To feel "posh"

@waitingpatientlyforspring
I can see the point of that..it felt extravagant to us last night because we had burger and chips on the sea front then went straight to get a nice ice cream or milkshake, we haven't got much money but it was nice to say yea get what you want

When my DD was little I bought her a beautiful dark red wool duffle coat from Laura Ashley. Think it was around £60 at the time which was way over my budget and this was in about 1998 but I couldn't resist it. Proper Paddington Bear style. It was styled to reach mid calf. Ended up fitting her for several winters although got shorter and shorter! Passed down to her cousin after so didn't regret buying it. Laura Ashley was considered posh for me at the time!

@Meatshake

Sainsbury's uniform instead of George 🤣🤣

My husband bought me a real gold tennis bracelet and necklace for my birthday. I'm 31 and I've never had real jewellery before, I could get used to it

A very long time ago, (2001), I got DD a fairly cheap reconditioned second hand laptop. Apparently this made her posh, despite me being a single parent and she having started in the sixth form at the local and very snobbish girls’ grammar school, to which she hadn’t wanted to go but had to because of an A level subject clash.

When I buy cheese from the market instead of the supermarket with the little wax round it!

Also when I put crisps in a bowl instead of eating from the packet I feel quite fancy.

One of the things my husband insists on is if we are out for the day and stop for a drink in a pub the children get a drink (lemonade/coke etc) even if we have a bottle of squash. He hates in his childhood that his mum and dad would get a cold beer and he and his siblings would have warm squash.

We are pretty well off now (due to DH's hard work and good career) but when the D.C. were little we were skint and went without so much so I could be a SAHM. It was worth every penny and sacrifice and remembering the day I could afford that 40p for the ride is such a wonderful memory.

"I felt very posh the first time I shopped for myself and bought Hellman's mayonnaise. We had salad cream at home."

They are different things though aren't they?

I did feel posh the first time I ordered from boden (I love their jersey dresses!) Also getting those food boxes from HelloFresh and similar.

Love the bookshop then decamp to coffeeshop idea, it must be such a relaxing thing to look forward too. I too will be stealing this, OP!

I don't know why you've attracted some of the more bilious/snobby wannabes onto your thread but, that joyful first post has obviously cut them to the quick and, to paraphrase one of them, 'if you have to get pleasure from putting others down then you're a bit sad and should be focusing on working on that'.

Had to spend some time at Chatsworth during their Annual Country Fair. I don't judge but saw a happy couple pushing a pram around one of the craft marquees with the two adults and baby, all three of whom were wearing matching bright mustard tweed cloth clothing, three piece suits though the baby might have been slumming it in a two-piece. I looked down and the labrador had a coat/cape in matching cloth. It was very hot. They seemed very happy. They weren't the only family in matching new tweeds and stopped to talk to some of the other tweed uniformed.

for many people, Jordan is posh too, does it make them right?

Being posh has nothing to do with money. Tamara Ecclestone is not posh. A broke Prince Harry will forever be posh

Sure but would a broke Prince Harry, doing his own shopping at Waitrose and wandering into Boden to pick up some bits for Archie without having to look at the price tags feel posh? Almost certainly not. This thread is about things that might make you feel posh, like getting a treat that you wouldn't have been able to dream of as a child.

Tamara Ecclestone is not gentry.

To many people, Tamara Ecclestone is posh.

@thebabessavedme when I was little we lived in a house with a hatch from the kitchen to the living room (definitely not posh ). When we moved we didn't have a hatch (the pantry was in the way) so my mother insisted we decant the milk into a jug - bought specifically for the purpose - because we could no longer hide the bottle on the hatch if someone called round unexpectedly.

The new house was twice as old, twice as big, and twice as unattached, but it was the milk bottle / jug thing that made us feel we had gone up in the world!

(Should note that in later years my mother told this tale in the spirit of this thread. We were aspirational lower-middle, but retained a sense of humour...)

When S1 was about eight he was asked to suggest a celebration menu - I have no idea why, I just remember it being in the church hall so possibly the midweek Kidzone thing we went to for a while. He came up not only with croissants and smoked salmon but also quail (cue me explaining to an amused church member that it was grandad's 70th recently and Uncle is a keen cook)

Being posh has nothing to do with money. Tamara Ecclestone is not posh. A broke Prince Harry will forever be posh 🤷

My daughter's clothes are all m&s, Jojo bebe maman, Little Bird, Frugi, Mini Boden, Monsoon. That to me as a girl bought up on hand me downs ( boys hand me downs at that, from my cousins who were 18 years older than me) was such an extravagance.
However they have all been bought off Ebay with tags and work out no more expensive than buying from the supermarket.

On the subject of parents, my very working class dad thinks me go paying £7/8 for a glass of wine or a cocktail when out is very extravagant to be honest. He is probably right tbh but I don’t do it all the time! Some of the places we go to he would consider very posh ( they aren’t, just nice bars rather than an old fashioned pub)

It’s subjective to how you are raised and what you experience in life I guess. But the thread is supposed to be lighthearted. Hate how some on mumsnet have to try and bring the op/responders down.

All the ‘real’ posh people getting offended by us commoners/ working class. Thinking we actually feel posh when we can afford Waitrose/Boden or splash out on coffee shop treats. Shock horror some people can’t afford these things regularly or even ever….

“Feedingthebirds1

I felt very posh the first time I shopped for myself and bought Hellman's mayonnaise. We had salad cream at home.

And then at uni where I met DP (nearly 40 years and counting!) and the first time I invited him to a meal I'd cooked I bought a bottle of Mateus Rose. My parents weren't drinkers, so I knew nothing about wine but boy did I feel posh!“

Isn’t Matteus Rose just made for that special feeling, FeedingtheBirds! It may not exactly be fine wine, but it had its own spell.

Mine was the first day I stood at a bus stop on the way to work, freshly showered, wearing clothes that fitted me, comfortable shoes and when it started to snow, I zipped my jacket up fully, adjusted my scarf and knew that I'd have no problems paying for my ticket there and if the service was cancelled in the evening, I'd be able to afford a cab home to a warm house with heating, hot water and food in the fridge.

I'd never had that feeling before. Of being comfortable.

I felt very posh buying my children matching Boden coats! The illusion of poshness is a little ruined though because I bought them massive so that they would last for two years!

The poshest I ever felt was when I was going to a meeting with a hotel and they obviously really wanted the meeting to go well. They sent a driver in a posh black suit to the airport. He had a little sign with my name on it and when I walked up to him he took my bags and escorted me to the car. I don't know the makes of cars but it was gleaming black and silver. He opened the door of the car for me, then went round to load my bags into the back. I felt like a film star!

By the way I am in no way posh or even comfortable. I don't care if someone else thinks that this is actually very noveau riche or if they actually do it all the time and that I'm "sad" for feeling excited by it. It was a fantastic experience that makes me smile when I think of it.