Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Mumsnet classics

Relive the funniest, most unforgettable threads. For a daily dose of Mumsnet’s best bits, sign up for Mumsnet's daily newsletter.

See all MNHQ comments on this thread

Original poster

Crematorium Technician here

686 replies

CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 13:11

I see lots of threads about cremations and Crematoria. I'm currently a crem tech so please ask me questions and I will endeavor to answer them.

OP posts:
Thread gallery
5
FoxtrotSkarloey · 01/06/2018 00:04

This reply has been withdrawn

This has been withdrawn by MNHQ.

oohnarna · 01/06/2018 00:03

I love my job. Like you, it certainly makes you appreciate life.

Original poster
CodLiverOil556 · 01/06/2018 00:01

@oohnarna we have hour slots so doesn't really happen...at busier Crematoria though yes this causes havoc! Every crem has a minister/celebrant that makes us roll our eyes!

I admire the work that you guys do though and always make sure I let my fds know this.

OP posts:
oohnarna · 31/05/2018 23:59

I haven't read it all to be honest, what I have reads okay though!

I bet us FDs cause you havoc sometimes not to mention the celebrants that decide to over run and then delay all the other funerals !

Original poster
CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 23:58

@Bobbiepin yep, I used to be terrified of death but now I see it as something that has to happen.

OP posts:
Bobbiepin · 31/05/2018 23:56

@ilovekermit oh dear, well done DS. He's not wrong though.

Do you think the job had changed your thoughts on your own mortality? Like, do you view your own death differently compared to before you started the job?

Original poster
CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 23:55

@oohnarna hiya...hope I haven't answered any question incorrectly for the funeral side

OP posts:
oohnarna · 31/05/2018 23:54

Just saying hi - Funeral Director here Grin

Original poster
CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 23:53

@Bobbiepin my children know what I do and I'm very keen for them to use the correct terminology. So when my DS went to school and announced that mummy burns people they weren't impressed!

OP posts:
Original poster
CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 23:51

@OurMiracle1106 speak to the hospital or funeral director that helped you through.

OP posts:
Bobbiepin · 31/05/2018 23:46

What do your kids think of your job?

OurMiracle1106 · 31/05/2018 23:44

How would I find out what crem dealt with my babies? Would it be the closest one to the hospital and would each individual be given a unique reference number to trace them by?

Original poster
CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 23:42

@OurMiracle1106 some are given names but these tend to be further on. We are doing a 21 week NVF and he has a name but less than 10 weeks tend just to have baby

OP posts:
Original poster
CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 23:40

@bowtieandheels I don't believe there's any research just what I've experienced and can certainly tell by what bits are left and they tend to be tumors. It would probably make a very interesting study

OP posts:
OurMiracle1106 · 31/05/2018 23:35

You might not know the answer but with non viable fetuses from hospitals are these given any kind of name or just baby mums surname?

bowtieandheels · 31/05/2018 23:33

Hi. You say cancer tumours make a cremation last longer. I can't find any research but it seems incredibly interesting and important to understand why or how this happens. Is this anecdotal or is there more research somewhere?

Original poster
CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 23:04

@therockinggazelle you're absolutely right I don't have any contact with the deceased other than moving the coffin around and charging the cremator.

The funeral director deals with them although I have dealt with open casket funerals but the lid is sealed before committal into the crematory.

OP posts:
therockinggazelle · 31/05/2018 22:58

Fascinating thread thank you!

Would I be right in saying you don't have much direct contact with the deceased? In other words they come in in a sealed coffin from the funeral directors and go straight into the crem? Or are there times you do have to deal with the deceased ( maybe put them in coffin/ dress them) if no funeral director is used? I guess I'm wondering if you see some distressing sights, children/ bad accidents etc. Hope that's not too crass

Weaverspin · 31/05/2018 22:56

@DinosApple - when I visited a crematorium behind the scenes I asked the same question, and was told that yes, I could have the cremated remains back without them going through the cremulator to grind them down. I don't know if every crematorium would agree to it, though.

FlibbertyGiblets · 31/05/2018 22:48

Kermit thank you. You have demystified the process so sensitively.

Original poster
CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 22:47

@DailyMailDontStealMyThread between 16-17k

OP posts:
donaldtwerp · 31/05/2018 22:45

Marking place for later

DinosApple · 31/05/2018 22:44

Thanks Kermit.

I was going to ask the same as Panda about having the cremated bones returned without them being ground to ash.

I've handled ancient skeletal and cremated bone fragments and personally I take comfort that something of the person survives.

MrsMozart · 31/05/2018 22:43

Thank you so much Kermit.

I've just read the whole thread. Your kind answers have allayed a number of things I hadn't even realised I hadn't reconciled in my own head.

DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 31/05/2018 22:41

So interesting, can I ask how much you would earn as a new starter full time please?

Swipe left for the next trending thread