Today my teenager was upset because.....

Omg I've found my tribe!

They are such selfish ungrateful little fuckers!

Dd had said on turning 16 she wanted to have a bit of alcohol so I suggested to dh he buy a little bit for her to have on her birthday at home. He suggested prosecco to have with the cake. On telling her this she replied it is just you that wants alcohol. as I do not normally drink at all.

Then we have had we have never been a family that celebrates birthdays or Christmas and she has never had cake for her birthday. She has had cake every year, often I have bought expensive cakes from the bakers and Christmas has been celebrated every year including one trip to Lapland at Christmas.

Went to visit 19 year old DD at uni, her request, shes been there a month. Its was a 4 hour journey there and 4 back, stayed in a hotel. She was happy the first day, the next day, she was grumpy, stroppy and rude all day. I felt unwell in the evening so she stropped even more and told me I didn't need to visit again. I thought she would have grown out of this by now. Sorry not very light hearted!

Some of these are brilliant 😂 takes me back to my DD being a teenager. I'm so glad she's a functional adult now!

Sorry - should have got to the end and read your update above. Why on earth would you wait for him to do it again?!

24 hours without wifi is a start, but I'd rethink how much your compassion and understanding is getting in the way of setting appropriate boundaries. They need to push back against something, of course they do - and boys will definitely come at their mothers, the old detach to reattach thing - but there has to be a real line in the sand when it comes to shit like this.

I'm sorry, it sounds tough for you.

I'd be horrified if my teens ever called me a bitch, they have never said anything like this!

My mum still likes to remind me of my 18th birthday. She wanted me to have a house party and invite all the extended family and some of her friends. I wanted to go out with my friends. I hate being the centre of attention and really really didn’t want a party What eventually happened was that the party happened mid afternoon to early evening and then I would go out with my friends.

I’d asked her if she would shorten my new cream jeans for me (once a shortie, always a shortie) - this was the early 90s, forgive me - and she said she would.

We had the party. It wasn’t what I wanted, but hey, no big deal. I went to put my jeans and they weren’t shortened so I had to wear something else. I was quietly gutted. Didn’t make a fuss. My grandma asked me if I was upset and I told her what was wrong. She then, loudly and in front of everyone, said how ungrateful I was. All the guests heard and it was awful. I wouldn’t have wanted them to feel unwelcome or to be ungrateful. Obviously could r say in front of them that the party wasn’t my idea. They’d brought presents and we’re having a nice time. It was really nice, but it was my mum who was the centre of it and not me.

Just awful.

It's not funny and it's not 'horrid', it's abusive and disrespectful. My (now lovely) son was an absolute PITA from 16 to 18, and we often had terrible disagreements, but if he'd ever spoken to me like that he'd have had his arse handed to him.

If he thinks it's fine to speak to his mother like that at 16, what kind of man is he going to be to any future women in his life? I hope he was grounded for long enough to have a good think about it.

To.those of our that reminded me to stand up.to.my son when he called me a bitch thankyou I do.have a history of being a people pleasing doormat I have dealt with it, thankyou . If it happens againI will turn off Internet access on his phone for 24 hours. Having boundaries whilst being compassionate and understanding for the transition they are going through is so hard.
Although i am heartbroken the amusing posts are really helping me at the moment .

School bag she bought broke.
Found a replacement on line, but it's out of stock.
Apparently NON of the shops we've looked at back home, or here on holiday, have ANYTHING remotely acceptable.

At this rate she'll be going back to school with a plastic bag.

@hellswelshy

Gosh this is meant to be a light hearted thread, I think some people who have posted need to get a sense of humour....you really need one with teenagers

Absolutely! Back then, DH and I would regularly meet up with my DB and DSIL to exchange 'war stories' about our respective teenagers. We always ended up laughing so hard over what had been said.

[quote Cameleongirl]@Fluffycloudland77. Didn't you know that teenagers physically CAN'T eat casserole, even if it contains everything they like?! My two suddenly decided they couldn't eat any casseroles, after having them for years![/quote]
My teen keeps Mc Donalds in business....

I am pregnant with my first and I should NOT be reading this 😬 (though it is amusing!)

DD went into full teenage mode at 11 and didn't come out of it until 19. I remember her being outraged that DH and I were happily married. Apparently, we were the 'only parents' in the school to still be together and it was embarrassing her! I think what was really bothering her was that a couple of her friends were getting double the gifts at birthdays, Christmas, etc and she didn't.

Once, before DD flounced out of the room, she said to me "when you get old, I'm putting you in a home!" I still remind her of that...now that I am old!

I haven't read all the thread yet but if you have Insta or FB I'd recommend following
teenagerprotips
for more of the same. People submit photos of food left in random places and (white, must be white) trainers in doorways.

I have also used the screens to order a McDonalds in Paris/Barcelona/anywhere, just set the screen to your language and you're away!

My 16 year old is upset because I keep infantilising him by asking him to please give me the manky load of costumes he has worn to several rehearsals now so that I can wash and dry them (without a tumble dryer as we don't have one) in time for the dress run on Friday. Apparently I am neurotic, anxious and over-invested and HE will sort out his costumes. There is a suitcase full of them, I have limited space to dry clothes on airers and radiators and I would like to help him be ready by cracking on, but this apparently totally annoying and unnecessary of me and I need to butt out. So now I shall! And he can wear sweaty, balled up, unwashed costumes on Friday and get told off! Because no way if he going to even think about those costumes before about 5pm on Friday evening...

He was then upset when it arrived as 'it may not be as good as the 1st one'. It was identical. I pointed that out. Then he said: 'yes, but with the 1st one I'd not had it long enough to find out what was wrong with it, now I will, and I'll just be disappointed'.

Sigh...

I took DS 17 to a university open day. Knowing my status as an embarrassing parent, I said I'll wait over here while you ask your questions. Much sighing, could I not see that nobody else's parents are hanging around, they're all in the queue too?

@Fluffycloudland77. Didn't you know that teenagers physically CAN'T eat casserole, even if it contains everything they like?! My two suddenly decided they couldn't eat any casseroles, after having them for years!

I’ve learnt so much from this thread. Only old people eat cheese, NO ONE eats casserole and that somewhere a lad has acquired a lifelong nickname of Pumpkin.

DS absolutely can't stand surprises, although he's always been abit like that...it's just worse now.

DD (16) is more flexible, she wouldn't mind a family spa day, although she prefer if I just paid for her and friends to go.

For a daughter of 17 I wouldn't do 'surprises'. Teenagers, like many adults in fact, don't often like things being arranged for them without being asked if that's something they want. They are at an age where they need to be able to control things a bit more than a little kid expects to.

Also day at a spa in a family group isn't a present for her, it's one for all of you including you, regardless of whose birthday it is. That's really not a present for her at all, even if she likes you all a lot.

Teenagers also often feel embarrassed to be out with family as if they were a little kid, it's not that they hate you, or are ashamed of you, they just want to make their own lives without feeling people are judging them by their parents. That's healthy and normal.

She may be into spas, but still not with a herd of family. At her age you'd have had to pay me to go to one. In fact, you still would.

😆😆 @ineedsun