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Crematorium Technician here

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CodLiverOil556 · 31/05/2018 13:11

I see lots of threads about cremations and Crematoria. I'm currently a crem tech so please ask me questions and I will endeavor to answer them.

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CodLiverOil556 · 01/06/2018 17:03

@Jenasaurus I believe you would be buried intact but after cremation yes it would be removed and either recycled or returned to your family.

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CodLiverOil556 · 01/06/2018 17:02

@catinboots9 I know age/name/ashes instructions and date of death. That's all I need to know however I also work in the office so know cause of death.

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CodLiverOil556 · 01/06/2018 16:59

@ciderhouserules we don't reuse heat but I've always thought it's a fabulous idea as the heat is wasted.

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CodLiverOil556 · 01/06/2018 16:58

@Puzzledandpissedoff I've never known slots to be held and normally the religion that this applies to are buried anyway. I have known a grave to be dug on a Saturday ready for Sunday.

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CodLiverOil556 · 01/06/2018 16:57

@Pebbles789 we put ashes in a suitable container to be either collected by family or funeral director. We can put them in an urn or casket if asked to.

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UpstartCrow · 01/06/2018 16:55

@ILoveKermit Your thread has been interesting and informative, thanks for posting.

ChimpyChops · 01/06/2018 16:38

What an interesting thread, thankyou Kermit. I work in end of life care and it fascinates me what happens after they leave us. The undertakers I have dealt with have always been very respectful when coming to collect a person, they speak to them with their proper names and so gently.

We have a chance to go and have a tour of a local funeral parlour and I am going to see if we can also set up a tour or certainly a talk at the local crematorium too.

Zaphodsotherhead · 01/06/2018 16:01

Thank you catinboots. I'm fine, really.

Firstdatesfear · 01/06/2018 15:49

Wow, what a thread!

When my Grandma was cremated last year, we put the ashes of her dead cat in with her, it it’s little coffin as she was an ancient Egypt fan so it seemed a little fitting. They took them without a problem.

Mibby16 · 01/06/2018 15:45

Thank you ILoveKermit

Have requested this is moved to Classics :)

kateandme · 01/06/2018 15:15

have you ever had anyone try to stop a relative being cremated.or break ins.
do you do animals?

makingmiracles · 01/06/2018 14:44

Why does the smoke come out of the chimney black?

When I lost my best friend a couple of years ago, when we stepped outside the chapel bit, about 10mins later black smoke was coming out of the chimney, was quite horrible tbh

catinboots9 · 01/06/2018 14:42

@Zaphodsotherhead I'm so sorry for your losses ThanksThanksThanks

Zaphodsotherhead · 01/06/2018 14:15

Having had my mum, dad and beloved dog cremated fairly recently, I am sobbing like a baby (but in a good way) at this thread. I don't even know why!

Thank you so much, OP.

HoppingPavlova · 01/06/2018 13:20

Brilliant thread.

Thank you so much for doing the job that you do and in such a dignified and respectful manner. The world needs more people like you Flowers.

SofieMonde · 01/06/2018 12:38

Has any relative ever requested to press the charge button on the cremator?

SofieMonde · 01/06/2018 12:35

Why would a relative want to keep one body part, a bit grim, and which body part would it be? Where would they keep it??

piefacedClique · 01/06/2018 12:27

It’s good know it’s fine in a more dignified manner here. Thank you Kermit. I stumbled upon the American video posted upthread and found it very upsetting after an aunt died. I had so many questions and that video was very disturbing. I personally like the idea of a liquid cremation, mushroom suit or one of the tree pod burials. You are doing a great job Kermit.

Oogle · 01/06/2018 12:19

This thread is wonderful, I really hope it can go into classics.

I'm quite an emotional, sappy person but I'd love to work for a funeral director or at the crematorium, I don't know why. I just like the idea of being able to offer comfort to those in sad times.

The funeral director who dealt with my Grandads funeral was wonderful. I saw my Grandad before my Nan and I noticed his hair was combed into the wrong style. I told the FD and he came in, and quietly spoke to my Grandad "Right now Sir, you need to be looking your best for your wife, let me sort your hair out, I'm so sorry I didn't get it right first time". I loved that, he was so respectful.

CookPassBabtridge · 01/06/2018 12:11

Thankyou Kermit, it's been a great read. Half of me is so reassured and glad that the process in the UK is so clean and efficient, and half it leaves me feeling cold that its like that! I suppose part of me wants viking boat funeral pyres or burying loved ones in the ground in a shroud and wrapping leaves and flowers all over them Grin More naturey burials/cremations that make us connect more with death. But just wouldn't be possible in this country!

sherrifffatman · 01/06/2018 11:57

Thank you so much for this thread, I'm collecting my DPs ashes in a few days and this has been really helpful x

OhMyGodTheyKilledKenny · 01/06/2018 11:55

What an interesting, reassuring and lovely thread.

I have every admiration for you Kermit and anyone else who works in the "death industry". I think it's a certain person that finds its their calling IYSWIM.

There's a local female funeral director in my home town that is so highly regarded and respected by anyone who has dealt with her. It's so important to have people like her (and you Kermit) at such a difficult time for families.

NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 01/06/2018 11:55

Was just wondering what metal the coffin is placed on as it's skipped in? As in, what material goes inside the cremator that doesn't melt at that high temperature?

Jenasaurus · 01/06/2018 11:48

I have a titanium bar in my leg from my knee to my ankle, do you know if I get buried it will remain intact whereas if I get cremated it will get removed?

Geordiegirl1988 · 01/06/2018 11:37

There is an excellent documentey on you tube called " gods waiting room" and it's about a Muslim funeral directors. It is very informative and shows how they wash and prepare the bodies and try to bury the deceased as quickly as possible due to their beliefs and faith. I highly recommend you watch it