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It is one o clock in the morning, I need the night shift to mind my worries whilst I sleep....

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NaomiFromMilkShake · 17/12/2019 01:03

I am 50% of the way through chemo. (second time around)(different primary)

My DS (18) has just been diagnosed with depression I think me being diagnosed again was the tipping point.

Due to above I am having to delegate Christmas, it will get done, it did before just not my way.

DH retiring in three years, should be more than enough to live on, but at the moment I am worrying (Like I couldn't worry about that closer to the time) Hmm

Sausage rolls, my job, ditto mince pies.........if they don't happen my DH and my DS will suck it up. Just me worrying.

DS struggling in college and have to go to a meeting on Wednesday

So if some of the night shift would like to come and mind my ,worries whilst I attempt to sleep, it would be gratefully received.

Feel free to add your own, just writing that down has helped.

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HannaYeah · 23/12/2019 00:52

I’m here and watching tv. Send your worries to sit with me.

theemmadilemma · 23/12/2019 00:44

What a beautiful thread.

DramaAlpaca · 23/12/2019 00:32

serialnc if course you can join in, you're having a tough time. Throw a few of those worries over here. I'll help Pepperama look after them for you tonight.

Pepperama · 22/12/2019 23:26

@serialnc that sounds really though. I’ll look after your worries for the night, so you can get some rest and hopefully feel a bit better for it.

Come on sorrow and worries, you can stay with me for now and leave poor serialnc alone till she’s ready to pick you lot up.

serialnc · 22/12/2019 23:21

Am I able to join? Not really wanting to go into much detail but am really struggling mentally atm. Partner won't be here for Xmas day and I'm allowing him to have the kids (3&2) for Xmas day so I'll be alone and the thought is just killing me. I haven't eaten in days and can't sleep. Everything I eat comes back up (sorry)

I have name changed as I don't want this linked to my normal name.
I do really want to do a post on what is going on atm but feel it's outing and have family (my side and partners side) and feel it's to outing. I have no one to really talk to who isn't close to me and I just don't know where to turn or who to speak too.

Sorry.

dappledsunshine · 22/12/2019 23:04

Thinking of you for tomorrow finally

I'm here and happy to mind overnight, it would be quite nice to have a distraction from my own.

I've had a year of worries, the biggest one still not resolved but I'm determined over the Xmas period to put it to one side.

GenuineKlatchianPottery · 22/12/2019 22:16

Good evening everyone.
Drop your worries here with me, I have a nice peaceful spot set up for them, I’ll tuck them up and keep them warm and safe until you’re ready to pick them back up.
Sleep well.

girlofthenorth · 22/12/2019 19:53

@FinallyHere sorry to hear about your DM Thanks
I should have been on to say I would mind some worries during the day but had hectic day feeling very post viral and struggling to look after my DF who now has it from when he looked after me last week ! He's old and I'm worried.
I may need someone to mind mine later but for now can take quite a few which can nestle down in the wrapping paper for a few hours .

SamVimesFavouriteDragon · 22/12/2019 19:11

Naomi you sound like a wonderful mum! I hope I am as lovely as you as my DS grows up!

SamVimesFavouriteDragon · 22/12/2019 19:09

Good night Finally!

Ah 2018 don't feel silly Brew hand over all your worries, big or small and just come back for them when you're ready. I'll be here, minding them and gently shushing them down along with my (mostly) sleepless babe.

FinallyHere · 22/12/2019 18:42

Thank you one and all

I'm away, ready for DM's funeral tomorrow, the arrangements for which were my original presenting problem. All not sorted.

Today, though, it is as if a switch has gone on for DH. It is as if we are back to how I thought we were, before his worries loomed.

No idea why, maybe the AD have actually kicked in and his brain chemistry is back to normal. So, so grateful to have the man I married back.

I'm bc about to go to sleep, happy to mind any worries that anyone would like to be soothed. Good night all xx

2018SoFarSoGreat · 22/12/2019 17:29

Well i feel foolish. Was tossing and turning all night long, and kept thinking I simply needed to post and ask for help. But never did it. I knew I was worrying needlessly, quite pathetic.

I'm hosting a tea party for about 12 of my female staff in a week. A week. Some are vegan. I have recipes pulled and good ideas where to shop for ingredients. I need to pull the pretty China from the garage. Etc. Etc.

All night! When I fell into sleep I dreampt that it was today and I was unprepared. Bed not made. DH in the way cleaning the kitchen. A nightmare!

I bet this worry rose up to hide the big ones. Sheesh.

FinallyHere · 22/12/2019 01:09

Checking in. Night all.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 22/12/2019 00:37

Naomi your post made me cry. I can tell how hard you worked and how much intention you put into every step. That's love. Right there, love.

Sleep well. You earned it ❤️

NaomiFromMilkShake · 22/12/2019 00:25

I had a calm day, worked really hard, harder than my energy levels dictate.

Collected the ham, picked up the Champagne.

The lights are on the tree, the baubles are going on tomorrow, most importantly I have made sausage rolls.

Last year before this diagnosis landed, we went out to dinner with DS (18)and we got him low level pissed, in return he told us what was hard for him the last time around, Sad in the middle of all the trauma information, he said and.......and ....... that was the first time in my life we didn't kick Christmas off with homemade bockety sausage rolls.

So I made sausage rolls from scratch.Grin

I then did loads of invisible bits....

Decorating two mantelpieces and two hearths picked DS up from work, waited while he got a takeaway, (on my dollar Grin)

Hoovered

Just invisible stuff..............

Point being I am suitably tired enough to take someone elses worries to bed with me.

DS is out with his friends and happy.

I am more or less ready for Christmas.

So bring it on...

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Howmanysleepsnow · 21/12/2019 22:40

@girlofthenorth I can mind some. DH and I have had a huge argument and even though we’ve made up I doubt i’ll sleep much. I’m happy to take any worries to bed to keep me company in the dark while I plan Christmas.
Any others are welcome too, the more the merrier whilst you all get some rest.

anxioussue · 21/12/2019 22:21

The santander Beethoven's 9th flash mob is lovely. It's in the town not the branch on the high street.

GenuineKlatchianPottery · 21/12/2019 22:18

Go get some sleep girl. I’ll keep a close eye on them for you.

girlofthenorth · 21/12/2019 22:07

I sleep better knowing my worries are here . Please can someone hold them till the morning. Same worries as before all wrapped up with health in some form for me and various members of my family and the mental health of my children and nephew. This close to Christmas is an easy time for my worries to come out and they just need minding they don't get out of hand .
Thanks - I can take some again to watch in the morning .

MrsMozartMkII · 21/12/2019 20:39

I've been watching flash mobs around Europe. Very uplifting and calming at the same time, so feel free to leave any worries with me folks.

Sleep deep and sleep well.

Joyfulincolour · 21/12/2019 20:28

Hello, I’m checking in for the night. I have space under a soft fluffy blanket for any worries that need minding tonight. It’s my “comfort blanket “ but there is enough of it to go round and I can hide several worries under here.

WTCT · 21/12/2019 18:54

I saw this the other night. I had no huge worries of my own (a rare event in recent times), but was just snoozing off so couldn’t take care of anyone else’s worries.

I will keep checking back though, ready to look after someone else’s worries.

A beautiful thread.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 21/12/2019 18:42

Fliggle I had a lovely sleep. No dreams that made me sit straight up with shaking and pounding heart. Thank you.

Today I'm finishing my wrapping and watching my first Christmas film. I will be sitting at the dining table, five extra comfy seats, so send your worries over here. I will make them mind their manners, and threaten to tape their mouths if they pipe up too often.

FinallyHere · 21/12/2019 16:40

Hello lovely MN HQ and seasons greetings.

I've asked and had no objections, would like to nominate this thread for classics.

Thank you kindly xx

FinallyHere · 21/12/2019 16:39

This thread has been a highlight of the season for me. I've not see any objections, so will nominate it for classics.

Shall report my next post.

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