To Have Murderous Thoughts About Colleague?

You have the patience of a saint. I would have snapped quite sharply at him by now and then felt guilty about it.

Doubt he would have the insight to recognise his weaknesses and leave. And he might get away with it for a few years for being a man and blaming it on you.

I admire your restrained approach, and would keep it ‘professional mentor’. If you have a stake in company relationships though, and have serious reservations about his ‘embellished’ credentials, and he doesn’t improve his attitude, I think you have to share it. Would they really delay your move?

Aha so he’s doing you & thefirm a BIG FAVOR by ‘taking’ this job? He’s had his own business & worked for bigger.

The big I AM
Will you not bow to his brilliance?

Seems a step back for him so?

Is he David Brent?

I vote for printing out that handy mansplaining flowchart, laminating it and pinning it up at your desk. Then next time he mansplains at you, just say 'Sorry, Mansplainer, I have to stop you there.' and then point at the flowchart and nod sagely. Then move on as if nothing happened.

Is he younger than you? From what you say, I'm beginning to think he may just be inexperienced and nervous about being able to step up into your role. Or he could just be a shart goblin.

Either way, keep interrupting him and redirecting him back to topic. Don't just sit there and listen while he mansplains on and on. You'll be doing every woman in the office (and possibly the world) a favour if you nip his attitude in the bud.

If he asks basic questions again and then makes out he was doing it to test your knowledge, I would seriously not stand for that. I would look him in the eye and say "you're not here to test my knowledge about this job, you're here to learn and ensure there is a smooth handover. Please stop wasting both of our time." Insufferable.

Just focus on the fact you are leaving. Your colleagues are going to be stuck with him.

He sounds like a bullshitter. Interviewed well but is not up to the job. So he is all bluster and patronising because he is trying to look like he knows what he is doing. He is planting seeds for when it goes wrong, sort out the accounts indeed. You need to protect your reputation though. If it all goes to shit when you leave he will be pointing to you, your fault.

Next time he does it, ask him if he's heard of 'mansplaining'.

Because of course he has, he's heard of everything - and he will proceed to mansplain mansplaining to you.

What A Twunt.

There are some very amusing suggestions 😂 & some very good (serious) suggestions about how to deal with fuckwits like this!

HOWEVER, your one and only mission here is to get the hell out of Dodge ASAP.

Don’t do, or say, a single thing that will make him have second thoughts about the job and don’t say anything more to management - they’ve been told, but are choosing not to hear you, their problem.

Do NOT risk being stuck there until December! It’s not worth it. Be right or be free...your choice!

Me too

Not placemarking at all.

You can bite your tongue to him, but I would be absolutely flagging this to your boss without using the word mansplaining. I'd say he seems to think very basic pieces of accounting need to be explained to you, which suggests he doesn't have a concrete understanding himself. And that he has a rather patronising way of talking to women, so to keep him well away from female clients, or train him in not being a dickhead.

You know he’s planning on rubbishing your rep the exact minute you leave, right? Is there a way to snapshot the system (and back it up) as it was on your last day, so any (inevitable) fuckups aren’t blamed on you? I bet he’s already identified areas of ‘low hanging fruit’ to be impressive about.

Personally I’d start a book of Shart Goblin Bingo for your colleagues to play after you leave. Extra points every time he says or implies it’s your fault he couldn’t/didn’t do something he should have. Or set up a colleague who knows you well to say ‘Oh that’s easily sorted, I’ll ring Mansplanation and ask her, shall I? Better to be sure.’ every time SG tries it on with the bosses.

Christ imagine any poor woman who's ever been in a relationship with him. Misogynistic prick.

I had a very similar scenario once - drove me bonkers! After a couple of days I sat the guy down made a list of what else he wanted and finished it off pretty quickly. I then said, "The best to learn and be really sure you've got it is to do the job - so you sit there and do it and I'll sit here with my headphones on. Give me a nudge if you need me".

Shart.

Goblin.

Okay so you win Mumsnet today

I think hes trying to impress you with his basic knowledge and understanding but failing miserably of course

Love 'shart goblin' and 'correctile dysfunction'

What a stupid little prat he sounds, OP

It may be worth a serious conversation with him saying that if he carries on like this he is going to annoy a LOT of people and that for his own sake he needs to pack it in immediately.

You have to pull him up on this. He sounds insufferable.

My boss (who I actually really like) does this sometimes and genuinely acts all happy and surprised when I get positive feedback or do something well. I'm like yep, it's my JOB.

He is definitely a shart goblin.

Is he short?

There must be some reason he is desperate to be constantly putting you down.

I think either look confused each time he says something ridiculous to you and either ask him to explain, or praise him yourself, ensuring he knows you know.

“The basics? Why would you think I would need those explained to me?”

“No need to compliment me about my work, I’m just impressed you’re able to keep up with me!”

“You’re trying really hard for someone in their first week in a new job. Remember I’m at the end of the phone if you need me.”

“Yeah I am doing pretty well for myself at 27, but you mustn’t let other people’s success get you down - you’re doing well too - some people are late bloomers!”