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What is supposed to be romantic, but just bloody isn’t?

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SmidgenofaPigeon · 29/04/2021 10:59

A Semisonic song just came on the radio and brought me back to when I was 18, and the slightly-hippy lovely guy I was seeing at the time used to play this on his guitar and sing to me. The whole song, then another song after it. Sometimes another one after that. I’d sort of sit on the bed or hover in front of him while he played his little concert just for me and smile along, but I found it excruciating. If he didn’t want to kiss me he wanted to be singing to me. It was so boring and I never knew how I was supposed to be reacting.

I couldn’t hack it so we didn’t last, and my friend was horrified and said what a lovely romantic thing that was that he did and how awful I was for ending it 😂

Has anyone got any ‘romantic’ things to add that were just a bit boring/awkward?

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Pudmyboy · 13/05/2021 20:45

Jumped to the end of the thread from page 10 as wanted to add mine....
Sharing an umbrella..my tiny lady umbrella, when you are much taller than me, so you stay dry and I've got driving rain in my face..
Playing with my hair...just gerroff will you!
Worst was an ex who wanted to have no boundaries in our intimate life which meant he would come into the bathroom for a smelly shit whilst I was in there cleaning my teeth..Shock🤮

deeplyambivalent · 12/05/2021 20:23

@Weirdfan

I got married in a register office with just two witnesses precisely because I couldn't bear the thought of folk watching me walk down the aisle, the first dance etc, the thought honestly makes my insides shrivel so it's probably fairly obvious I share the feelings of most posters on this thread Smile Nice to know I'm not alone.
You're definitely not alone! When my fiancé dumped me my first thought was "Well, at least I don't have to go through the wedding". It was the only silver lining. Fucking hate the things.
LookItsMeAgain · 11/05/2021 16:38

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

Eh? I’ll say what l want.

I was just having a brain fart during that post.

Eire? Ireland? Does it really matter?

Yeah, it does matter. A lot. You're coming across as being offensive and rude. "A brain fart" if you describe it as such, when you mistype the word ás Gaeilge for Ireland is offensive. And you keep putting the word "burden" there not the name of the country. It matters. A whole lot. If you were in Finland and you had a similar story to tell about how someone was playing Sibelius for a loved one for example, would you have typed "I was in Helsinki, Suomi, and heard someone play and sing a piece of Sibelius". Likelihood is, you wouldn't. So please be respectful.
LizzieAnt · 11/05/2021 10:01

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

Eh? I’ll say what l want.

I was just having a brain fart during that post.

Eire? Ireland? Does it really matter?

It does really matter because for years the British etablishment (government, BBC, newspapers) deliberately refused to call Ireland by its preferred name (Ireland). This was for political reasons to do with Ireland's constitutional claim on Northern Ireland. Instead they used Eire (forgetting the accent, and so changing the meaning, as a pp mentioned) or later on the Republic of Ireland. The situation was really only resolved following the Good Friday Agreement in 1998. So a decision to use the name Eire, rather than Ireland, can still be seen as quite political and pointed - though often it's not meant as such, as many people are simply unaware of the history.

Éire is the name if you're spreaking/writing in the Irish language. Otherwise it's Ireland or occasionally ROI for clarity.

Sorry OP, a bit off the point I know.

toffeebutterpopcorn · 11/05/2021 08:52

@MedusasBadHairDay

I had an ex that used to write poetry. It was every bit as cringy as you'd expect.
Oh god yes! I even had a recycled one that he did for his ex... ‘brown eyes’ - excuse me, they are very green you git! I think I still have it somewhere...
ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 11/05/2021 08:50

Eh? I’ll say what l want.

I was just having a brain fart during that post.

Eire? Ireland? Does it really matter?

MLMsuperfan · 11/05/2021 08:49

Write Ireland for the state, unless it is strictly necessary to distinguish from Northern Ireland (for example matters of government and law) in which case write Republic of Ireland. For Ireland plus Northern Ireland write 'the island of Ireland'.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Names_of_the_Irish_state

LookItsMeAgain · 11/05/2021 07:58

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow - If you're going to type the rest of the comment/post in English, you can just write "Dingle in Ireland".
The way that you've written "Eire" it means burden, however Éire is the way to say the country Ireland in Irish.
We wouldn't say "Swansea in Cymru", we would say "Swansea in Wales", fair enough?? No hard feelings.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 10/05/2021 18:27

Years ago in a restaurant in Dingle in Eire there was some American guy reading Joyce to his date in this fake Irish/American accent.

Ex Dh and l had to leave. It was painful.

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 10/05/2021 18:18

@Weirdfan We also did the register office wedding, with two witnesses, grabbed from the street.
I think the most 'Romantic' aspect was some Japanese tourists doing the whole sightseeing thing and getting very excited taking photos of us on the steps of Kensington and Chelsea register office.

Inthemane · 10/05/2021 14:21

Sudden, out of the blue declarations of love.

In films, this is usually a wonderful funny yet sincere, heartfelt speech delivered by someone gorgeous, preferably Mr Darcy, at sunrise in a beautiful setting.

In reality it’s creepy Kevin from the corner shop who you’ve exchanged “hellos” with for a few months who turns up on your doorstep at 2am clutching a kebab in one sweaty hand and starts shouting he loves you.

Weirdfan · 10/05/2021 13:58

I got married in a register office with just two witnesses precisely because I couldn't bear the thought of folk watching me walk down the aisle, the first dance etc, the thought honestly makes my insides shrivel so it's probably fairly obvious I share the feelings of most posters on this thread Smile Nice to know I'm not alone.

KurtWilde · 10/05/2021 13:11

Glad to see this thread made it to classics!

Bells3032 · 10/05/2021 12:25

Sex in the shower - esp if the guy is much taller than you. water in your face is not romantic and unless you have the biggest shower its squishy. plus fear of slipping

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 10/05/2021 12:22

Yay! Thanks @HebeMumsnet, great decision! ThanksWine

MNHQ
HebeMumsnet · 10/05/2021 09:32

Morning, everyone! We're moving this over to Classics now.

SugarMiceInTheRain · 09/05/2021 13:58

Thank you so much to all who posted on this. I've been dipping into it for the past few days when I've had a moment and it has made me laugh so much. Definitely a contender for classics surely? @MNHQ

toconclude · 06/05/2021 15:16

@Hoppinggreen

Oysters are lovely deep fried in a Chinese Restaurant
But can you eat a whole restaurant in one go?
KurtWilde · 06/05/2021 14:39

Never had an oyster raw or otherwise. Can't imagine I'd like it raw but deep fried sounds nice.

Hoppinggreen · 06/05/2021 14:35

Oysters are lovely deep fried in a Chinese Restaurant

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 06/05/2021 12:47

Yes, I could probably eat it cooked - it's the texture of the raw ones that does for me, can't handle it at all.

Kiki275 · 05/05/2021 22:07

For those who don't like oysters, if you ever see them cooked they're completely different. I had them on Kerrera, lightly grilled with garlic cream & parmesan and they were gorgeous, I'm not a big fan of them raw either.x

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 05/05/2021 17:15

The one oyster I had nearly bounced straight back up - it was a textural issue, primarily, and one I never wish to repeat.
I like other shellfish, but only cooked. If they're too squishy, nah, not happening.
You can also keep jellied eels - another big no-no.

Holothane · 05/05/2021 15:08

I too love oysters tried them on holiday from a stall seller.

ShagMeRiggins · 05/05/2021 13:58

I’ve loved this thread.

I also love oysters.