way... ( the rawest, most natural way to MN IMHO. )

susiecutiebananas · 22/05/2008 21:58

Bloody hell Cod, that is Hard core MNtting! I'm allowing the air to get to it tonight, out in the garden. It's ok, there is no-one here to see me in the way. I can't be offending anyone. Being bitten to buggery though. I need some kind of ointment or creams for this kind of extreme MNting. Any advice greatly appreciated...

WilfSell · 22/05/2008 21:44
WilfSell · 22/05/2008 21:44

Boco, i agree, a glass of wine really helps one letdown and get a good flow

Boco · 22/05/2008 21:42

A couple of times I tried EMNing and stayed on it past midnight, but to be honest I didn't feel comfortable. Mostly it was people sharing pictures of scantily clad men and typing things like 'phwoooaarr chekc tihs out laydees!'

I felt dirty. I talked to my dp about it the next day and I decided to just do what feels right and I realised it's OK to admit that I can only handle the pre-midnight chat.

Maybe one day I'll try again but I have to build up my tolerance to alcohol first.

FluffyMummy123 · 22/05/2008 21:37

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susiecutiebananas · 22/05/2008 21:31

I just wanted to add re my last post, that i'm not endorsing any particular supplements to be used in addition to MN. I was just simply suggesting a few different ones. There are many out there, it is up to personal choice which you use.

WilfSell · 22/05/2008 21:05

Swedes, you don't need to toughen up! If you're getting the angle right, it shouldn't hurt at all.

Swedes · 22/05/2008 21:02

What did you all use for toughening up your Mnet fingers. I had no idea it would hurt so much. MNHQ said walk around all day with your gloves off and let the air get to your fingers. Fine for them to say but I've got a teenager in the house. What do I do if my 16 year old brings a friend home and I'm strutting around the house without my gloves on?

Swedes · 22/05/2008 20:59

Has anyone mentioned topping up?

flamingtoaster · 22/05/2008 18:51

I agree information needs to be more readily available. I was given very bad advice and did briefly flirt with DM while continuing to MN as well (hangs head) when really I now know that all I needed to do was a MN moon.

S1ur · 22/05/2008 18:40

I think they does need to be clearer information out there for peopole who are struggling to MN.

There was a while when my MN was a bit slow and I struggled to get enough, but I found opening two tabs and switching frequently between them soon allowed for the threads to build up and chat to be more free-flowing.

fryalot · 22/05/2008 18:36

Has anyone managed to successfully dreamMN?

StarlightMcKenzie · 22/05/2008 18:34

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BouncingTurtle · 22/05/2008 18:31

Thank you so much I shall do that.

Do you have a number for LaTechieLeague?

{grin]

Tatterdemalion · 22/05/2008 18:20

lol @ MN doula, and what would one of those look like then Mars?

StarlightMcKenzie · 22/05/2008 18:20

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MarsLady · 22/05/2008 18:18

She should get in touch with a MNetting Consultant. I'm sure that there are MN Peer counsellors around but given the extent of pressure on her I would be inclined to bring in the big guns from the get go!

Perhaps a Postnatal MNDoula would be beneficial?

BouncingTurtle · 22/05/2008 18:17

Hope you girls can help, my friend is about to take delivery of her new laptop, and I asked her if she was planning on MNing. She said she wants to but lacks confidence. Her mum and MIL have great faith in the DM and said that the DM was good enough for them, so it should be good enough for my friend. Her MIL has even organised daily deliveries of the DM!
She is very worried that with DM being so available, especially because of all the adverts for the Mail on Sunday which is looking like a good read, she'll not get the chance to become familiar with MN on her new laptop. Her DH is trying to be supportive, but he doesn't know what all the fuss is about re: MNing, and doesn't really understand why MN has so many benefits above the DM.
How can I help her?

susiecutiebananas · 22/05/2008 18:06

what like? Red or Elle or Gracia? Well, I can't tell you what else you should or shouldn't do whilst MN, however, common sense and instincts are there for a reason

chitchat · 22/05/2008 17:59

Thanks susie, I have a supportive DH he knows where the kettle is and can cook a mean omlete... I am set to give it a go. But should I give up my supplements?

susiecutiebananas · 22/05/2008 17:52

I left the thread for a few hours and come back to read all these threads which make DM sound like the holy grail and MN some antiquated form of self torture.

DM is not the best way to go, of course you ought to at least try MN, even if the support or assistance on the terminals when you are in maternity is lacking. You will be fine once you get home, in the comfort of your own home, with time and peace to MN - that is so long as the damage is already done my too much DM when in hospital.

Also so long as your DH is supporting you wholly, bringing you adequate cups of tea, and meals, to keep up your strength so you can physically MN into the night, should that be your need, or your your choice. As long as your DH is not rattling around at home, complaining that there is ever anytime for him to be with you or fiddle with the equipment any more since you started to MN, and that he feels so left out and pushed away. I mean, do think of your DH/DP, it must be so difficult to be suddenly left out in this way, it must hurt a mans ego a little, no longer being the only one with access to the equipment

Its ^so difficult to strike a balance that suite al the family, but if I can do it, anyone can!! GOod luck ladies, stand your ground, and we are all here MN with you for support!