Today my teenager was upset because.....

Have had similar with the bathroom bin being filled with sanitary towels (wrapped up but overflowing)
So I said to both dd's 'right, come on, put your hand in the bin and pull them out, don't forget the ones on the floor'
They both looked disgusted. 'Well I have to do it so why can't you?'
'Because it's disgusting'
'Yes, it is, isn't it...........'
It's been much better since!
And I've got ds cleaning the toilet after himself now...he's 7!

My 15 year old daughter has a bowel issue. Recently she's taken to leaving the toilet bowl full of shit and just walking away from it, as if the housekeeping staff will immediately and discretely sort it for her. Well, there is only me, and I think that is disgusting. Today, I called her back immediately and told her to flush the toilet and give it a good clean with the toilet brush. She was utterly incredulous at the suggestion. Why should she have to clean up after herself at 15 years old? Why can't I scrub her poo off the toilet and just not bring it up, ever? God, don't I understand that's my job?? She can't wait til she's 16 and can move out! She practically growled at me when I told her she'd better learn fast how to clean a loo then because she's 16 in 8 months!

Teenagers are the worst. Mine ( dd14) is absolutely FUMING with me as she said a few weeks ago that she was really interested in becoming a marine biologist in the future. She was all into watching documentaries and we are a huge animal loving family with extensive exotic animal experience. I actually know several marine biologists. Being the absolute monster that I am I arranged for her to do a (perfectly safe) shark dive and now in enemy #1 and the most selfish and least understanding mother in the entire world. Just because she SAID she wanted to be a marine biologist didn't mean she wanted to to actually DO marine biology-ing, not even for recreational fun. Im cruel and mean.

So now I keep calling her Sharky and playing the Jaws danger music and I think it's hilarious 😂🤷🏼‍♀️

Well I don't really know why he's upset this week 🙄

I've been sick with the flu and over the weekend he mumbled something at me, I was half asleep and answered him with a little bit of a tone in my voice and now he's full on cracked the shits big time. Sulking, mumbly, outright rude, acts as if we had a big screaming match (we most definitely didn't). It's been 4 days 😒

choli · 19/10/2021 03:04

Genuine question. Did you all get away with that sort of crap as teenagers?

God, no! I got absolutely leathered for any sort of back chat and I admit, I was an argumentative sod.

I did do loads of work round the house. I had to clean out and lay the fire and the wood stove (no gas in the village). Chop the kindling, bring in wood and coal for the fire and stove. Drag any stray pallet / log spotted within a mile of home. Saw and split logs, then stack them for seasoning (I mostly liked that).

Help keep the house clean. 2 older sisters did the washing and drying up together one night, I did it alone the next. Apparently, that was fair division of labour. They did hoovering and dusting, when needed. Tidied room when told to, on pain of pain.

At 11 years old, we had the back garden done. In a ten days, I wheelbarrowed 5 tons of compost, 3 tons of sand and 9 tons of topsoil from the front of the house and spread it at the back. Pretty well ten hours a day. For that (1981) I was paid the princely sum of £5 to take on holiday, a camping week with school.

My sisters got the foreign trips, one had ten days in Spain, the other a bit longer in France. They got £50 each and the trips were £250 / £300. We had to pay for our own dinners, so after 2 days, no lunch for me. I got an almighty bollocking for not send a postcard, or bringing presents home, with, "You were given more than enough money!"

I was always in trouble at school, for some stupid trick or other, getting in fights and the like, but I never dared cheek my parents. I used to complain that this or that wasn't fair, but I got shouted at and sent to my room.

DD1 (aged 14/15) was convinced her younger sister (aged 6/7) was constantly being treated as the favourite.

One day I bought DD2 some new shorts as she had grown out of her old ones. DD1 didn't like to wear shorts, so I got her a T-shirt so she didn't feel left out.

DD1 was furious - this apparently was treating DD2 as the favourite.

Me: I thought you don't like wearing shorts?

DD1: I don't

Me: So, you want me to get you something you don't like and won't wear, just so you get exactly the same as DD2?

DD1: Yes

She's turned into quite a normal person now, but those years tested my sanity

Because I let her have friends over yesterday and two stayed the night. I dared to talk to her while she is tired.

Because I wouldn't let her use my phone charger as I was using it myself. Evidently her need is greater as I don't need to use social media to contact my friends urgently, but she does (to show off her new nail varnish)

Because she doesn’t like the song on the radio.....

Because l made her a doctors appointment.

My 18 year old was outraged on Friday, because a friend liked a post I'd made on SM. Apparently, as his mother, it's "ridiculous" that I have friends who not only liked the cute photo of my dog, but also have stuck around for over 30 years. Seemingly, in DS' view, no one should like his mother as an individual in my own right.

Yesterday, he was disgusted that I'd dared to enquire how his job interview went. Displaying maternal interest in his life, when there's no one else around to observe it, is not acceptable, either. How dare I ask if he thought it went well?! It's "none of [my] business" apparently - even though he'll expect me to co-ordinate his lifts to/from (hopeful) place of employment, just as I organise how he gets to/from college. And he lives under my roof. And I'm his parent. How dare I...?!

Today, he will be furious because his day long napping will be disrupted by the fact that the council are finally cutting the tree which overhangs our garden fence and, more importantly, blocks the natural light into his bedroom, back. Even though he's the first to complain about how he has to have a light on at midday in the summer, because of this tree...

Normally, he's not brattish in the slightest. This week, however, seems to have been the tipping point and I'm reminded of the hell that occurred when his older sister turned 13. Less slamming doors and stamping upstairs, admittedly, but he finds other ways to show his displeasure that I happen to have pushed him out of my body and into the world...

DS15 cried yesterday when I told him I’d taken a week off at half term. It’s going to ruin his holiday, apparently. He prefers his own company for 12 hours a day while I’m at work.

I told him that he had to switch off the Xbox and revise. This was extremely unfair of me apparently and he expressed his displeasure through the medium of slammed doors.

It'll be the full stops - apparently they are very aggressive!!

DD15 having a go at me for "hunger shaming" her when I suggested several snack foods after she went browsing through the cupboards less than an hour after her large meal.

DS13 staring blankly at me when I mentioned that I would like to be asked more than ten minutes in advance if he wants me to drive him 20 miles away to meet his mates and girlfriend. I said "Luckily, I can do it right now but just remember for next time, ok?" He replied "Don't worry, I'll just tell them I can't make it." I asked him if he didn't actually want to go, because of him very suddenly saying he wasn't going and the leaving it until last minute thing, only to have him storm off, muttering darkly, "Yeah, I'd prefer to stay here and NOT have any fun, that sounds brilliant....."
Ten minutes later he was at the front door asking me if I wanted him to wait in the car or was I coming now.

What a bunch of brats! A few of the posts are funny, but most are about truly horrible teenagers! And no, I'm not out of touch with reality - I teach teens in secondary school.
I feel really lucky with our two - yes, some laziness & messiness around the house, but nothing like the stories on here. Both boys are polite, affectionate, not grabby or greedy. They are 20 and 18 now, so I doubt they'll suddenly change.
Thanking whatever gods may be for the way that the two of them are.

Recent two week gorgeous holiday to Gran Canaria. 18yo DD repeatedly shouted at me for asking if she was coming for breakfast or dinner. I stopped asking and we went without her. Other times she wanted to go for breakfast or dinner and we weren’t quite ready, she stormed off and went on her own. Last family holiday with her unless she pays for herself.

She had the cheek to recently say “aren’t you going to take me away during Uni holidays?” Errrr no! 😱😂

Oh and one more. When I told said son who I had so neglectfully not abandoned (?) that I was having another baby he fell to the floor in anguish at how bad his life was and shouted brokenly at me asking me why I hadn’t had a vasectomy.

just what you want to hear from a son who was doing GCSE biology.

My DS19 phoned me to take me to task about my parenting. As a teen I neglected to beat him when he was bad and tried to talk to him. Any other proper parent would have hit him.
This has led to the ruination of his life as he looks back and acknowledges that he may have been bad as a teenager.

But the point was, him being bad was my fault. Also he can’t really respect me because I voluntary had him and raised him and a sane person would have abandoned him in a bin.

Kids are weird but it’s more weird they don’t want free pizza because of their age 😁 Is it a girl thing? My sons friends would never turn down free pizza. My son told me off for texting ‘ok’ as it’s deemed rude but ‘okay’ is fine 😖

My young Gen Z cousin told me that my correctly spelt and perfectly punctuated text message to them, with details of their expensive birthday present from me, was ‘pass agg AF’ because of said correct spelling and perfect punctuation.

I abandoned the inadvertent passiveness and told them they were a twat and explained exactly why, with correct spellings and perfect punctuation.

This threads reminded me of an epic wobbler dd once had because ds didn't know what he wanted for Christmas......this followed dd complaining her brother didn't get told no all the time (( yes dd, you constantly got told no because you asked for things 50 times a day ))

Apparently I favoured ds because he was so perfect he didn't even ask for a Christmas present. (( I actually think she was having a moment of reflection, maybe even guilt. Ds is not and was not perfect. He was just happy with what he got and liked surprises.

DD is now 24, and I swear she could be given the moon on a stick and she'd send it back to be dipped in glitter.

Apologise at once for such a horrible car.

Then sell it quick :-)

I posted on this thread a year ago.

My teen Dd is now lovely. Can’t believe she was ever difficult! But she was. Oh yes!

😂😂😂too funny!

Sorry meant @workworkworkugh

Just wondering how you were doing, workworkworkugh? How is your son?