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PITH1 · 19/03/2023 21:41

I'm 30, a single mum of 2 DC (7 and 3), broke and moving 8 hours away to Scotland next week where we don't know a soul. I'm currently living in temporary accommodation and have no chance of being housed where I currently live. I added myself to open housing lists all over the UK and have been offered a gorgeous little maisonette flat in Scotland on the edge of a small town about 30min from Glasgow. Lots of green space and a small school. Have visited and really liked it. My children's father doesn't want anything to do with them and hasn't since my youngest was born so that isn't an issue. I don't have family support and I haven't been happy for a long time here and have been wanting a fresh start but I'm nervous and it's taken a lot of guts for me to do this. Does anyone have any stories/tips about moving far away on your own? Especially with young DC. Or can anyone tell me their experience of living in Scotland? Making friends there? Thanks for reading x

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DiaryofWimpy · 04/09/2023 20:12

Welcome to Scotland OP Flowers

Peacelily001 · 04/09/2023 14:56

Just found your thread OP, your flat is beautiful and the area looks fantastic!
I salute you as one single mum to another, you have made a great move x

Yolo12345 · 24/08/2023 19:13

I'm hoping that you weren't too overwhelmed by Edinburgh during the festival...it can be very busy. 🙈

How did your kids get on in the first few days back at school.

Talking about travel with kids - I assume that you know about the free travel on buses for 5-21 year olds across Scotland? You have to apply for it and the application can be tricky but your local library can help you.

Your neighbours sound so lovely 💐

ThinWomansBrain · 14/08/2023 21:21

Been I while since I read the start of the thread!
I'm so glad that it seems to be going so well, and your children have settled in.
Thanks for all the updates, Amazed that you're always so positive.

Applebyapples · 14/08/2023 16:17

Thanks for continuing to update us, I've really enjoyed following this thread. Well done on making such a success of this new start for you and your kids 😊

NisekoWhistler · 13/08/2023 22:14

Your updates are so heart warming I love following this.
Roll on Wednesday

Blingstar · 13/08/2023 14:46

@PITH12 so lovely to read your updates and your home is looking brilliant, not a midden at all! 😉

Hope you enjoyed the Edinburgh festival. You've seen the city at its busiest time!

PITH12 · 12/08/2023 10:25

Thank you so much for all the lovely comments :-) I'm also happy for anyone to PM me if they would like any advice on how I applied for my house as there has been a few comments. @Yolo12345 I am taking your suggestion from a couple months ago and taking the kids to Edinburgh today on the train! Looking forward to exploring even if it is raining 🤣 thank you as well to the poster who commented ages ago saying that if you go in to the ticket office then kids travel anywhere in Scotland for £1. It's saved me an absolute fortune over summer ☀️😊

TwilightSkies · 12/08/2023 07:23

so lovely to hear how happy you all are OP ☺️

PITH12 · 11/08/2023 21:44

I forgot to mention also that I've made friends with so many of my neighbours now and have had so much kindness shown to us. My litte boy slipped in the bath the other day and cut his chin open on a bubble bath lid and had to have it stitched at the hospital. My neighbour knocked shortly after we got back at half 9 to check he was ok, as he said they were worrying and didn't want to go to bed until they knew he was alright 🥺❤️

Badbudgeter · 11/08/2023 21:39

Hensister · 09/08/2023 13:01

This is amazing! Congratulations that you got a house? How can I find out about the waiting list? I’m basically in the same situation and there’s nothing suitable! 😢

Lots of places have their own housing associations. Some of them have long waiting lists. If you are willing to live rurally/ in a small village there tends to be more available.

It is more expensive living out in the sticks though, you often need a car etc.

Maybe have a look at this HA to see available properties.

https://www.trustha.org.uk/find-a-home/location-search/monamore-place-lamlash/

Monamore Place, Lamlash | Trust Housing Association

https://www.trustha.org.uk/find-a-home/location-search/monamore-place-lamlash

PITH12 · 11/08/2023 21:32

bizzywiththefizzy · 11/08/2023 21:21

Aww it's so nice to hear all your good news op , keep it up!

Thank you so much ❤️

PITH12 · 11/08/2023 21:21

Forgot to attach pics to the above comment! The kids bedroom is before my son's matress arrived 😊 also my little balcony, and my son enjoying the beautiful loch x

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bizzywiththefizzy · 11/08/2023 21:21

Aww it's so nice to hear all your good news op , keep it up!

PITH12 · 11/08/2023 21:14

Hi everyone, this is the original poster! I locked myself out of my account and couldn't get back in for love nor money! So have set up this new one as I want to keep updating this thread 😊 thank you for checking in on me and the kids! Moving to Scotland is still the best decision I ever made 🥰 the three of us are thriving! We've had a lovely summer holiday break, although definitely ready for them to go back now 🙈 roll on Wednesday 🤣 my daughter has spent a lot of time playing out and it is so funny to hear her using Scottish words/phrases all the time. She says "just now" instead of right now, and yesterday she told me her room was a midden 🤣 we've done so much these past few weeks including more trips to Glasgow to watch the buskers, endless trips to Loch Lomond (I walk there from my house 🥰), Kelvingrove Museum again, the transport museum (really recommend this place and they had lots of crafty stuff for the kids too) all free of charge .. West Dunbartonshire Council have also been running free summer fun days for the kids which included fayre rides, face painting, pony rides so we went to that. It's really great. My home is coming along nicely now and I've been getting some accessories for the kids room now we have the main furniture. I'll attach some pics. I've also been adding some bits to my balcony and plan on getting a little chair so I can sit out there (when it stops raining 🤣). I've not been back to England and have no plans to .. We are all so much happier now and strangely I feel anxious at the thought of going back as I suppose it is a reminder of bad times. My daughter doesn't want to either. I asked her if Scotland feels like home now and she said yes, and it always will be ❤️

Hensister · 09/08/2023 13:01

This is amazing! Congratulations that you got a house? How can I find out about the waiting list? I’m basically in the same situation and there’s nothing suitable! 😢

JavaQ · 07/08/2023 12:21

Scotland is absolutely beautiful. Join the youth hostel association and stay in different places.The Scots are friendly.

bizzywiththefizzy · 04/08/2023 17:53

Yes , hope you and the kids enjoyed the holidays . Just over a week 'til the kids go back to school now and you will be busy getting them ready to return for the new school year .

Yolo12345 · 04/08/2023 16:35

Thinking about you, OP. How have the summer holidays been treating you? 🫣

Igmum · 19/06/2023 18:02

Such lovely updates. So happy for you all OP ❤️

ArabeIIaScott · 19/06/2023 17:30

Welcome to Scotland! 🙂

NisekoWhistler · 19/06/2023 10:05

Such a sweet update, delighted to hear everyone is thriving. Getting you licence will be a game changer, you'll be so excited to have complete freedom to go wherever you wish.

Yolo12345 · 18/06/2023 09:27

Omg those before and after pics are unbelievable - what a transformation!!!

So glad it's been going well for you. I was watching a TikTok about someone that had moved to Scotland and in the comments some guy commented that he'd helped his flat mate move up here one weekend and it's been 13 years so far and counting!!! Just loved it so much he stayed 😄

If you are staying at home over the summer, I've no doubt that you will have tons to explore etc. But if you fancy a day trip through to Edinburgh on the train then I would recommend getting off at Waverley, walking up Cockburn Street, then up the royal mile to the castle. From their take in the view and then take a right down the steps to the Grassmarket. After a dander down there, go back up to the mile and walk down all the way to the bottom of it to the royal palace and the Scottish Parliament. Have a splash in the ponds or chill at the foot of Arthur's Seat. There's a cafe in the Scottish Parliament and free tours. You don't need to spend much, take a picnic and there's usually loads of street performers to watch and take in. It can be busy but it's a great vibe in summer during the festival etc.

Mintyt · 18/06/2023 05:55

Love the blue flooring and stair carpet. You are making a lovely home. I love this thread full of positive vibes and love.

caringcarer · 18/06/2023 01:30

I hope you enjoy Scotland OP. You have made a very sensible decision. You will soon make friends.