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Today my teenager was upset because.....

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Positivelypatient · 18/10/2021 00:03

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

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takingmytimeonmyride · 18/10/2021 11:27

My 17 yo twins were moaning about the restrictions I've put on the internet. It goes off at 11.30pm and comes back on at 8am. It's just soooooo unfair.

Tbh, I do it as much for myself as well as them. None of us need to be staring at a screen all night after staring at a screen all day.

I told them I'd turn the restrictions off when the youngest is 18 (he's 14) and goodness, the row! I bloody hope they've left home by then, they're off to uni (hopefully) next year, so I pointed out they won't even bloody live here. They said they'd choose a uni close to home.

I might move far away. Grin

JudgeJ · 18/10/2021 11:26

@Lanique

My list is endless:

We had the temerity to suggest earlier that we all go to Antigua next Summer after their exams, but it might clash with 'other things' such as parties and drinking in fields with their mates

We 'threatened' to take them back to New Zealand for another Christmas next year, which was totally unacceptable as they like Christmas at home and could mean them missing out on Christmas parties. Bless them the poor lambs are still traumatised by the experience of being made to spend Christmas Day on a beach in Abel Tasman National Park a few years ago.

We took them to Dubai three years ago and dd2 still hasn't got over us 'making her' miss Halloween.

Other than that they're perfectly lovely girls that are, believe it or not, not spoiled at all other than in cases such as the above where the possibility of 'missing out' is too much to bear 🙄

I recall standing in the queue at check-in for our flight to the US and our teens moaning that they'd rather go to Butlins! We cured them of it though, we took them for a weekend, never mentioned it again! I now sit back and watch them with their teens, karma springs to mind, something for you all to look forward to. My mother once baby-sat at my brothers while he and his wife went to Parents' Evening at their daughter's school. When they came back, faces like thunder, Mum had to hide in the kitchen as they gave the daughter a telling-off! Brother had the good grace to look shame faced.
MissAmbrosia · 18/10/2021 11:26

I went away for the weekend recently and on my return, 17 dd announced that she had had to live on toast all weekend as there was NO FOOD! Despite fridge/freezer/cupboards being rammed. She's fussy so normally cooks for herself, but apparently she was too busy to pop to the shop/ask DH to order a takeaway etc etc. She gave me such a sad "poor me" look that I felt momentarily guilty for abandoning my baby in her hour of need. The rest of the time she tells me how she can't wait to leave home as I fuss too much.

AnyOldPrion · 18/10/2021 11:25

@WhoWants2Know

My eldest was angry this morning at the entire subject of geography because she can't be arsed about rocks.
Mine is the same about maths. Never going to use it in life and therefore it’s utterly pointless even trying.
Triffid1 · 18/10/2021 11:20

@TheLadySif

My 17 year old granddaughter has an ongoing rant because her mother gave birth to her in the summer, making her younger than most of her friends who are now old enough to go clubbing and have passed their driving tests.
My 50+ brother is still bitter about how his birthday negatively impacted his ENTIRE LIFE. Grin
crazycrofter · 18/10/2021 11:19

We were on holiday in the Lake District and thought it would be fun(/hair raising!) to drive up Hardknott Pass. Dd (14 then) came reluctantly and decided it would be a good time to read a book (she hardly ever reads?!).

She didn't once look out of the window, but every so often, as we reached a particularly steep part of the road she'd moan that it was making her feel sick and she couldn't concentrate on her book! We made her get out at the top to enjoy the view, but she wasn't impressed - 'Snowdonia is much better' - and told me how unreasonable we were not to be taking her to Brighton, where her best friend was on holiday!

KittyMcKitty · 18/10/2021 11:17

Last year my then 15 year old was very cross (shouting / tears) because I didn’t ask her about her day the second she got home - apparently nobody in the family was interested in her life. The previous day there had been shouting / tears because I said hello and asked her how her day was when she got home - the pressure we put her under was too much and didn’t i under she just needed time to be by herself.

nokimandaggie · 18/10/2021 11:12

@TerrifiedandWorried

I opened the window in in my sons' bedroom. "What have you DONE??? It smells weird!". That would be fresh air.
Spat out my tea Grin
ineedsun · 18/10/2021 11:12

[quote FatAnkles]@MrsRobbieHart Tbf, we haven't spent a lot of time with them because 1. Lockdowns 2. Dad was unwell and super anxious he'd catch The Germ off us before his operation (fairy nuff) and 3. Me breaking an ankle so DD is a bit detached from my side of the family. She has teenage cousins so she can hang out with them.[/quote]
I’d have been your daughter at 15, used to HATE being sent off to spend time with cousins who I had nothing in common with. However, in retrospect the time with grandparents was so important (still could have done without the cousins though).

thebestnamesweregone · 18/10/2021 11:11

@TheWrongReasonMaybe

I offered my 17 year old cousin £15 to walk my 7yo to school a few times when I had covid a few weeks ago - literally would need to walk to my house, get my DD and walk to her school before carrying on to the bus stop to college (i was passed the 10 days but still felt rotten so wasn't going anywhere)

Apparently he couldn't commit and I'd have to call him every morning. He was also offended when my mum (who isn't related to him at all) came and did the school run for free for me!

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
sweetgingercat · 18/10/2021 11:09

Unfortunately Halloween trumps Christmas in this house...

Beamur · 18/10/2021 11:07

@chafingstraightjacket

One night last week Ds and his new college friend missed their bus. I was summoned to pick them up and had the sheer audacity to speak to them in the car.Wink

Ds arrived home the next day and threw an envelope at me. It was a thank you card from his new friend who apparently embarrassed Ds in class by telling him how lovely his mum is.

I may have used the line "Well X thinks I'm wonderful" several times when Ds had a complaint over the last few days.

That's priceless
godmum56 · 18/10/2021 11:05

@Positivelypatient

On the back of the amusing threads about the irrationality of toddlers and their meltdowns, I have this for you.

Today my 17 DD is upset because I suggested booking an expensive (for me as a single parent) spa day for her and her sisters and me that we would go to on her 18th birthday. I hasten to add this is NOT in place of presents, cake and special attention for the birthday girl. Apparently I have made her feel worthless for suggesting she share her special day with her family. Confused

actually (and I know people will yell) if she would like presents and cake and birthday girl attention on her special birthday then i think that's fair enough...it is her birthday after all whether or not she was BU is how the convo went.
chafingstraightjacket · 18/10/2021 11:01

One night last week Ds and his new college friend missed their bus. I was summoned to pick them up and had the sheer audacity to speak to them in the car.Wink

Ds arrived home the next day and threw an envelope at me. It was a thank you card from his new friend who apparently embarrassed Ds in class by telling him how lovely his mum is.

I may have used the line "Well X thinks I'm wonderful" several times when Ds had a complaint over the last few days.

KateF · 18/10/2021 11:00

17yo dd3 is outraged that I spoke to her teachers. The fact that they phoned me because she has been skiving is apparently irrelevant, as is my telling her that her allowance is now directly related to her attendance!
Fortunately she is my last teenager and I know it will pass as her sisters are now human again!

HailAdrian · 18/10/2021 10:59

@WhoWants2Know

My eldest was angry this morning at the entire subject of geography because she can't be arsed about rocks.
That's fair!
Beamur · 18/10/2021 10:58

Fluffycloud wrong thread maybe? Grin
I on the other hand am a perfect Mother as I will not go away on holidays in this half term so DD can be home for Halloween.

MrsRobbieHart · 18/10/2021 10:58

@Fluffycloudland77

Isn’t a FTM lesbian just a heterosexual male when it’s all rinsed out 🤨
How could a female ever be a male anything? Confused
WhoWants2Know · 18/10/2021 10:56

My eldest was angry this morning at the entire subject of geography because she can't be arsed about rocks.

HailAdrian · 18/10/2021 10:55

My 15yo is very sweet but sulks when she's told to do basically anything she doesn't want to, like tidy her room, do homework, etc.

BadPlaceJanet · 18/10/2021 10:53

To be fair to some of these teens, I would hate to spend Christmas away from home, and especially on a beach or somewhere hot, so I would also be "ungrateful" to be made to do that Grin

Fluffycloudland77 · 18/10/2021 10:53

Isn’t a FTM lesbian just a heterosexual male when it’s all rinsed out 🤨

hellswelshy · 18/10/2021 10:39

Oh this thread is like a balm to my teen ridden brow Grin And yes another one here devastated that we are taking them away to a luxury lodge with a hot tub and they are missing out on Halloween stuff...

EvilRingahBitch · 18/10/2021 10:35

@MobyDicksTinyCanoe

I can remember dd booting off one year because her brother hadnt asked for anything for Christmas. Apparently I favoured him because he was so perfect he didn't even ask for a Christmas present (( dds list running into the thousands had been firmly turned down)).. ... It's not often im speechless ConfusedGrin
That reminds me of a workmate in her twenties who engaged and was HUGELY offended because a friend of hers had sent out wedding invites requesting donations to charity instead of gifts. I couldn't quite work out what was so offensive but I think it boiled down to "this is terrible behaviour because it makes me look bad by comparison". Because she was a workmate I just smiled and nodded.
Heartsandroses · 18/10/2021 10:35

My sd (18)
I ruined her life one day when we where stood in superdrug and she suddenly decided she really needed to go home but had forgotten her keys
I reached into my bag to get mine out for her and she threw the biggest tantrum ever
I'm 'embarrassing' apparently

My own dd (14) once asked 'if I'm giving a lad a blow job and I blow,can I get pregnant?'
I was the most evil mother alive for not only laughing but explaining that you don't Blow!
I ruined her life over that one

My ss (15)
I said the word vagina
He wasn't even with me (he was at school) but my mates son told him
I shouldn't have said that nor even known the word at all

Same ss my mother had bought him some underpants with the words 'come on ladies,these are my nuts' with a picture of a squirrel pointing to the gential area
(She loved to undermine me)
I gave them back to her and had a row about how unsuitable they where for a 12 year old
Yep,life ruined

Another ss (13)
I was nice to one of his mates-we where having a chat while ss was getting changed
Do I know I must never speak to their mates and must never ever be nice to Them?

Thankfully I deal with a lot of teens at work and they all swear I'm the nicest person ever
It seems its just mine with the problem with me!