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Original poster

to think it's really cheeky to invite someone to a BBQ then expect them to bring...

533 replies

dotdashdashdash · 11/04/2021 16:35

...The BBQ!?

We were invited last week to a friends today for a BBQ. They called this morning asking to borrow our BBQ, we assumed there's had broken or the one they ordered hadn't arrived etc - but no. They don't have one. So we suggested they come to ours and bring some of the stuff they'd bought as our BBQ is very heavy and large (won't fit in the car without removing the child seats and lying all seats flat) but it turns out, that not only did they want us to bring our BBQ, they wanted us to leave it at theirs as they are having other friends this evening.

Was IBU to say no? That I didn't want to take our large BBQ and gas bottle to their house and leave it with them?

OP posts:
stressedout21 · 13/04/2021 13:14

Damn cheek absolute spongers not the type of friends you should associate with

Mydietstartstomorrow · 13/04/2021 13:12

Jeez I thought friends helped friends out! If one of my friends asked to borrow my bbq I’d happily loan, and vice versa. Just pleased I’m in my friendship group and not some on here!!

MangosteenSoda · 13/04/2021 12:55

Glenda needs to shop at FarmFoods for a while while she saves up for a bbq of her own Grin

gamerchick · 13/04/2021 12:28

@Sick

Sounds like you need to grow a backbone and learn to say no, OP.
This.

Come on OP, that shits expensive. Ask them for your stuff back and hope they haven't loaned it out to other people like most CFs do.

DarkMatterA2Z · 13/04/2021 12:20

I'm sorry for this blow to your friendship, OP, but this is really very funny Grin.

Other things they've borrowed and not returned are, decorating equipment (including rollers, pasting table, wallpaper stripper), cookware, shoes and probably the most expensive - an air cylinder for scuba diving. I really do need to get the stuff back!

Gosh. They really saw you coming, didn't they? The only way you're getting this stuff back is to steal their lawnmower and hold it hostage. I'd be getting along to theirs in the middle of the night with my padlock cutters to filch it from the shed, then sending a message requesting a swap.

HavelockVetinari · 13/04/2021 12:12

This is hilarious, I love it when the other party joins the thread Grin

Sick · 13/04/2021 12:09

Sounds like you need to grow a backbone and learn to say no, OP.

Original poster
dotdashdashdash · 13/04/2021 11:55

@00100001

...a scuba diving air cylinder???

Confused

Yeah. DH and I scuba dive and we have our own kit, including cylinder. Or at least we did. These friends currently have most of it!
OP posts:
Middersweekly · 13/04/2021 11:51

This is the most hilarious cheeky fuckery request I’ve ever heard! 🤣 why on earth would they invite two sets of people round for a BBQ when they don’t own one? A small charcoal one I could understand might be a reasonable request to borrow but a large gas BBQ that would require dismantling?! WTAF?!

00100001 · 13/04/2021 11:50

...a scuba diving air cylinder???

Confused
Bargebill19 · 13/04/2021 11:46

Errr Glenda WAS your friend op. WAS!

Madamum18 · 13/04/2021 11:43

Unbelievably ridiculous behaviour on their part!

Bluntness100 · 13/04/2021 11:30

Gotta laugh at the cheap farm foods ans passing it off as m&s jibe. Snobbiest thing I have ever read 😂😂😂

And would be even funnier if it’s coming from someone who can’t afford a bbq and then invites people to their gaff for a bbq.,,and tells them to bring it with them,

Cantstopeatingchocolate · 13/04/2021 11:15

Well this thread got interesting quickly.
Glenda you're hilarious. Go buy a BBQ. That's not the kind of thing you borrow. Hoovers - ✅
Fold up table and chairs - ✅
Dirty outdoor pieces of equipment - ❌
I wouldn't take apart my BBQ legs and squeeze it in my car, even for my best friend.

Original poster
dotdashdashdash · 13/04/2021 11:13

Im begining to wonder if Glenda really is my friend. Though I've never tried to pass anything off as M&S because I never shop there 🤷 and I don't know what a farm foods is.

Other things they've borrowed and not returned are, decorating equipment (including rollers, pasting table, wallpaper stripper), cookware, shoes and probably the most expensive - an air cylinder for scuba diving. I really do need to get the stuff back!

OP posts:
gamerchick · 13/04/2021 11:08

Who asks to borrow a Henry hoover? Are you the CF mate Glenda? Buy your own shit.

I used to have parasitic friends like this. Always on the want like it was an entitlement. Always wanting you to do the running around after them.

I used to anyroad...

myBumJuiceSmellsLikeRoses · 13/04/2021 10:47

I suspect if you'd left the BBQ with them you could probably add it to the list of things you haven't got back.

Cynical me thinks you might struggle to sort out a "convenient time" to collect.

VestaTilley · 13/04/2021 10:21

CFs! YANBU.

They can buy disposables if they haven’t got one. Or nip to Argos! You can buy a barbecue very cheaply: we did and it’s lasted us years.

KevinTheGoat · 13/04/2021 10:14

Glendapickle, you don't seem to like the OP very much. Do you two have a history?

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 13/04/2021 09:34

Who invites people to a Bbq if they don’t own one? Weird.

Mypathtriedtokillme · 13/04/2021 09:33

I’m a kiwi and the standard norm is what I call a “crate and a plate” as in you bring what your drinking and a plate of food to share/meat to cook

Bringing the actual BBQ at the last minute is a bit beyond reason.
Who the hell invites someone to a bbq when they don’t own one??

Ddot · 13/04/2021 09:23

Cf didnt even offer to pick kids up, so bugger off

LookItsMeAgain · 13/04/2021 09:09

@dotdashdashdash - What have you loaned them before that you now have to reclaim? I'd make sure that you have a list and if they have broken the one that you loaned them, be sure to ask them for a replacement to the same value. I'd love to be a fly on the wall with that conversation Grin Grin

Mummyoflittledragon · 13/04/2021 09:07

@GlendaPickle
If you are the ‘friend’ or a friend / relative of the ‘friend’ in question, you’re really not coming off well.

expat101 · 13/04/2021 09:00

@GlendaPickle

OP knows that the other person in question reads this forum and is recruiting support and is not being truthful with the facts.

Attention seeking.

Perhaps that person does not want her to host the bbq as she buys cheap farm foods meat and tries to pass it off as a M & S.

Trot along Glenda bender, Don’t like what the Op serves? Bring your own meat to her bbqs or don’t attend. We know neither of you, but you are not helping yourself here so far.

Ffs, just return her belongings and move on.