To think you can't get past 'the ick' im a relationship?

Oh and another one, when I took him home to family (I was 16 and still living at home) and was told he looked like Sid from the Ice Age film. I just couldn't not see it after that.

Running up to me in the street in a sort of ‘mimicking horses’ hooves in a gallop’ way, to surprise me

🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

I went to see him once and he was wearing grey jogging bottoms with piss stains. Nope.

Another one, I had the ick so bad! I cannot remember when it started, but I think it was around the time he made dinner for us both, but when carrying them through from the kitchen for us to eat, he dropped one of the bowls. Instead of helping to clean up, he apologised and said he had to go home??? He also had huge black heads in his pubes (not envy).

Oh and the slurper when going down on me. There was just no need for the sheer amount of noise occurring.

I had the ick horrifically after my first child was born, and to a lesser extent with the others. It was really distressing as I adored my partner, and I thought I’d destroyed our relationship. I could not bear to hear him eating, and we used to eat in turn while the other one held the baby, so suddenly I was listening to him eat constantly. It did pass (although his loud eating does still irritate a bit but not to ick levels) and although we each annoy each other a bit, things are fine.

I was telling him about this thread and giving him some of the examples. Our five year old is now wandering around the house saying ‘BOOM’ to everything.

I disagree @Ash39 I think people who are saying that are doing so to prove 'ick' is a deeper thing. Because certain men we can put up with anything without getting it but others are rejected for comparatively minor things. I think nearly everyone has given an example where it has happened previously if not in their current relationship.

Ash39 I agree

It's interesting that a few folk just haven't "got" the thread, and talk about long term partners and loving them despite the annoying habits!
I think that's the whole point though...

The "ick" is a visceral feeling, gut reaction, usually in a relatively new relationship, that tests you to see if it's worth continuing...

If you love someone despite their quirks/faults/strange habits or noises, then they probably are a keeper

all good until I woke up the next day and saw a half eaten selection box on his floor, with crumpled wrappers inside it

😂😂😂😂

I wonder if I've turned off many men with my chocolate habits or if I eat loudly. Would be interesting to know what ick things I've done

Yup. Have had the ick a number of times. My ex is a slob and is serious ick.

But one guy that stands out is someone who took me to a restaurant and told me about his chafing.

One guy gave me the permanent ick (or yuck - we know what we mean here) by, amongst other things:

Running up to me in the street in a sort of ‘mimicking horses’ hooves in a gallop’ way, to surprise me

Greeting me with “How’s you?” (Think West Country accent)

Adding “Not three bad” when anyone said “Not too bad” (how we laughed!)

Saying “I needed that one” after going to the loo

Calling out to pedestrians who he almost knocked over “You tired of living?”

Then one time I saw him in the street and felt genuinely repulsed and embarrassed by the sight of him...

(I was in my teens then by the way 😂)

Oh do tell @Inanothertime ! Would love to here the guys version of this.

The 'ick' works both ways!

I’m SO glad I found this thread! This has happened to me on several occasions and I honestly thought there was something wrong with me because it’s always with nice blokes not complete arseholes! Like PP’s have said it’s a visceral reaction, like physical repulsion and it kills it dead!

My worst one was with a really good bloke, good looking, kind, funny, good body etc, who I was genuinely really excited about. Until we had sex and as soon as he finished said ‘thank you’ to me. I physically scrambled away from him and it was done.
Also remember another bloke who I met out and went home with, all good until I woke up the next day and saw a half eaten selection box on his floor, with crumpled wrappers inside it. Killed it.

@littlemama18 thank you for the sliding story, made me laugh this morning 😃

The boak or ick has nothing to do with ‘perfection’ or aspirations of perfection. It’s a visceral feeling whereby a person’s presence becomes insufferable. You can not overlook or ignore this feeling, it is beyond strong.
You could ignore it if you were very determined and then spend most of your life secretly hating them and smiling for the neighbours. I have realised there is one exception - the temporary pregnancy ick.

toffeeghirlinatwirl ‘he recently binge watched Robins Nest. Why?’

I am laughing out loud here! Thank you!!!

There is nobody who doesn't have some ways or habits that are annoying to others, or maybe to one other. And of course the more time we spend with people the more we might notice these things. My husband of many years has a few very annoying little habits (like a weird thing he does of sticking his bottom lip out) and daft little sayings that make me cringe. But you know what? I'm sure I do things that annoy him just as much. But we love each other and we are a family. What does it matter? He is a kind and loving man and Iam lucky. When he does an annoying little thing I try to think how much I would wish he was still here to be annoying me if anything happened to him. People who look for perfection in a partner will never be happy. Or their "perfect" person will find THEM too annoying to live with.

I agree with someone above, I grew up and got past it but did have many ‘oh god he dances weird’ type scenarios before that.

We used to call it the "yuk" factor too.
My first one was when l was dating a lovely bloke, all was going well, then l met his mother and sister.
They all looked so alike it was downright creepy.
I could never look at him again without seeing his mum and sister.
He had to go.
Immediately.

DH pees sitting down. Always has, as long as I've known him - MIL is disabled & can't easily bend to sort the loo seat so, rather than risk any of them forgetting to leave it down for her (FIL & 2 sons) they all learned to pee sitting down. I think it's quite sweet actually. And good for me, in 15 years he's literally never left the seat up, or made horrible messy splashes.

He does clear his throat though. Like, literally, every minute or two. He needs to take antihistamines (I suspect a postnasal drip) but he "doesn't like taking tablets". I practically rattle! But noooo, he'd rather sit there, "ahem-hem-heming" with a tiny little grunt each time.

Oh God, I'd forgotten one: a guy I was seeing who was insistent on having entirely sober daylight sex (he was in AA). I was prepared to be convinced, but he actually dripped sweat from his face onto me.

Never again.

Feel I need to add.. the second guy wasn’t injured he just slid down

Love this post

I once dated a guy who would pee sitting down...completely turned me off!!

Then went on a date with someone and it all went fine until the end and he fell down some stairs I felt so awful and embarrassed but I couldn’t see him again afterwards!

And the last one I dated was a really nice guy all round, but when I went down on him he made the most feminine whiney whimpery noises!! Made me feel ill and I’ve never seen him since!!!

I’ve had the ick in every single relationship bar the one I’m in now. It’s definitely a point of no return where the other person suddenly repulses me when they’re doing something really normal, and after that I can’t stand to have them touch me again, so it’s over. The most random point that ick has ever hit me, was watching them eat a strawberry! 😂

Aaaah I remember those days of fit young lads who could shoot it across the room / up the wall :o

😂

Thankfully I've not met one as yet