To think you can't get past 'the ick' im a relationship?

He then looked up at me lovingly and said 'I'm a little baby, wah wah' then started suckling at my breast like an actual baby. I so so so almost threw up

🤢🤮 surely that would give anyone and everyone the Ick? I think I would have bodily thrown him off the bed and out the window at that, even sacrificing a nipple in his jaws to do so. Vom!

Icks can wear off

I don't agree. When you are that repulsed by someone, you are not waiting for anything to wear off. You want out. Immediately!

Quite new relationship decades ago but still vom-worthy. Bless him, he was very shy and unnatural around me, I think I made him very nervous and twitchy. Had a good job but had been unemployed for some time for a while before and thought the expression 'when I was a government artist' was hilarious, instead of the phrase that was around back then 'drawing the dole' .... if he used that fucking line less than three times daily I was doing well. Mildly amusing first time. 103 times in I wanted to strangle him.

He also didn't have any suitable shoes to go to a club and we had to drive for miles to his brother's house to borrow some hideous stand-ins that were far to big and he kind of shuffled around all night looking like a complete dick while I fumed, arms folded, clock watching, next to him.

I ghosted him and was really mean. Very low point in my dating history!

He then looked up at me lovingly and said 'I'm a little baby, wah wah' then started suckling at my breast like an actual baby. I so so so almost threw up

Oh god, even the thought of this makes me want to vomit. It is so repellant.

I remember getting this from previous boyfriends and crushes.

Strangely I’ve never felt like this about DH, and I’ve seen him warts and all (including smelly farts and cleaning up vomit when he was ill). But for some reason he just feels “right” to me.

I particularly remember the ick when pregnant. There was these poor Japanese men that sat near me on the bus in the morning and there was a smell from them that I could only smell when pregnant and it made me sick. There was also a man locally who I would see on the bus or at the bus stop who gave me the boak, for no reason whatsoever

@cherry4weans

It came to a head when he told me he'd been making my tea milk first to see if I'd noticed, after I mentioned it was sacrilege.

Milk first? PSYCHOPATH.

Not with romantic partners, but I had considerable trouble tolerating my (perfectly lovely) parents between the time I was 16 and 22. Their every mannerism annoyed me. I had to move out, and far away. I knew they hadn't changed and that they were great parents. The yucky feeling did go away eventually, but it must have been very hurtful to them while it lasted. I even stopped saying "I love you" to them because it felt like a stupid ritual.

I later theorised that this was nature's way of getting me to fly the nest. I recently mentioned it to my 20 year old, who still lives at home and claims never to have found me and DH deeply irritating. Slightly irritating on occasion, but not in an unbearable relentless way.

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I was with a lovely guy once who ended up irritating the crap out of me. Think it was my gut telling me he wasn't right for me. It came to a head when he told me he'd been making my tea milk first to see if I'd noticed, after I mentioned it was sacrilege. I'm not a science experiment!!

Best thread add in ages! 🏅🥇🏆

I was once in bed with a guy, DTD, and he suddenly started saying 'come, managedmis, COME!!!' '

I didn't

He went to pick something up from the ground and bent at the knees I literally felt myself seal up.

^^

Weeps

This would so be me

@Weirdomagnet

Another one wore a pink jumper once. Death knell. He'd also sniffed the air in my flat once and said 'have you been cooking up a storm?". I hadn't. But the phrase alone was enough.

I don't know why but this has got me howling! 😂

Oh god, some of these are unbelievably funny and so petty. Chips and fish 😂

I had this with my first boyfriend. All great, getting along fine until we went to a nightclub one night. James's "Sit down" came on and he literally sat down. In the middle of the dance floor

He then looked up at me lovingly and said 'I'm a little baby, wah wah' then started suckling at my breast like an actual baby. I so so so almost threw up

I had a similar experience. Shudder.

Not read full thread but how did it take you two years to get it pretty sure the definition of ick factor is supposed to happen before a few months have passed? and yes I have had before and you can’t get past it

I haven't RTFT but incase nobody has mentioned, the "proper" term for The Ick is called sudden repulsion syndrome and it is very much a thing

I had a thread on here discussing this a couple of months ago, under a previous name.

Yes!!

Okay, so I was positively smitten with this guy for around five years! I thought he was adorable. I would see him often; although we were only friends who would flirt and kiss.

FF to five years later we thought it would be a great idea to sleep with each other (sober). Anyway, first time was great. Third time, however, I just had this urge to want to get the fook out of there! He just seemed creepy and a bit weird!

Poor bloke. His behaviour had not changed, but he made me feel sick. I regret messing up our friendship, but I no longer want to spend platonic time with him.

I cannot explain it.

Oh god I got it with XH and I'm almost too embarrassed to say how...

He used to be really, really good at oral sex. Sometimes I'd watch, you know, as he was doing his thing. Then one day, sitting in the living room, I looked over at him and he was nibbling a cashew nut. And his mouth made EXACTLY the same shape and motion as when he was giving oral.

That was it. The Ick arrived in full force. I did do the grown up thing and try to work through it/ignore it/bleach the thought from my memory but it was no good. From then on everything he did just irritated the fuck out of me.

Obviously oral sex was off the menu from that point on as well and tbh the rest of his game wasn't up to much...

We were talking about 'the ick' over 20 years ago! It's nothing new.

I think it is something once you have it you can't get rid of it. I remember getting it with a boyfriend - loads of things started making my skin crawl. I wanted to explode when he ate but I knew in my head he was doing nothing wrong - just eating normally. If he touched me I felt disgusting! I finished it soon after!

@friedascarload - have you actually had experience of getting over it? How long did it last? I can't see how you could talk through it - I mean telling someone you feel sick when they eat, touch you or even breathe - there's not much the other person can do other than stay out of your sight - which isn't much of a relationship. It's also pretty hard to appreciate and love someone you can't bear to be around?

One guy referred to me as "kitten". WTAF.

these men not third men 🙄

I’m crying at some of these.

I was texting this REALLY fit man. We’d been on a casual date with a bit of kissing but nothing sexual. Arrangements were made to meet up and we got down to a bit of sexting. All started off well, until.... he used the CAT EMOJI to reference my clit 😹

Goodbye really fit man who is too immature and childish to use the word ‘clit’. The thought of that message still makes my stomach lurch 😂

Chips and fish - is that a euphemism or he just got it wrong?!!!