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I slept with my best friend last night

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AVirginLitTheCandle · 25/10/2016 17:45

and now I have no idea what to do Blush

We haven't spoke to each other since last night as we've both been working today but I'm not sure if I should contact him first or should I wait for him to contact me?

I don't know what he thinks about it and whether he thinks it meant something or it was just a casual one night stand. I'm not even sure I know tbh Blush

Should I mention this to him or just forget it ever happened and continue on as normal?

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LIttleTripToHeaven · 25/10/2016 18:34

Don't play, don't text him, let him chase you games. Presumably you're both adults.

If it were me, I think I'd text something like, "Hey you. So... didn't see that one coming. Probably need to clear the air about it. or something. You up for a drink/chat later?"

Because, unless he's a complete dick, he'll be having similar thoughts to you. He'll be wondering how to broach it with you and whether you're regretting it etc.

That's what I'd do.

Disclaimer: but I am single and shit at relationships so you might not want to listen to me...

Mrsmadevans · 25/10/2016 18:33

Tell him the truth don't hide it I think he may feel the same and if he doesnt you surely cannot stay friends now ? AWKS!

ImperialBlether · 25/10/2016 18:33

Yes, send him a text - "Round or square?" and when he says, "What?" say "The wedding cake, of course!"

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 25/10/2016 18:30

Being best friends is the best basis for a relationship. It could be awkward if you don't want that though?

Whoever said "So the spark was there?" is a comic genius Grin.

purplefox · 25/10/2016 18:28

Was alcohol involved?

Pisssssedofff · 25/10/2016 18:26

Don't text him. Let him chase you

ChampagneTastes · 25/10/2016 18:26

Definitely do what Imperial suggests. Or do like Rachel in Friends: invite him round then open the door wearing a wedding dress. Grin

SheWhoDaresGins2 · 25/10/2016 18:25

Oh I love a tummy tingle.

IsItMeOr · 25/10/2016 18:22

Imperial that's not helpful. Very funny though Grin.

IsItMeOr · 25/10/2016 18:21

When Harry Met Sally is one of my favourite films

If he really is your best friend, then probably worth being honest about how you feel. And whether you still want to be best friends even if he doesn't feel the same way. Yes, it's awkward, but the potential gain is definitely worth it.

ImperialBlether · 25/10/2016 18:20

I would be tempted to text him: "Does this mean we're engaged?" then sit back and wait for his reaction. Grin

legotits · 25/10/2016 18:18

Bravo Toffee Grin

SpermThroughASashWindow · 25/10/2016 18:16

Do you get a wee tummy tingle when you think of it?

SheWhoDaresGins2 · 25/10/2016 18:14

toffee Grin

Macauley · 25/10/2016 18:09

I did that ended up married to him Blush best thing is to be honest about feelings.

toffeeboffin · 25/10/2016 18:07

So the spark was there?

Sorry.

SheWhoDaresGins2 · 25/10/2016 18:05

Ask him how he feels then take it from there. He might feel the same.

NorbertDentressangle · 25/10/2016 17:57

What led up to it? A fun night out, lots of laughter and chatting? Or was it an out of the blue fall into each others arms moment?

Milklollies · 25/10/2016 17:57

It's not such a big deal OP. I think it's important not to put too much expectations on it as you already have strong feelings for this person. Let him breathe.

ShowMeTheElf · 25/10/2016 17:56

I married my best friend, after knowing him for nearly 30 years, us both marrying other people and divorcing before we even knew we saw each other that way.

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AVirginLitTheCandle · 25/10/2016 17:55

I just feel odd now.

I have never slept with someone who I wasn't in a relationship with already and now I'm just sat here thinking wtf.

I wonder if he's feeling awkward today or if it's just me...

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AVirginLitTheCandle · 25/10/2016 17:52

It meant something to me, yes...but if he doesn't feel the same way then I will just have to pretend that it didn't Blush

We're both single.

I might just text him later if he doesn't text me first.

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MargotsDevil · 25/10/2016 17:51

I did that. 4 years later and I can safely say it's the best mistake I ever made Smile it was awkward initially (for the first 24 hours or so) but then it became obvious that we'd both been waiting for it to happen. My only regret is that it took more than 10 years for us to get that far; we have certainly made up for lost time since.

Not much practical advice I know; but just wanted to reassure you that if it IS what you want then it can work out. Just time to be honest. Good luck!

legotits · 25/10/2016 17:50

Depends if he was any good or not and do you want an encore?

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AVirginLitTheCandle · 25/10/2016 17:50

Unfortunately not Fuzzy Wink

He's an electrician and still makes decent money though...

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