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Beautiful signs of aging

220 replies

KoreyBay18 · 17/10/2021 22:37

Crows feet!

I love them. I think they make any face instantly more beautiful.

What are your favourite most beautiful signs of aging?

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highstreetdiestreet · 22/10/2021 15:49

@UsedUpUsername

You keep banging this drum as if it isn't a part of life

Well yeah, it’s a part of life. Just like death. Don’t necessarily feel like celebrating them, but you do you

Gosh you sound so miserable
AnnieSnap · 22/10/2021 15:27

@UsedUpUsername

You keep banging this drum as if it isn't a part of life

Well yeah, it’s a part of life. Just like death. Don’t necessarily feel like celebrating them, but you do you

You sound as if you might be depressed.
AnnieSnap · 22/10/2021 15:26

[quote woodhill]@AnnieSnap

I don't do the calorie stuff just the exercise routine most days. It's good as it isn't lying on the floor. I feel toned up[/quote]
We need what works for each of us don’t we. I enjoy my gym (weights and swimming) and walking the dogs 🙂

AnnieSnap · 22/10/2021 15:24

@UsedUpUsername

don’t know about that. I am 62 and enjoying being 62. I don’t like the idea that I can’t have much more than a couple of decades of active life left, but I actually love my body (with its many ‘flaws’) and I didn’t when I was younger, thinner, with less confidence

I guess it just glosses over the loss of functionality. That’s what I find a little annoying about all this.

Signs of ageing are an indication that something has gone wrong. It’s very rarely a neutral change.

Signs of aging on the skin isn’t a sign that something has gone wrong! It’s like the differences in skin between babyhood, child and young adult. Signs of wear and tear on the joints etc are signs of just that. You could call it something going wrong, but focusing on it negatively will only make you feel bad about it. The alternative is to just accept it as it is and get on and enjoy life within any limitation you have. Remember, plenty of young people have limitations because “something has gone wrong” with their bodies. They can dwell on that, or enjoy life within their limitation.
BikeRunSki · 22/10/2021 14:29

“Moab them” = “main theme”

BikeRunSki · 22/10/2021 14:26

This is a bit of an aside from the Moab them of the thread. I’ve worn glasses since I was 12. Now I’m in my 50s a lot more of my peers do, and I love the way everyone has their own habits and mannerisms of taking their specs off to think/rub their eyes/ stare into the distance etc.

UsedUpUsername · 22/10/2021 14:11

You keep banging this drum as if it isn't a part of life

Well yeah, it’s a part of life. Just like death. Don’t necessarily feel like celebrating them, but you do you

highstreetdiestreet · 22/10/2021 14:05

@UsedUpUsername

don’t know about that. I am 62 and enjoying being 62. I don’t like the idea that I can’t have much more than a couple of decades of active life left, but I actually love my body (with its many ‘flaws’) and I didn’t when I was younger, thinner, with less confidence

I guess it just glosses over the loss of functionality. That’s what I find a little annoying about all this.

Signs of ageing are an indication that something has gone wrong. It’s very rarely a neutral change.

You keep banging this drum as if it isn't a part of life.

Better to accept it.

ExConstance · 22/10/2021 14:02

My father had lots of crows feet, as a child I thought they looked like rays of sunshine out from his eyes. I've always thought they look very fetching and cheerful. As for me, i like having clear, good skin. I was spotty in my youth and my skin was greasy later too. Now I have lovely plump moist skin, with a few wrinkles but I feel this is a great improvement.

woodhill · 22/10/2021 14:02

@AnnieSnap

I don't do the calorie stuff just the exercise routine most days. It's good as it isn't lying on the floor. I feel toned up

Floisme · 22/10/2021 13:51

Hmm. This thread is a welcome antidote to a lot of S&B opinion but I think it's presenting a largely idealised picture of ageing and I do see UsedUpUsername's point. As Bette Davis (and lots of people before her) said, 'Getting old ain't for sissies.' I've witnessed it and now I'm kind of in the foothills myself and I won't lie - it's tough sometimes.

I don't agree with UsedUp about signs of ageing being an indication of something going wrong. I think ageing is a life stage, nothing more and nothing less. I don't particularly care about being told my wobbly jawline is beautiful but I do get pissed off about 'old' being used as a synonym for 'unstylish'.

UsedUpUsername · 22/10/2021 13:42

don’t know about that. I am 62 and enjoying being 62. I don’t like the idea that I can’t have much more than a couple of decades of active life left, but I actually love my body (with its many ‘flaws’) and I didn’t when I was younger, thinner, with less confidence

I guess it just glosses over the loss of functionality. That’s what I find a little annoying about all this.

Signs of ageing are an indication that something has gone wrong. It’s very rarely a neutral change.

AnnieSnap · 22/10/2021 13:21

@UsedUpUsername

I find it strange that you can see no beauty in other people unless they are young. Its a shame given people spend the majority of their lives not being young

I don’t know, it seems it’s always the young that extol the virtues of ageing ‘gracefully’, probably as a cope. Nothing graceful about it.

I don’t know about that. I am 62 and enjoying being 62. I don’t like the idea that I can’t have much more than a couple of decades of active life left, but I actually love my body (with its many ‘flaws’) and I didn’t when I was younger, thinner, with less confidence.
Lobelia123 · 22/10/2021 12:29

Crinkley eyes when you smile....its just incredibly soulful and beautiful!

Billandben444 · 22/10/2021 12:28

I'm late 60s and am very comfortable with who I am and how I look - that came with age as I used to worry about what other people thought. I love it when older women have this inner confidence and stand tall with silver hair and wrinkles and the inner peace shines out.

5128gap · 22/10/2021 12:20

@UsedUpUsername

I find it strange that you can see no beauty in other people unless they are young. Its a shame given people spend the majority of their lives not being young

I don’t know, it seems it’s always the young that extol the virtues of ageing ‘gracefully’, probably as a cope. Nothing graceful about it.

A lot of people on the thread are not young and are talking about the things they like about themselves now they are older. I'm in my 50s, and genuinely prefer my looks now to my younger appearance. I was never anything more than average when young but now get told I'm beautiful quite often, so aging has definitely been good for me. I'm not sure about aging 'gracefully' mind, as I always associate that with a lot of made up rules about what older women should and shouldn't wear and do, and about being demure and understated, which isn't for everyone.
Chakraleaf · 22/10/2021 12:11

It is a privilege to get older.

UsedUpUsername · 22/10/2021 12:01

I find it strange that you can see no beauty in other people unless they are young. Its a shame given people spend the majority of their lives not being young

I don’t know, it seems it’s always the young that extol the virtues of ageing ‘gracefully’, probably as a cope. Nothing graceful about it.

5128gap · 22/10/2021 10:38

@UsedUpUsername

There’s nothing beautiful about ageing except still being alive
I find it strange that you can see no beauty in other people unless they are young. Its a shame given people spend the majority of their lives not being young.
AnnieSnap · 21/10/2021 22:50

@woodhill Paula B isn’t really for me based on a brief look. Too much emphasis on dieting and calorie counting. I don’t need it, but if I started it again, I’d become dysfunctional pretty quickly 😮

Ohchristmastreeohchristmastree · 21/10/2021 21:11

I bloody love hooded eyelids. I think they make someone look wise and badass at the same time.

TheVolturi · 21/10/2021 21:00

@UsedUpUsername

There’s nothing beautiful about ageing except still being alive
You really think that? Sad really. I think there is beauty in even the very elderly, twinkly eyes, wisdom, humour, elegance, the list goes on. Not only youth has beauty.
brittleheadgirl · 21/10/2021 20:37

@UsedUpUsername

There’s nothing beautiful about ageing except still being alive
Really? I look better now at 50 than I did at 20!!! My face looks so much prettier and I've never been so photogenic GrinGrin
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KoreyBay18 · 21/10/2021 20:30

@userxx not taking the piss at all Hmm my great grandmother died a year ago at the age of 100 and she had the most beautiful hands.

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userxx · 21/10/2021 20:27

@KoreyBay18

I also love hands as they age - thinning skin almost crepe paper like, more prominent veins. I think it looks really elegant.

Surely you're taking the piss ?