I wasn't sure about opening this thread, but I saw it mentioned on a few others saying how good it was so I built up my courage and opened it
You see, I will be going through this again very shortly
It's actually been really reassuring and the opposite of how I expected it to feel, I am going to imagine you being the one to be there with my loved one, and that you were there in the past when I've gone through this. That you were there treating them with respect, referring to them by their name not a number, talking to them
A few years back I saw a hospital programme (don't normally watch them so may have been a news segment) about what happens when a patient dies in hospital, I had recently said goodbye to a loved one and went to switch it off but I felt compelled to watch. A porter new to the hospital referred to the body and a member of the team kindly corrected him and said he is still our patient. She looked at his folder and said this is Mr Smith (made up name as can't remember) so you can say the patient or you can say Mr Smith. Then they went through other processes and they were just so respectful of the deceased that it comforted me
This thread reminds me of that, and again has come at a time when it is of most use. I have felt more at ease with the hospital side of things since seeing that, and will now feel more at ease with the crem side of things