Today my teenager was upset because.....

We are going away for half term and the first thing dd (15) checked was if we would be back for Halloween!

In fact we are, but she won't be going out for Halloween as she lied to us about where she was last time she went out and we told her she would not be going out with those friends again for a few weeks.
Am dreading that conversation - think she has forgotten...

We have been 'allowed' to miss UK Halloween twice before - as we were in Florida

Reading this thread I'm remembering the time I complained loudly to my Mum about the (homemade) meals she prepared "the trouble with the food in this house is that it is too hot! I also complained that there were too many doors in the house as I was flouncing out of one of them. My Mum to her credit said nothing on either occasion.

We laughed about it years later. I loved my Mum very much, liked her company and we were very close. So there is hope 😄

It was on there because it was my most listened to songs of 2020 list and she'd played it ENDLESSLY on my alexa in the kitchen despite me begging her to stop. There appears to be no way to remove it.

So so many parallels here. I've just been told by DS "I've got to go away when you're on a work meeting so I'm telling you I'm not talking to you right now" with a finger pointing at the door to dismiss me. He's on TikTok recovering from Covid and I think, ready to get up and do some school work. It's so unfair apparently. I'm cutting him slack because of the Covid but would like to talk to him about how he is to make a judgement and even before Covid he orders me out of his room a lot even if I've been admitted by him. The second he deems the conversation over, he orders me out.

when dd was around 17 we all went on holiday (I have since met dp but was still a single parent at this point)

it was a v luxurious holiday for me, I saved ages to be able to afford it. Dd and ds came with me. And me and ds made the most of it, went out every day. It was a beach holiday but with yoga and all sorts added in (which I knew dd loved).

dd sulked all the time. In her eyes, the wifi was shit, the food was shit, she couldn't talk to her boyfriend because of the time difference. She actually burst into tears twice during the week over something completely minor and refused to come out with us and just stayed in the hotel bed all day.

I was so relieved to go home and vowed never to take her on holiday with me again!

this week, she's staying with me, she's now 21 and was telling her partner about family holidays. She said when I was 17 we went to this amazing place, I had such a good time and really enjoyed it - the yoga was brilliant and it was so relaxing. Wasn't it brilliant mum, we had such a great time?

I nearly choked on my dinner!

My 8 y o DD is already gearing up to teenagerhood - I booked a lovely week away in the countryside for half term and all I got was sobbing and “I might miss Halloween!” What tf is so special about Halloween these days…?

Another one who hates fresh air and lives in a pit of mess

Snort of wry recognition here!

Mine is in a mood because she hasn’t bothered to sort out a placement for college and now doesn’t have one. I have asked her every day to do it and sent her links but apparently that wasn’t helpful

DH text me this morning to say that when dropped DD off at a holiday activity thing he offered her a hug.

The words 'face of doom' were used.

@2389Champ - I once timed DS ranting and wailing about his maths homework, timed him actually doing the homework, and then presented him with a pie chart. It did actually get through to him!

My DS, who is 14, had a strop at the weekend because I wouldn't buy him a £500 ancient wreck of a car that doesn't go, which he'd found on eBay on the opposite side of the country. It's rare, apparently, and he could keep it on our drive and do it up so that it would be ready when he passed his test. Apparently not wanting a rusting hulk leaking oil all over our drive for three years while he does nothing to it because it's hard/it's cold/it's raining/someone from school might go past and see him - oh, and because he has zero experience with car mechanics/repairs - is totally unreasonable

My son had brain surgery a week ago. He usually has the box room, and my daughter has the bigger room. I asked her to swap rooms with her brother for a week or so, in case my son needs any medical care soon after surgery.

It was no problem at all, until she got in his bed that night. She jumped out with an almighty huff, and told me she couldn’t POSSIBLY sleep in his bed, as it hasn’t got her posh mattress on.

Both the beds have the same mattresses. 🤷‍♀️

Oh and me just talking to her annoys her ..................

My 17 year old thinks our house decoration style is horrible and we never have any food................................

Mine is raging because apparently I breathe too loudly?

And because I refused to let her walk to school in the rain and the dark (its Scotland) and without a coat.

I hope you have a lovely day without her.

[quote Positivelypatient]@godmum56 - oh she would've got all that as well as a lovely spa day out with afternoon tea, champagne, a £100+ spa treatment etc etc etc. but you know, who am I to foist such torture on her[/quote]
Would you/could you be mean brave enough to go with your other DDs and leave her to do her own thing on her birthday?

Yes, at school rocks definitely happen in geography.

I made DS16 take his coat off yesterday.

Absolutely loving this thread. All so familiar!

My DS used to argue for nearly an hour about doing a timed maths exercise that literally took 2 minutes to complete!

If it’s any comfort (and maybe a tip!) my adult DS and DD both admitted that as teenagers they found it much harder and felt worse having to deal with sad, disappointed mum than raging, shouting mum. I just wish I’d known that at the time - I would have exploited it far more!

@sueelleker

I did geography in secondary school and guess what...part of the module was learning about rocks!

Not quite sure what point your trying to make?!

@EveningOverRooftops 😂😂your teens are leading parallel lives with mine!