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To Have Murderous Thoughts About Colleague?

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Mansplanation · 08/08/2018 20:34

I’m leaving my job and my replacement was hired, so I’m handing over.

Today he’s been reviewing my work over the last few months to get familiar with the accounts and when I asked how he was getting on, his reply was ‘it’s all quite good actually! I’m really surprised!’ Hmm

Later in the day, he commented that ‘you’re actually quite good at your job aren’t you?’

Then ‘well done, this looks like you planned it this way’

He also proceeded to explain my job to me in great detail. Over. And over. And over again. All the while, asking very very basic questions and eventually I said ‘yep, that’s very standard, have you not seen that before?’ To call him out on it and he replied ‘yeah I have, I just wanted to see if you knew why it’s done that way’

I DID FUCKING PLAN IT THAT WAY, IM VERY GOOD AT MY JOB AND YOU ARE REPLACING ME BECAUSE IM MOVING TO A MUCH, MUCH MORE SENIOR ROLE YOU INTOLLERABLE, MANSPLAINING SHART GOBLIN Angry

Somebody PLEASE lend me their willpower because I’m one ‘well done’ away from stapling a gold star to his fucking forehead.

I need to bite my tongue so I can leave and get to my new job but I’m really bloody struggling Sad

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SilverHairedCat · 13/08/2018 15:59

@purits good point, I hadn't considered that.

Chrys71 · 13/08/2018 15:49

He fancies you. Simple's. Halo

TinyTickler · 13/08/2018 15:24

I mean he's committed fraud. So yeah, police.

BrynhildurWhitemane · 13/08/2018 13:46

Hope the MD is sensible enough to take it to the police. Poor you and your manager, OP.

alphasox · 13/08/2018 13:36

Wow. Did not see it taking that sort of nasty turn! Was enjoying it til now but he’s a real piece of work! Oh my goodness.

Lottapianos · 13/08/2018 12:51

Oh my gosh OP, that's horrendous. He sounds totally deranged!

Well done on saving and printing that email. Poor you and your poor manager too

VforVienetta · 13/08/2018 12:37

Bloody hell, this has all escalated rather unexpectedly.
Thank goodness you have proof of your IT request.

Side note; no idea why Winnie’s post was deleted, i didn’t report it, but assumptions about sarcasm are daft. It was just a four word post.
Paraphrasing a PP, a duck is a duck, an autistic duck is still primarily a duck. And now it turns out it’s a criminally arseholey duck.

purits · 13/08/2018 12:19

Sounds like the external IT company will be for the high jump, not you. Also, they will have insurance for this kind of thing.

I think that the external IT can argue a case against a company that issues access to employees before they have done proper due diligence.

SilverHairedCat · 13/08/2018 11:21

Liability will be a big fat "it depends". The reality is, it's a criminal act, therefore the chances of the money being recovered from him are slim to none.

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Mansplanation · 13/08/2018 11:14

Nightmare.

He’s personally liable surely?

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IncrediblySturdyPyjamas · 13/08/2018 10:44

To be fair, even if the OP had sent the email to suspend access BEFORE he was sacked, the IT agency would still have sent the same reply. So everybody would think it had been done when it hadn't. The outcome would have been the same.

No, you wait until it has been suspended, not until an email has been sent.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/08/2018 10:38

To be fair, even if the OP had sent the email to suspend access BEFORE he was sacked, the IT agency would still have sent the same reply. So everybody would think it had been done when it hadn't. The outcome would have been the same.

What an arse. He's put so many jobs and livelihoods at risk, any one of the companies could potentially have severe financial difficulty as a result of this, suppliers, clients, IT agency and your company.

SilverHairedCat · 13/08/2018 10:35

Sounds like the external IT company will be for the high jump, not you. Also, they will have insurance for this kind of thing.

This should not be your problem to fix.

IncrediblySturdyPyjamas · 13/08/2018 10:33

This is why you suspect any access BEFORE you tell them.

And why people are escorted out of buildings, and keys put on the desk before the meeting.

If I ever leave roles that need keys, I always give them in with my notice, as I would never want to be accused of anything untoward.

There are some very odd people out there, walking the streets, pretending to be totally fine.

buckingfrolicks · 13/08/2018 10:30

Your company prof indemnity insurance may kick in ?

Your org must have his address. Surely he wouldn't be this stupid? Omg the vanity of some men.

If anyone it'll be your poor manager who takes the rap for this. What a week she has ahead of her.

CholloDeNombre · 13/08/2018 10:21

He ran his own business into the ground, didn't he? The one thing he's good at....

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Mansplanation · 13/08/2018 10:20

The suppliers I’m talking about are automated, hard to explain without giving the industry away but essentially, you add budget to the platforms and it’s spent automatically. The money is gone. My last hope is we can get a refund but fuck knows.

We use an external IT company to manage our accesses etc, I have an email response to my email assuring me they were on it and it would be done ‘right away’. I’ve printed it, saved it to a USB and my manager is CC’d on the original email too.

There’s lots of meeting room action, I’m guessing it’s going to be a long day Sad

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Talcott2007 · 13/08/2018 10:18

He did what?!?!? OMG that's insane - deliberate and utterly malicious - This has to be taken to the Police surely!? If the fall out from this is going to roll down to anyone with will be whoever didn't do their job in IT!

drspouse · 13/08/2018 10:12

Oh my. At least if the authorisation was over the weekend hopefully the suppliers won't have done anything yet.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/08/2018 10:12

I'm guessing that he's not going to be suing you for unfair dismissal then.

VelociraptorRex · 13/08/2018 10:11

^ what @Yumyumpigs said - get digital and hard copies of your emails about this, the shit shouldn't land on you but it does tend to roll downhill.

Yumyumpigs · 13/08/2018 10:09

Fuck sake. He's the knob that keeps giving isn't he. Totally call the police.

I'd also copy your request to IT to HR. That's gross negligence

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 13/08/2018 10:08

I hope there is someone physically standing in the IT dept and not leaving until his access has been revoked.

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Mansplanation · 13/08/2018 10:06

So far manager has said ‘bollocks’ a lot and a few other choice variations.

We’re utterly fucked. Utterly, completely and royally fucked.

Contacting suppliers now to inform them the spend was unauthorised and to tell them not to bill the client until we’ve investigated. It’s been swept well out of my hands and gone up the chain of command like a rocket. I’m not even sure my manager will have a say in what happens next, it had landed with the M.D. by 9am.

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VelociraptorRex · 13/08/2018 10:05

WOW. That's taking it to a whole new unbelievable level! As others have said that's got to be illegal, you've notified IT and HR are aware he's left so it's not your fault, think some heads might be rolling in IT though!