The worst cases of oversharing you’ve seen on social media (lighthearted)

Family member who talks absolute bollocks once shared a fb pic of herself with oxygen mask on in hospital four hours after she'd apparently had a cardiac arrest and was dead for ten whole minutes. She'd actually overdosed on her morphine for the fake bad back she had

My worst has come from Part Time Working Mummy a while back- her daughter Edie had a sickness bug and she posted a photo of her vomit all over the bed and her iPad. I have emetophobia and was absolutely traumatised by that photo for quite some time

Isn’t Part Time Working Mummy a poster here?

It doesn’t seem right posting her name if she is.

A friend and her boyfriend had a massive row over FB while on holiday, all in the comments on a photo of them having a lovely time in the pool with the kids etc. It was proper cringe and really upsetting. They seem to be back together now but of course we all know how he talks to her when they're fighting, it's horrible.

A guy I know used to post the lovey dovey "in bed" shots with his then GF. They were obviously naked in most of them, like - thanks for that? And then the photos stopped suddenly and I found out she'd left him at the altar!

People who have share parent/teacher meetings feedback ..

Peacemaking. Love these threads!

I agree with you @Smellycat54. I think the image of a dead person (however old they are and however you want to describe it) is sacred and it is not for general broadcast on social media.

@SemiFeralDalek I apologise for the use of that word, I didn't mean for it to be disrespectful or insensitive, I should have put it in a better way.

I understand your point. But I just think it is a very shocking and upsetting thing for someone to see online when they are mindlessly scrolling and not expecting it. I found it very upsetting. And because it's someone I'm not particularly close to it felt almost like I shouldn't be seeing it.

I would hold the same view whether it was a baby, elderly relative, anyone no longer with us. But I suppose as you say, with a baby it's the only photo they may have and they'd want to share and acknowledge it.

Your post referenced specifically, a lost baby boy. You find it unpalatable to see, fair enough, but that is her son. And all she has of him.

Usually when someone dies, they have a lifetime's worth of photographs, smiling, happy, loving memories. With lost babies, you don't. That is all you have of them. A few days before they're gone forever, and in all the pictures, they're dead.

I still see him post the same photos on mutual friends pages claiming to be out on the piss - even during lockdown.

He's in his 50's and its pretty sad he feels the need to have such a fake party boy image

I'm not just talking about someone's baby, I'm talking about any photo of a dead person. How else am I meant to say it?

Is it the new normal to post pictures of people who have died on Facebook?! Would anyone really be comfortable seeing that?

[quote Smellycat54]@SemiFeralDalek I have plenty of compassion. I understand the reasons for doing it. But to me it's a highly sensitive, personal thing. I would perhaps want to share those photos with friends and family if they asked to see them. Not unsuspecting people on Facebook who I'm not close to or haven't seen in years.

People agreed earlier that sharing a picture of a dead relative in a coffin was wrong. So how is this different.

Each to their own but I don't think I lack in compassion when I say I don't expect to see corpses on my timeline [/quote]
You're showing yourself up here.

Ouch, that last line is horrible Smellycat, given you were talking about someone’s baby 😑

@SemiFeralDalek I have plenty of compassion. I understand the reasons for doing it. But to me it's a highly sensitive, personal thing. I would perhaps want to share those photos with friends and family if they asked to see them. Not unsuspecting people on Facebook who I'm not close to or haven't seen in years.

People agreed earlier that sharing a picture of a dead relative in a coffin was wrong. So how is this different.

Each to their own but I don't think I lack in compassion when I say I don't expect to see corpses on my timeline

I have just seen a ' real life one ' .
Neighbour has a 60th birthday balloon and their 60th birthday cards displayed in the window pointed towards the road so everyone can see.

I saw a man post a photo of his back with scratch marks down it captioned - 'my baby likes it hard' with his gf tagged

I found out a family member had died from Facebook! The family member sharing had literally just found out and put it straight on , and I hadn't had the call to let me know yet. I wasn't the only one to find out from there. Was a bit of a shock to be it lightly!

@SemiFeralDalek

Well said.

I have a couple on mine who have just broken up (I'm only friends with her)
That's fine,but everytime they meet to drop off/pick up the kids they end up fighting in front of them-proper screaming in front of 3 under 5's
Every detail is aired and then he refuses to hand the kids back and she ends up snatching them back after a few days with all details aired about what he's given them to eat/company he's kept/where he's taken them
Cue a million 'oh babes,I know x and he's bad news' and 'bastard!he took them to the park!'comments
Then a million comments about how she's 'strong and nobody will keep me from my babies'
Cue the following weekend and it all kicks off again and we are all treated to the fighting and every detail and how he's refusing to hand them back again-she plots how to get them back and the poor kids don't know where they'll be sleeping that night
Daft thing is,in real life they are both lovely people-but it's when they meet it all kicks off and neither will back down-its all point scoring

So she shouldn't post a picture of her child, because it might upset someone else? Because imagine her grief, if seeing a picture "triggers" someone else to be sad.

That's her son, and those are the only pictures she will ever have to share of him, ever. She should not have to keep her child private in case it upsets someone else. Have some compassion.

I'd love if someone else shared interesting articles on my feed! I tend to share the odd thing I think a few people will be interested in, occasional photos if we've done something interesting or an update on the dc for friends and family we don't see (and I'm too lazy to contact individually).

A relative of mine once posted three photos from different angles (one of where she was clearly standing on a chair to get a bit of distance) of a bucket with her own vomit. She was expecting people to feel sorry for her for being sick. I commented that noone wants to see this, and unfriended her.
When our grandfather died she announced it straight away on fb, and that is how my mother (and other relatives) found out her dad had just died.

Then when pregnant from when it was announced to birth, posted 48 times on Facebook about being pregnant in some form. Be it photos, announcements of feeling sick, cravings, it was relentless. I had a friend who did this. It was constant.

Then when the baby was born he had some serious issues and was rushed to SCBU. I mentioned it to a mutual friend and turned out she, and a huge number of her other friends, had hidden all her posts as they were getting tedious so consequently no-one knew.

What do people actually want to see on Facebook?

Because from what I’m reading it shouldn’t be accomplishments unless they are REALLY massive, shouldn’t be the mundanities of life, definitely not pictures of yourself that you like in case someone else thinks they’re cringe, not pics of your kid in case they grow up and get upset about having a photo of themselves shared, not food because who gives a fuck....

Mine is normally for sharing articles about women’s rights. Occasionally an cute memory of a kid.

Friend of a friend, also colleague from many years ago. She is shockingly bad with money, despite having a well paid job. She's managed to reach her late 40s living in a area where it is still affordable to buy a house, and having a good income, yet still rents. She was also declared bankrupt in her 30s.
Every other post is her whinging about being broke, but then she posts pictures of her brand new Audi, or her £500 pair of boots, or her Vampire's Wife dress.
The latest drama is that her landlord is selling her house, and evicting her with a fortnights notice. She ignores any sensible advice, saying that wouldn't work for her, and drops large hints about anyone being able to put her up for a while. I feel sorry for her, as there are obviously some sort of compulsive spending issues going on there, but her social media is an absolute car crash of "look at my new £2000 handbag" and "help, I can't afford my rent this month". Sadly, with the latest drama, even the most tolerant of her friends seem to be losing patience with her.

Endless hashtags. I know a few people that follow up a post/photo with endless #hashtags.

#makingmemories is the worst