AIBU to ask you all for your most PFB moments?

And and and the only music allowed was Beethoven or Mozart. Yup. I wins the prize.

Oh I've just remembered one. I bought an abacus for Dd when she was three months old.

It was never ever ever used by Dd. I think she was just an immature baby.. sigh.

My Mum came to help out after dd1 arrived by emcs. After I fed dd, she would offer to take her for a walk so I could get some sleep. One day I burst into tears because I didn't want my baby to be so far away from me, even though I'd be asleep ! Bless my Mum, she sat in a chair in the bedroom with dd asleep on her chest, while I slept!

DD was in a "next to me" by the bed, although with the sides up. I made DP sleep with the light on and set my alarm to go off every hour so that I could check she was ok.

The little sod didn't appreciate this at all, and showed her disgust by refusing to sleep in the "next to me" and screaming every time I got into bed. It was only when she was about 3 months old that we bought a sleepyhead and finally got a few hours of rest.

Still slept with the light on and set my alarm to check on her every 2 hours for another couple of months though. If we ever have another, he/she can go in with DD, and she can check on them

There's a brilliant picture of me holding my precious first born in my nans garden on a lovely June day ..... He's wearing a snow suit.

My PFB is not yet three months, so I'll probably do a lot more I future...

I sat in the back for the first few weeks (now I have mirror so I can see her in my car, I sit in the front in DH's car but I do stress if she's quiet).

I frequently check her breathing when she's asleep. this thread reassures me I'm not alone!

The first time I tried to sit in the front she was about a week old and I couldn't cope, I climbed into the back while we were in slow moving traffic!!

I had PND and didn't feel like I bonded at all but i did have the perfect baby delusion! I genuinely genuinely thought he was more beautiful than anybody else's child. I look back at pictures and he was a perfectly normal baby - lovely as they all are!

I think my only truly pfb moments came in those first few weeks when I felt like no other parent could possibly think their baby as perfect and be so consumed by love as I was. I soon got a grip and realised it was perfectly normal though!

This was me too! I remember feeling so sorry for the other women in the room with me because their babies weren't as good looking as mine .

I didn't want pfb to have chocolate as it gives me migraines and I didn't want to risk it with him.

If it's just me and DS in the car he's in the back on his own and he's absolutely fine so it's extra bonkers that one of us sits in the back where possible I suppose.

I guess I just think DS deserves the company!

Until quite recently his car seat was in the front passenger seat which was nice and companionable.

I think I must be quite neglectful looking at some of these

Dd is 9 months. She has sugar, inc cake, chocolate and jam on toast. She only doesn't get pouches and jars because she won't eat them. She has loads of cheese. I never really wash her hands during the day as she gets them filthy 10 seconds later. I never put her in matching outfits. I don't care if people wearing perfume hold her. Wipes from day 1. I don't sterilise her bottles anymore and I don't think I wash any of her plastic toys ever

I do however sit in the back of the car with her. To a pp who asked if that means I only ever use the car with DH, the answer is yes because I can't drive . Live in London so mainly use public transport anyway.

I also hated when DD smelled of perfume, I think I'm allergic to an ingredient in a lot of perfumes as being around certain people makes me feel sick when they wear lots of perfume.

I remember another from me. When DD was about 6 eeeks old I had her picture put on a canvas for DH's birthday. It was a local company who did it and they put it on their FB page.

I remember feeling very put out that random Facebookers didn't comment on how gorgeous the baby in the pictures was. I genuinely thought they'd be inundated with comments

With dd1 my sister was holding her and she did a poo so my sister took her to change her. I cried because I felt like this meant I was incapable of looking after my own baby. (This was baby blues rather than pub though)

I also shouted at my dad for turning off his bathroom radiator (in July) because "I have a 5 week old baby here and she's going to catch a chill when I bath her".

Sally your baby smelling of someone else's perfume is horrid. I don't think that's particularly pfb. I still hate it with my 3rd!

I worried endlessly about DD bath being too hot, as she'd always cry in the bath. Eventually bought a bath thermometer and turned out she was crying as bath was cold!

Aldrin sure clean clothes are a fairly normal thing for parents... I'd be more worried about parents who left them in the same vests for days

I kept a diary of every nap, bowel movement, bottle feed and general mood for four months. DC2 did not get this.

Also had professional photos of DC1 aged 7 weeks. DC2 is nearly 2 and never had this.

DC1 had DoB and weight etc on a cushion and phot frame stitch thing. DC2 has never had that.

DC1 had a visit to the GP every month for the first year for the slightest thing. DC2 had a first visit aged 14 months and only cos she had a temp of 40 for three days.

But DC1 did have baths everyday from being a week old and suffered with eczema so DC2 was NOT bathed until 8 weeks.

DC2 also had cotton bud bum wipes and no wet wipes for the first 2 months but was prem sonthought she would feel the cold more.

I still sit in the back with DS and he's two.

One memorable Christmas my parents, grandparents, myself, our then 8yo, our toddler, aunt and uncle, DH, DBIL, DSis and myself had to sit in a pitch-black sitting room, tv off because her PFB "liked company when asleep".

It all went wrong when my aunt, granny and I kept laughing at the ridiculous situation. I love my DSis, she has several kids now and they sleep in beds in bedrooms.

DD was about 18 months and got her nail caught in an un covered stair grip, it made a teeny groove in her nail and ever such slight amount of blood was drawn.

I was in tears to docs, got emergency appointment and when we got there the very kind doc - said she didn't even have a plaster that small. i was worried she may need tetanus or something.

I've had many pfb moments myself but one that springs to mind is actually of dm - when I was 16 I went to Glastonbury fest and it rained constantly so my mum slept with all her windows open because she wanted to feel as cold and miserable I was feeling 😂

With my pfb; whenever I took him out in the pram, I would stare adoring at him the whole time & I remember thinking what monsters the other mums I saw were, because sometimes they weren't even looking at their baby. With dc3; if I remembered to get his carrycot off the kitchen table & actually put it on the pram before I went out of the door, I considered it a good day!

This thread is funny!

With DS1 we used warm water and cotton wool every time we changed his nappy for weeks (why?!). DS2 it lasted about 3 days before we started using wet wipes (warmed in our hands). DS3 had cold wipes slapped on him from his first nappy change

Kind of sums up my parenting attitude towards them ever since. DS3 is the most laid back and self-sufficient.....!

I was worried that to the outside world we would appear desperately pfb- we removed the door knocker when I went into labour and didn't put it back up until DS was over a week old.

However, this was in fact due to us having the front of the house painted on the weekend that I went into labour and then being too preoccupied with the new baby to bother sorting it out for a few days. It did give me a laugh at the time when I wondered what our friends and neighbours must have been thinking of us.

I think my only truly pfb moments came in those first few weeks when I felt like no other parent could possibly think their baby as perfect and be so consumed by love as I was. I soon got a grip and realised it was perfectly normal though!

Just thought of another - I bought a plastic toy for DS when he was about 8 weeks old and thought it would be good to put it in the steriliser before giving it to him. It promptly melted.

That should say DH is proud of his outfit choice (sometimes quite odd), DS couldn't give a crap what he wears as long as he can suck the cuffs.

This thread has made me feel pretty good about my PFBness, I must say. The layers thing is just so bonkers, it's lovely!

DS is 5mths old so still doing a few barmy things:

• Can't help laying a hand on his chest regularly overnight (not setting an alarm but waking just enough to do it) to make sure he's breathing.

• I use special flannels (made for us by lovely friend) with tepid water rather than cold wetwipes (definitely very PFB!) unless we're out, in which case I warm them in my hands.

• Only use organic baby products or coconut oil in his skin.

• Not keen on strangers swooping into the pram without asking to stroke his face, but I cope.

• I hate him smelling of perfume - nothing to do with baby smell but more to do with him smelling of someone else (MiL for example) as nothing I wear is strongly scented.

• I've been known to change him if I don't like something he's wearing, unless DS is proud of his outfit choice in which case I tolerate it.

• He will only have organic food while we do BLW because that's what we have and there will be no crap eaten by him even when we have treats (junk, chocolate, whatever).

• I get extremely agitated by smokers whether I'm walking past / through clouds of smoke at the bus stop or someone hasn't washed hands before touching him - I think this is normal though.

Reading all that back, I'm quite a lot more PFB than I had thought...