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To think you can't get past 'the ick' im a relationship?

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Thickums · 02/01/2020 20:09

LIGHT HEARTED Interested in other posters thoughts on 'the ick'.

For those who don't know, the 'ick' is when someone you are dating just starts to irritate you for no apparent reason.
I dont mean normal annoyances, i mean they start to make your skin crawl and their mannerisms just go through you like a knife.
It can just creep up on you without any warning and they can even tick every box and otherwise be a 10/10 partner but unfortunately even them breathing irritates the life out of you. You try to fight it, but ultimately the irritation can turn to anger and make even the best of people become snappy with rage due to 'the ick'.

Ive experienced this once. Lovely bloke, not a bad bone in his body. After about 2 years for some reason still unknown to me i suddenly got 'the ick'. Watching him eat a pot noodle would make my blood boil.. Literally give me the rage. Everything he did irritated the life out of me.
As he was so lovely i tried my hardest to make things work. Until one day i confessed to a friend who told me about 'the ick' and how once it happens it can never be undone. They will irritate you forever. No one knows the cause of the ick.. But its incurableBlush. So i ended it. Felt nothing but relief.

So am i unreasonable to think 'the ick' is a real thing and once it happens the relationship is doomed?

Has anyone else experienced this? What is the reason behind 'the ick'? Why does it usually seem to happen with people who tick all the boxes?

I can't lie, i sometimes read posts on the relationship boards where the OP will say their partner has suddenly said they want out. Whilst everyone else is shouting 'OW' i think to myself maybe they've just got 'the ick?' Blush

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Thickums · 02/01/2020 20:21

@MuchBetterNow the scunner?? Ooh ive not heard that one. Must be a common thing then if there are other names for it.

Wonder why it happens?!

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Thickums · 02/01/2020 20:20

What @SecretWitch?! No i am not! I'm a regular poster and been here for years! Mumsnet can verify me thank you very much.

And for the record- i do NOT agree with the dailymail writing stories about threads. Its awful. People post anonymously for a reason. Not to have their dirty laundry in a national newspaper. Lazy and unethical journalim IMO.

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MuchBetterNow · 02/01/2020 20:12

I had it once many years ago, it was known as "the scunner" though.

SecretWitch · 02/01/2020 20:12

Op, are you a journalist?