To think you can't get past 'the ick' im a relationship?

Yep. Hence why I’m divorced. I look at him now after 7 years of separation and 6 years since our divorce why I ever found him attractive.

@stouffer I think we may know the same person......

I had a weird experience with a one time guy (I'm menopausal, seriously horny) I'm sure I'd have met up with him again if he hadn't insisted on telling me to 'fuck it' repeatedly while we were DTD!! 🤢

Sorry for the really long post.
I've actually quite a few ick moments with exes.
The one that used to rub his feet in socks across the carpet.
The one I was obsessed with until he stripped down to canary yellow briefs.
And when I was a teenager, there was a lad who had a Saturday job at the garage in our street. He looked gorgeous in his oily boiler suit, grease smeared on his face. Then I saw him in his every day clothes. He ironed a crease in his jeans and wore slip on shoes.

DP and I mutually dumped each other just before Christmas after 10 years.
He'll have his reasons - I'm a moody cow and he's sick of my moaning was his parting shot. Obviously, there'll be more.

For me, the ick definitely started creeping up over the past few months:
The way he falls asleep and this weird croaking noise sing songs from his throat;
He adds bacon, onion, peppers and random spices to instant noodles and smugly thinks he's a master chef; the baby talk to the dog; he started growing his hair out and bought Alice bands to keep it out of his eyes; got tired of growing hair and went to the barbers. Barber gave him a Beatles mop top and he actually paid the barber, came home seething but has done nothing about it since; the quirky habit he has of watching old 70/80s sit coms now infuriates me. He recently binge watched Robin's Nest. Why?

However, two recent incidents were the final straw. Firstly, he sat tallying all the episodes/ series of US sitcoms he's yet to see. eg he's still looking for episodes 5 and 7 of season 6 of king of queens or similar useless waste of time shit. He actually sat tapping a pencil to his teeth as he scrolled through the laptop. Like he was doing a serious audit and deep in thought. I wanted to kill him.
Secondly, he came to pick me up. He didn't think he'd have to leave the car but was running low on fuel. As he walked back to the car after paying, I was utterly repulsed. He had sweatpants on with baggy knees, a T-shirt far too small with his flabby grey belly on show, a cardigan (!) and that bloody hair cut. Any ounce of love, respect, even pity for him shut down at that moment. I slunk down in my seat on that forecourt, embarrassed to be seen with him. I still can't get the image of Barney from The Simpsons out of my head.

I agree with the posters who have mentioned it's often things that men do that make them childlike or less manly. I definitely like blokey blokes, DH is but is different to my previous partners in that hes not tall or muscular but he is still manly. There must be a more in depth connection as he has small hands and feet which would definitely give me the ick with someone else

Aaaah I remember those days of fit young lads who could shoot it across the room / up the wall :o

in what universe could he imagine that's sexy?

I know, @thickwoollytights Even thinking of it now makes me feel queasy.

We were very young and he was a virgin before we met so I think he was just finding his feet with me and hadn’t really developed a sex filter!

It was a sex thing that made me decide to break up. On our last weekend together, as he was about to ejaculate, he pulled out and then aimed for the wall over his head. He was late teens, very fit so was able to get quite an arch on it. Just the sight of him basically cumming on a wall and then watching as his semen dripped down towards the headboard horrified me.

Urgh, yes. Graeme of the baggy white y-fronts. And Richard and the ice cream. Both came out of the woodwork years later to try to contact me; I suspect because they never knew what they did wrong. It was the ick, guys. I’m sorry I broke your hearts.

@Glitterfisher glad to hear it's helping you too!
As well as reassured I also feel a little bit sick from some of the very funny but completely gag-worthy stories on here!

Feet seem to crop up a lot in this thread. Specifically - toes.

He’d waggle it in my direction going “Rick the Dick wants to viiiiisit”.

Nooooooo @paper - in what universe could he imagine that's sexy?

🤮

Yes it's defo real. For me the scenario was a little different tho. I have a male friend, lovely guy, always had a little bit of a mummy crush on him, when I saw him I'd eyeball a little bit n wonder how the hell he was single. Then I called to his house one day after knowing him for years, to drop something over and he was barefoot and had hairy toes. Ick!

Suddenly the mummy crush was over lol. Still friends with the guy, still can't work out why he's single but defo don't see him the same way after seeing those toes lol.

Had this, and I think it's hormonal, and I think this is why men think we're crazy.. Lol

A really lovely man I'd been seeing once moved my hair to the side to give my neck a kiss.. he then made the biting an apple "ooombbpp" sound in my ear. It physically repulsed me and I can still feel his breath on me and that sound clear as a bell. 🤢 I broke up with him two days later and tried to say "it's not you, it's me" but got it completely the wrong way round "it's not me, it's you"

@msflibble I was thinking the same, I feel very reassured which is weird!

Chuckling out loud. Thank you.

This thread is making me feel quite a lot better actually. I've had a huge dip in my sex drive and was worried it was a problem with DH but this has made me realise I never get the ick with him, even though he does awful farts and plucks out his nose hairs when we're watching TV, or has a variety of obnoxious coughing noises he inherited from his dad. Even with all these things I still love him and want to be close to him. It's very reassuring

@Bedsprings I was 18 so I didn't know what to do haha!

A very pampered (and very young) man who'd obviously been raised to think that every word he spoke fluttered out of the depths of profundity like a gift to the world.

He said a lot of things that made me cringe, but the one that sealed the deal was him standing over-dramatically at a tall window, sort of draped against the frame. He sighed and turned his head back over his shoulder at me, "You know... I've trained my eyes to see the other side of the moon."

It was so earnest and EURGH and he said it like he was reading a movie line in his own head.

-la fin

Bootleg jeans - a swift boak.

@Sweetnessandfight I reckon hormones may have something to do with it or illness/stress. I was absolutely besotted with DH when we first met and once I fell pregnant I couldn't even stand him breathing in the same room as me. I was vile to him, how he stuck around I have no idea. We had only been together a few months poor bloke. Once I got to 12/13 weeks and the nausea stopped I loved him again

I wouldn't say we are like loves young dream still after 15 years but things that would have given me the ick don't with him. We aren't probably as romantic etc as we should be but we have a good relationship and the annoying things just piss us off rather than put us off I guess.

Maybe when you get the ick you dump them quickly, maybe it does wear off. I can't say I have left it long enough to see really.

Different men - one said about a forthcoming do, you can wear a nice frock. That did it. With another jealousy. With another it was a pair of white trousers. A very sudden nail in that coffin.

I saw his bare feet for the first time - looked like they’d been crudely carved from a block of grey marble, massive stumpy lumps of caveman proportions. I gasped in shock and felt like boaking, it was the beginning of the end.

First time having sex with my then partner without a condom, he whispered "That's me that"

Oh god, no. How did you not part his head clean from his shoulder?

the ic can be a red flag, a warning sign and should not be ignored.